Sorry long, rambling post but I wanted to give some context.
I split up with my ex partner almost 2 years ago when our youngest child was only 2 months old. We had been together for nearly 12 years but I finally had enough of his drinking, taking drugs, gambling excessively, not coming home from nights out - I could go on and on. He told me he wasn't going to change and never would and said I knew he liked to drink and do drugs when I met him so why was I expecting him to change.
He has our children one night every other week and will not have them any more because it would be "Doing me a favour!" He also regularly misses maintenance payments.
He's had a new partner for a few months. He met her on holiday and she lives in a different country. She has met our children once - when she came to stay with him and the first time she met them she was staying in the same room as the 1 year old which really angered me.
My ex's mum posted a photo of my youngest on fb this week with a birthday message. It wasn't a great pic so I commented with a very smiley photo saying they'd loved going to playgroup and having happy birthday sung.
Now, my ex's partner has liked the photo I have posted and has commented on the original photo, directly under my comment and also on a photo my child's aunty posted.
I don't know why but this has really got under my skin. She doesn't know my children. She isn't living with their dad so doesn't see them regularly - as i said she's met them once. It's not like she's in a step mum role and has anything to do with them.
Am I being unreasonable in this anger?
I know there is nothing I can do about it. I would look like a petty cow if I messaged her saying "don't comment on photos of my children!". I'd also look like a drama queen if I now unfriend his mum and sister.
I think part of my anger is that he has a new partner because he prioritises himself over the children - he only met her because he didn't see them for several weeks while he was travelling, he can't pay me regularly but paid for a holiday to go and meet up with her.
He was verbally, emotionally, financially and physically abusive to to me during our relationship. Recently, I asked about him paying maintenance and making that a priority over holidays and he told me that I should go and get a new bloke so I could moan at him instead of the ex!
He's a nasty, nasty person and yet he's got a new partner. Does what he wants, when he wants. And while I've been on a couple of different dates, I can't find someone I like enough to move it past seeing them a coulple of times. I don't have the luxury of going travelling and meeting someone. I barely have the time to do 90% of the parenting, work full time and keep up with all the housework let alone make time for dating.
How do I stop feeling so bitter and angry?