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To find this insensitive in a COL crisis?

148 replies

ToTheMax0 · 09/07/2023 21:32

Someone I know on a 3 week holiday in America. Posting up to five updates a day on different outings, how much she has spent etc. Been going on about the holiday for months.
Aibu to think this is quite insensitive given that most people are struggling right now ?

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Justcallmebebes · 09/07/2023 22:06

I don't know anyone particularly struggling and I know of no one not taking a holiday this year so yes, you're being unreasonable. Massively

Most people work hard and save for a summer holiday so just because for whatever reason you're not able to do thus, doesn't mean everyone else should suffer

OrwellianTimes · 09/07/2023 22:06

You can unfollow people you don’t like/are jealous of you know.

Theunamedcat · 09/07/2023 22:06

Life doesn't stop for everyone due to your personal circumstances

saltinesandcoffeecups · 09/07/2023 22:09

Is there an acceptable level of sharing?

IHateLegDay · 09/07/2023 22:10

So because some people are struggling, others aren't allowed nice things?

YABVU

Peachy2005 · 09/07/2023 22:12

Unfollow!

Twentypastfour · 09/07/2023 22:13

People who post this much (about anything) annoy me and are very much in the minority anyway.. so many times a day seems unusual.

But as for the COL side of it - I think that’s irrelevant. She’s just broadcasting this to the people who follow her, who can mute if they want.

BoopyLax · 09/07/2023 22:14

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NorthernGirlie · 09/07/2023 22:15

We're going away for 3 weeks - it's shit that I feel bad mentioning it anywhere in case I offend people

We prioritise a big holiday over anything else (after bills) as life is so busy, We're often like ships in the night and it's planned time together

Some people at work have narked at me a bit with the "it must be nice" comments - the 1 that comments most drinks a bottle of wine a night, smokes, get take aways etc which they don't see adds up to probably more than we pay to go away

TiredandLate · 09/07/2023 22:16

I she really posting how much she's spent? Struggling to believe that tbh.

FindingTheFox · 09/07/2023 22:17

Insensitive, no. Twatty to brag about how much she's spending, very.

Hibiscrubbed · 09/07/2023 22:19

People have always and will always struggle. Leave her alone.

ChubbyMorticia · 09/07/2023 22:20

You sound like an ex friend of mine, who demanded I quit posting about my husband, pregnancy and family because she was divorced and unlikely to ever have children. Posting about my life was rubbing her face in it. No, she wasn’t tagged or anything.

Notice she’s an EX friend.

Alwayswonderedwhy · 09/07/2023 22:21

I find it unnecessary for someone to say to say how much they'd spent but I love looking at photos of people's trips.
Not everyone is affected by the COLC. I don't know anyone personally that's changed their lifestyle and even if we'd had to I wouldn't begrudge others enjoying a holiday.

MouseSculptureMadeOfOldHairbrushFluff · 09/07/2023 22:21

I'd wonder about how good a time someone was actually having if they were managing to update their socials fives times a day. Wouldn't care about any perceived boastiness though.

TomatoSandwiches · 09/07/2023 22:21

YABU, can't you just be happy for them?

TeenLifeMum · 09/07/2023 22:22

I love seeing my friends’ holiday pics and get ideas from it. We’re going to Orlando in 3 weeks. You never know what will happen in life and I’m not apologising for going on holiday that we’ve saved for. We’ve been poor and on a tight budget back in 2009-2012 when dc were tiny, I had been made redundant and dh was doing a long commute at the time fuel prices peaked and our mortgage rate was 5.6%. We budgeted well and worked hard. We have less money than 2 years ago but can flex. I have one friend who struggles - I discreetly pay her meal/drinks when we go out etc. but I’m not going to not mention my holiday - she’d hate to feel I couldn’t speak to her about stuff going on in my life.

Ap42 · 09/07/2023 22:24

If there's something I don't want to see I scroll past, or I just snooze that person for a while.
It's hardly insensitive to post about a holiday they have obviously worked hard for. I'm a single parent, about to go on our 3rd holiday out of 4 for this year. Some have been super cheap caravan holidays and another is a holiday abroad Yes there is a col crisis but no one needs to justify how they spend their well earned money.
You don't know the sacrifices that person has made to go away. Just leave them be and go about your day!

Prettybutdumb · 09/07/2023 22:24

Reminds me of my sister texting me yesterday ‘Our niece just got an iPhone 14 for her birthday yesterday!’
‘Oh, that’s nice’
’But my daughters are now upset!!!’

Ok… 🙄

VashtaNerada · 09/07/2023 22:24

I totally understand how you feel OP. I definitely feel jealous of anyone not affected by the cost of living crisis. It’s completely unfair that DH and I work as hard as we do and couldn’t dream of a holiday to America. But the fault lies with the government not the people who have money. Although I try my best to be happy for others I understand how hard you’re finding it. I think all you can do is mute her so the posts don’t bring you down.

Crystals35 · 09/07/2023 22:25

Not everyone is struggling. Plenty of people have enough, and more than enough, money.
It's normal to post holiday photos.

Gwenhwyfar · 09/07/2023 22:25

ilovesooty · 09/07/2023 21:42

Or un follow or block her.

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Unfollow OK. But block? The person hasn't done anything wrong imo.

If I went on a bid holiday and saw interesting things, I'd post about it too.

Deathbyfluffy · 09/07/2023 22:27

YABU. Let people enjoy things, unfollow them if you’re that bothered

Gwenhwyfar · 09/07/2023 22:28

DarkDarkNight · 09/07/2023 22:01

Leaving aside the COL crisis I think it’s a really brash, boastful way to behave and lacks self awareness. I think you can post holiday photos without shoving it down people’s throats.

What do you mean exactly? The OP is complaining about holiday photos.

Gwenhwyfar · 09/07/2023 22:29

MouseSculptureMadeOfOldHairbrushFluff · 09/07/2023 22:21

I'd wonder about how good a time someone was actually having if they were managing to update their socials fives times a day. Wouldn't care about any perceived boastiness though.

I post a lot when I see interesting things so I'd think they were having a very good time!