Invited to a party, then went to the pub

[Alloveranddonewith]

Friend had a kids party this weekend, play centre type place but booze included, parents generally all friends and always at each other parties etc
One of the dads arrived, promptly spoke to another dad and went with him to the pub a couple of doors down and didn’t return. Hosts had paid for a catered spread, provided nice drinks etc
The dads often chat and have drinks etc
I could see my friend looked a bit 😌

Would you find this rude and a bit hurtful or not be bothered?

I’ve been places where it would seem rude, but not so much in the circles I mix in. If it was a regular thing then maybe, but if was a one off I’d take it as likely that they needed to speak about something privately and frankly, none of my business.

Wouldn’t bother me so long as a specific person was there who had agreed to take charge of their children.
when I’ve had kids parties I always find it really weird when both parents rock up.

Yes definitely, there are a few attached to pub restaurants and you can take your drinks in.

Maybe they had something private/important to discuss.

It depends. If it was set up and made clear that everyone was invited and everyone was supposed to mingle and socialise as a big friendship group then I think pairs or groups of people leaving to go elsewhere is rude.

Absolutely agree - this is me; definitely time for me to continue delivery my family's lifestyle.

It’s not rude. Kids are doing their thing with parent to watch them. Odd to have an adult social gathering at a soft play tbh, I don’t blame the dads preferring a few hours peace and quiet!