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How long after having baby did you and DP have sex?

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Soundbathfan · 30/06/2023 23:08

Just wondering! My sex drive isn't great at the best of times but hoping it won't disappear entirely after having our first baby!

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tinyshoppingbasket · 01/07/2023 17:37

8 weeks and our sex life has got better! It doesn't always go down the pan. It really brought us together in a whole new way 💞

AliceMcK · 02/07/2023 01:38

1st baby I don't think we slept together after I got first got pregnant tbh, he was much older than me, (still is!) And whilst this is gross to say, I think seeing me as a woman, not a teenager really put him off me. He was desperate to get me pregnant too.

This sounds awful and many levels, firstly I hope you’re ok and sought the right support you needed after this, secondly I really hope you didn’t have a girl and leave her alone with this man. Actually either sex, he sounds like someone not to be around children.

AliceMcK · 02/07/2023 01:49

ShadowPuppets · 01/07/2023 15:12

Actually I think this was a factor for me too, I had no sex drive in pregnancy at all so it was a welcome return post pregnancy, even if I was a bit bashed about from birth!

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I have always been maternal and wanted lots of DCs, I didn’t start until my late 30s though. After each birth I just wanted to get pregnant straight away, it was like a mad crazy drive in me. So glad I was older as if I’d been younger and less controlled as I was in my youth I don’t think I’d have been able to rein it in.

I think my desire for children definitely controlled my sex drive, each child was planned and my sex drive was crazy each time when wanting to conceive, but calmed down after I basically got what I wanted. I put my last pregnancy’s hornieness down to being in my so called sexual peak (early 40s). It was also the pregnancy with the least illness and morning sickness.

Betsy7 · 28/01/2024 18:05

User12453315 · 01/07/2023 00:24

My mind is blown by people waiting 2 weeks. I know each to their own but Jesus horny or not give yourself time to heal surely.

Whenever I hear those stories I always have a sneaking suspicion that, in the majority of cases, the man has a lot to do with it. Cannot imagine a post partum mum with all the stitches, sleep deprivation, baby blues and round the clock breastfeeding genuinely wanting to do the horizontal conga. Many men cheat during the long months of pregnancy and post-partum so resuming sex asap might be the only method some women have in an attempt to prevent further infidelity.

Ours was about 6 weeks, after the first checkup to make there were no complications from the CS & stitches.

Honestly I’ve came here to read these as a second time mam 10 days pp and that’s not always the case.

I genuinely felt mentally ready about 3 days after and my libido has been crazy high. Physically I think I’m maybe there are a few days from being ready. My partner has never pressured me remotely but I certainly didn’t feel this way after my first. It’s all very dependent on so many things.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 17/09/2024 12:29

NameChange245 · 30/06/2023 23:22

11 years and counting ....

👀 - Any change?

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