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To find this insensitive in a COL crisis?

148 replies

ToTheMax0 · 09/07/2023 21:32

Someone I know on a 3 week holiday in America. Posting up to five updates a day on different outings, how much she has spent etc. Been going on about the holiday for months.
Aibu to think this is quite insensitive given that most people are struggling right now ?

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Aqua22a · 09/07/2023 23:05

MrsJBaptiste · 09/07/2023 22:59

😂😂😂

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@MrsJBaptiste why is this so funny to you?

BitOutOfPractice · 09/07/2023 23:06

Talking about how much you have spent is vulgar at the best of times. Is she really doing that?

I like seeing people enjoying themselves.

FatCatBum · 09/07/2023 23:06

To be honest, even if I'm struggling I wouldn't begrudge a friend having a good time. It kind of feels like some people would like to see everyone they know in sackcloth and ashes just to avoid feeling a bit jealous.

There will always be people better off than you, and if you can't deal with it stay off social media (or unfollow them)

BitOutOfPractice · 09/07/2023 23:07

Probably because @Aqua22a what you said isn’t true.

readbooksdrinktea · 09/07/2023 23:08

Seriously? I can't afford to go on holiday, let alone to America, but no one in the world is holding a gun to your head and demanding you read her posts. Unfollow if it triggers you or whatever. This is ridiculous.

Aqua22a · 09/07/2023 23:11

BitOutOfPractice · 09/07/2023 23:07

Probably because @Aqua22a what you said isn’t true.

Yes it is.

BitOutOfPractice · 09/07/2023 23:14

It really isn’t @Aqua22a Is that what it says in your insurance policy. You must never post on sm if you’re out of the house?

and when I go on holiday, my house isn’t standing empty anyway so 🤷‍♀️

seennothinglikeit · 09/07/2023 23:16

Someone will see her post and think she looks like an ideal person to burgle, plenty of cash and no one at home, let's get the swag bag...

WineIsMyMainVice · 09/07/2023 23:18

Hugasauras · 09/07/2023 21:35

It's a bit weird/braggy to give daily updates on how much you've spent on holiday. I've never know anyone to do that! Just general updates and pics of holiday I don't see the problem. But the spending thing is weird.

Agree with you.
most reasonable post on this thread so far!!!

Singingthesong · 09/07/2023 23:19

Get a life. Let her live hers.

Hankunamatata · 09/07/2023 23:19

I love seeing other people's holiday posts and what they have been up to. We can't afford to do that but it's great seeing other people adventures

MrsJBaptiste · 09/07/2023 23:23

Aqua22a · 09/07/2023 23:05

@MrsJBaptiste why is this so funny to you?

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Because it's such a typical MN alarmist post - which also isn't true.

Mumtothreegirlies · 09/07/2023 23:24

Some people have been struggling since decades before this so called ‘cost of living crisis’ and you never heard them telling others to stop enjoying their lives.

Babbleoff · 09/07/2023 23:27

You know you can choose to block, unfollow etc…? YABU

cocksstrideintheevening · 09/07/2023 23:34

Most people aren't struggling

PumpkinQueen1 · 09/07/2023 23:34

Niftyswiftie · 09/07/2023 21:43

I don't think most people are struggling. Nobody I know is.

Then you are lucky. Lots of people I know are struggling.

TimeToMoveIt · 09/07/2023 23:35

It depends on how much you earn and your social circle, the majority of people I know are struggling . I'm doing OK just about but can't afford a holiday. I certainly don't begrudge those that can having one though and I'm not bitter about the fact that I'm not as well off as apparently most people on here 🤣

bitnervousaboutthis · 09/07/2023 23:37

Yes people can still go on holiday and be as insensitive as they like on their own social media's and yes lots of people are struggling it's not mutually exclusive. Separately, I do understand saying it's a not great taste to post so much about their great holiday. What's less understandable was the posters at the beginning saying that most people aren't struggling!!

ZebraDilemma · 09/07/2023 23:40

cocksstrideintheevening · 09/07/2023 23:34

Most people aren't struggling

Rubbish

bitnervousaboutthis · 09/07/2023 23:42

cocksstrideintheevening · 09/07/2023 23:34

Most people aren't struggling

Actually what are you basing that on?

RosesAndHellebores · 09/07/2023 23:54

People with a large mortgage taken out in the last few years and/or who have young children are likely to be struggling.

Many people are finding they have less discretionary spending money.

Many people are having to prioritise. Nice food/holiday; theatre trip/cinema; dinner out/Waitrose dine in for £12.

tunbridgeoutrage · 09/07/2023 23:58

I quite like hearing that other people are living it up. It cheers me up.

littleyellowarrow · 10/07/2023 00:10

It's a bit obnoxious to be bragging about how much you've spent, but you also don't have to look. That's what the unfollow button is for.

Laurelin · 10/07/2023 00:31

Very tacky if her to post how much she's spending. The only time I've seen is in travel blogs, not random people's Instagram pages.

user1477391263 · 10/07/2023 00:39

She's allowed to enjoy her holiday, but in the universe where I live, bragging about how much money you have spent is really, really tacky behavior - have other posters not noticed this bit?