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To find this insensitive in a COL crisis?

148 replies

ToTheMax0 · 09/07/2023 21:32

Someone I know on a 3 week holiday in America. Posting up to five updates a day on different outings, how much she has spent etc. Been going on about the holiday for months.
Aibu to think this is quite insensitive given that most people are struggling right now ?

OP posts:
SemperIdem · 09/07/2023 21:33

People are still allowed to enjoy life.

Saywhatevernow · 09/07/2023 21:33

Most people are not struggling. Good for them.

vodkaredbullgirl · 09/07/2023 21:34

Maybe they have saved for years.

Whadda · 09/07/2023 21:34

Her having a shit holiday or none at at all isn’t going to benefit those who are feeling the pinch.

ArcticSkewer · 09/07/2023 21:34

Try harder

EasterBreak · 09/07/2023 21:35

Ummm no, yabu

PinkyFlamingo · 09/07/2023 21:35

There will always be someonee better off than you, so if you can afford a big holiday and want to post about it why not?

Bootsandbooks · 09/07/2023 21:35

You are being Uber jealous and unreasonable.

Hugasauras · 09/07/2023 21:35

It's a bit weird/braggy to give daily updates on how much you've spent on holiday. I've never know anyone to do that! Just general updates and pics of holiday I don't see the problem. But the spending thing is weird.

Belle96 · 09/07/2023 21:35

No, they've saved for it or can bloody afford it.
What's your problem? You can't do the same???
Yes COL is awful, I'm part of the trying to either feed my kids or give them a day out but I don't bloody judge the ones who can do what they want!
Get off social media so you don't have to watch it

seennothinglikeit · 09/07/2023 21:35

Yes that would annoy me, just no need for smugness and bragging, which seems the norm these days.

Maybe one or two nice photos posted for family to see but the rest is just self entitled.

Id love to be a social media psychologist...

Floralnomad · 09/07/2023 21:36

YABU

CamCola · 09/07/2023 21:36

Ffs no it’s not insensitive.
Jusy because some people out there are struggling it doesn’t mean everyone else has to pretend they are on the breadline too.

GrazingSheep · 09/07/2023 21:37

Stop reading the updates

HurricanesHardlyEverHappen · 09/07/2023 21:37

What! That would be ridiculous. Social media is not just for complaining about how awful your life is.

And loads of people have plenty of money.

Ponoka7 · 09/07/2023 21:38

When I was housebound through severe illness, I loved seeing other people's photos of were they were visiting. Most people will have widows, lone parents, disabled, childless etc people on their SM, that leaves nothing to post about.

DeedlessIndeed · 09/07/2023 21:40

It sounds as if it's touched a nerve. Why don't you just unfollow / hide the feed for a few weeks so you don't have to see it? Can always re-follow in a few weeks once they're back at home.

Ponoka7 · 09/07/2023 21:40

Just to add my DD is saving for a trip to America next year, she's working seven day weeks to pay for it. She works in a low paid role in the NHS, she's lucky to have low housing costs, but she's bloody working hard and doing without other things to afford her holidays.

Chocolatelabradorsarethebest · 09/07/2023 21:40

Some people are struggling, not most. Sick of the constant hyperbole.

SaveMeFromForearms · 09/07/2023 21:40

Don't be daft. Are none of us allowed nice things because some others in the world are finding things a bit tight?

Coffeaddict · 09/07/2023 21:41

I have spent10 years on fuck all salary, living on yellow stickers and beans on toast. Have lost my job and stressed about paying my rent when I could obly find a part time role.

I am now in a financial position where I am OK. I understand others are struggling but when I was flat broke I didn't resent my friends for having a life. YABU

ilovesooty · 09/07/2023 21:42

GrazingSheep · 09/07/2023 21:37

Stop reading the updates

Or un follow or block her.

juice92 · 09/07/2023 21:43

YABU, she is allowed to enjoy her life still. Maybe she has saved for years, maybe she has come into some money, maybe she has gone into debt, it doesn't matter, she should be able to still have a good time. If you don't like seeing the posts unfriend her.

PurpleBananaSmoothie · 09/07/2023 21:43

I think the posting the amount she spends is weird but I’ve seen a few people do this on social media, set themselves a budget to spend and breakdown their spend. I don’t really get it, everyone has a daily budget but nobody needs to share it. Posting 5 times a day would be irritating me, it’s not insensitive but anyone posting about anything 5 times a day is being muted.

Niftyswiftie · 09/07/2023 21:43

I don't think most people are struggling. Nobody I know is.