Wedding abroad with a 7mo - AIBU?

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This week a close family member has announced that they will be getting married abroad in a years time and wants the whole family to attend. They have managed to get a 2 week all inclusive package for wedding attendees which was cost approx 1500 each.

My issue is that I'm currently pregnant with my first child and finding it difficult to decide whether it's feasible for us to attend with a 6mo - I'm mostly in camp 'no this isn't feasible' but family are making me feel like I'm being dramatic.

Pros: actually not a bad deal price wise for the location, family time, a great adventure with little one, great location, getting to see close family member get married, my parents will be there to help with baby, in a years time so got time to save up money

Cons: 6hr flight with a 7mo, first time parents so have absolutely no idea what to expect, I'll be on half maternity pay by that point and dh is self employed so will cost us extra to accommodate his loss of earnings for the time away, also extra costs as we'll need extra luggage for baby (but no idea at this point how much extra luggage because first time parents) - off the top of my head.

My parents have suggested we consider doing a week instead of 2 which will reduce the amount of time we're off any sort of baby routine, the amount dh is out of work and hopefully reduces the cost of the package (though probably not significantly), but I still feel like it's going to be very stressful with a baby. Getting some serious guilting from family- lots of "only opportunity for us all to get together", "you've got ages to save up" and "only wedding they'll have" sort of thing but I just think it's going to be way too stressful both from a financial and baby perspective. Its also not a short haul destination that we could just come home from if it all starts going wrong (and would cost us even more to rearrange flights back)

AIBU?

(AIBU - it's completely feasible to take a 7mo to a wedding abroad, you're being dramatic
YANBU - you're mad for even considering this)

I took my three month old abroad and people have commented how much easier it is to breastfeed over formula. I combi feed and the formula wasn’t a problem either.

I took a box of formula powder, ready made bottles of formula, my breast pump and sterilised bottles in hand luggage. It wasn’t a problem at all they just put them through a machine at security. Then I took microwaveable sterilising bags and Milton tablets and a plastic tub so I had options.

I used a sling in the airport and we also had a travel pram which we used more on holiday. You get a label for the pram where you check your bags in and then you can use it in the airport and then leave it at the bottom of the steps to the plane. It will be there when you get off the plane so that’s really easy.

I completely understand your worries, especially before baby is here. We didn’t book anything until he was here, maybe see if that’s an option?

Travelling with a baby is fine. Nice even. We had fab holidays with the kids that age, especially if there are grandparents about to help.

Money, only you can assess. It's completely ok and reasonable to decline due to budget and prioritise. However I think I would probably try make it work as it sounds like fun, and is a good way to get a holiday in with loads of help at hand.