to ask what's rudest/most bizarre wedding behaviour you've known of?

[PinkStarAtNight]

Lighthearted thread, inspired by the mention of wedding politics on another thread...just interested to know if anyone out there has experienced/known of any weddings/wedding related behaviour more bizarre/rude than the one I know of. Wedding guest behaviour, bride/groom behaviour and weddings that were just bizarre in general all welcome...

So, I'll start:
Couple getting married were on a very low budget (so much so that their centrepiece wedding cake was actually just cardboard with icing and decorations over it) but they still wanted a 'nice/fancy' wedding with sit down meal and servers...so they hired a town hall for an 'afternoon tea' luncheon type thing just after the wedding, with only close friends and family invited. They then asked other, less close, friends to 'have the privilege' of serving them at this 'high tea' event, free of charge, as a favour, instead of an invite to the wedding (not even the evening party that came later).
It was actually phrased as 'would you like to have the privilege of serving us at our wedding?' and people who were asked were very much expected to see it as an honour. Apparently it's somewhat of the 'done thing' in their circle.

These friends/servers were given waiter/waitress uniforms to wear. Just another reminder- they were NOT being paid. One of the people asked to do it was a friend of mine. She actually thought she was quite close to the family, had known them years and been round for dinner and things like that, but realised they obviously didn't see her that way when instead of a proper invite to the wedding she was asked to do this.

She said that she accidentally split tea whilst pouring it out for someone at this 'luncheon' (I mean its not like she was a professional server!) and the bride's father snapped at her. Everyone at the table treated her exactly like a professional server, not making wye contact, not even thanking her, barking orders at her etc, even though she had known all of them for years and spent time at their house for gatherings...all the servers were 'thanked' a few weeks after the wedding with a box of basic Cadbury chocolates, the type that cost about £5 from Tesco. These boxes of chocolates were elaborately wrapped up and sent with thank you cards. Once opening the box, my friend realised they were all white...looked at the sell by date and they were years out!! 😂

Now, it wasn't really anything to me because I wasn't close to couple (knew them, had mutual friends but never expected to be invited in any capacity) so didn't affect me at all, but I think the whole thing was completely bizarre and such rude and entitled behaviour towards people who were supposed to be their friends. Apparently being asked to dress up in a waitor outfit and take orders/serve people is an immense honour. I didn't, and still don't, have words 😂

Anyone else got anything to top this?

Oh I’ve been to a few.

Firstly the one where the food portions were both stingy and inedible - the waiting staff were taking food back to the kitchen left, right and centre until the groom started flagging them down to put the returned meals in front of him so he could eat them - he had 4 plates of roast dinner at one point. Then they didn’t serve pudding and had the audacity to get the DJ to tell children off for taking sweets from the sweet cart.

Then there was the one where the wedding breakfast was afternoon tea - served on cake stands. Only the top table had a cake stand between 2 people whilst all the other tables had the same stand between 4 - we were all bloody starving.

Then there was the one that decided having somewhere to sit at the reception was only necessary for half the guests - that was a long night stood in uncomfortable heels.

and the one where I was a bridesmaid and when I arrived for hair and makeup on the morning of the wedding it became apparent that there had clearly been a bridesmaid group chat without me in it - they’d all stayed at the venue the night before, were spending the morning getting ready in matching pyjamas and were staying the night of the wedding as well - that was awkward but I was too young to realise just how rude that was until much later.

Yeah I was a Bridesmaid (my brother was the groom) and I asked a couple of months in advance if I could pay the make up artist myself and get my make up done by her on the day… I was told “No” by the Bride. Then on the day the other Bridesmaid and another mate of the Bride had their make up done (paid for by the Bride) and I was sent upstairs to a dark dusty spare bedroom to do my own… it was so rude!!

I was asked to be a bridesmaid at a friend's wedding. She asked me to dye my hair brown as she didn't like it blonde and then chose my rapist to be a groomsman.

Safe to say that we are no longer friends.

Big wedding reception. FoB stood up and made a speech about how the groom's parents had failed to cough up the promised £5000 contribution to the wedding costs, meaning they had to take out a bank loan to make up the shortfall. Mother of the groom stormed off and attempted to leave the hotel without paying her bill. She was stopped by staff and a massive rumpus ensued. (The groom's family were a right bunch of scallywags.) Father of the Bride - a very excellent man - finished his speech, drained his glass, and sat down to thunderous applause.

The marriage didn't last. Quel surprise.

I wonder if the friend offering to do bridesmaid's jobs but not be a bridesmaid on the day might have been genuinely keen to help, but possibly anxious about her appearance or crowds and frightened about letting the bride down in some way on the day... I'd say all that admin help in advance sounds great!

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What a horrendous thing to do to you. Well done for ditching her!

Went to a lovely wedding but there wasn't a sit down meal just hors d'oeuvres and not enough of them. The wedding was held at the bride's parents house in a little village miles from anywhere but it did have one pub. Most of the guests didn't hang around leaving early evening to weave our way (drunk as skunks) straight to the pub for a decent meal or just 'a meal'. The pub did a roaring trade that night.

It was the bride wanting the friend to do the bridesmaid jobs without being a bridesmaid. Which sounds like she didn't want her in the pictures...

Mine doesn't even come close to the stories here...

I was a bridesmaid for a friend, and she had organised for all bridesmaids to have their hair and make-up done for the wedding - a lovely idea! She'd asked for my input on hairstyles in the run up to her big day - happy with whatever she was happy with said I, but ideally not a hairstyle which involved having my hair pulled tightly off my face with strands hanging down (a la Catherine Tate's Lauren Cooper). Not only was that the exact style she chose for all the bridesmaids to have but on the day when the hairdresser was styling my hair they whipped the scissors out and cut my hair in order to give me the strands so I then had two mismatched pieces of hair until I could organise my own haircut, where I then had to have it shorter than I would otherwise.

I feel the hairdresser's behaviour was most bizarre - who cuts someone's hair just to make it fit into one style on a specific day?!

Similar thing happened to me once.
Someone pulled over and asked me how to get to Brighton centre.
I told them that unfortunately they'd accidentally come to New Brighton, a town 5 hours away from Brighton city 🙈 I felt so bad for them!

Completely agree!! What a strange thing to hate someone for?!

She mentioned it for years afterwards. It triggered weeping from both bride and mother and she said it ruined the day.

Weeping during speeches is fairly standard, especially if an immediate family member has passed as its quite normal to mention them. She sounds like an absolute bridezilla

Neices's wedding invite asks to state if we need a lift to reception after the wedding which is miles away.
Several if us mentioned we would need a lift to get there.
After the service about 12 of us were left by the roadside with no lifts organised . Best man said he couldn't help as he was needed at the reception. We had to ring around for taxis in a strange town.
Same neice held a afternoon tea for female family members at a posh hotel.We were all expected to pay for ourselves and contribute towards the bride's tea
My daughter ,who only had a coffee and nothing to eat was asked to pay £35 towards it all. I managed to sort that out. The wedding ,on the whole was nice, but as I was in the throws of the menopause and raged at everything. ..made me not enjoy it at all.

Back in the late 80's (@IHateLegDay & @A303) when DH and his friend were about 19-20 (they were always a pair of muppets when they got together) they realised they had forgotten the wedding invite once they had arrived at the local train station. So they got a taxi driver to drive around to all the local churches and eventually found the right one just as the wedding party was exiting the church. So not only did they miss the wedding they had been invited to but they also spoilt several others by interrupting - basically bursting in, checking out the B&G, making their apologies and leaving!

So basically, you went to a wedding, with a bad tempered, muttering aunt, who refused to chat to other guests and you were struck dumb by salad? You are the weirdos not the other guests

A male relative watching a football match on his phone, and screaming loudly when his team scored during the speeches/meal.

That’s what I got from this too. Sound like a pair of sullen goons, plus the “flirty” - read as leering creep - of an uncle. What a family.

Then there was the one that decided having somewhere to sit at the reception was only necessary for half the guests - that was a long night stood in uncomfortable heels.

It would be very unusual to have the same amount of chairs as evening guests. The chairs are usually set up for the people invited to the breakfast, they don't add more when the evening guests arrive as people are usually up dancing etc. Why was everyone sitting down?

One of the grooms friends got very wasted & started grinding against other guests dancing . One of the unsuspecting guests was the brides Grandma , who was in her late 80s, she was not impressed and loudly told him off for being ‘a perverted pest’

He did lots of other silly stuff before he was eventually carted off in a taxi back to the hotel. It wasn’t even 10pm!

Unless they weren’t from the U.K. there is very little excuse. I can’t believe all these people who blindly trust a sat nav.

My two sisters and I were invited to a cousins wedding in Wales. We live in Manchester so our Aunt said we could stay at her house after the wedding. Off we went on the coach our Uncle said ring me when you get to Wales and i will pick you up. We rang him and he said he will be an hour so we waited in a cafe as there was no where else to go. It was a greasy spoon so we stank of chip fat. From there he drove us to their house and then onto the church. Nice service then off to a hotel for the meal etc. During the evening reception they announced that they had forgotten to order a buffet so everybody was starving so we went out of the hotel to a burger stand on the seafront. After the reception we went back to our Aunt's house she made us a coffee then said goodnight and just went to bed. The three of us just looked at each other as she had just left us in the lounge, no bedding or pillows etc. I slept on the sofa, one sister on a chair and the other on the floor under the hearth rug !!! we laugh about it now.

I was at a wedding where several men sat on back row of church watching a penalty shootout

That sort of thing is just factored in to weddings in Scotland. Scores are often read out during the speeches.

Obviously everyone wasn’t sitting down - there were no chairs for them 😂

When they switched the room from day to night they left 3 tables that seated about 10 people - with well over 150 guests most of whom had been there all day so saying they had seats for half of them was being generous.

I don’t know about you but I generally consider somewhere to put down your drink/handbag/sit for 5 minutes as scraping the bare minimum of hospitality for guests at a wedding?