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Can I have a few chips? -Light Hearted

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pontipinemum · 29/06/2023 22:30

Does it annoy you when you are asked for a few chips? DH and I had a Chinese tonight he got chips with his main I had rice. This is a standard for us and I always 'rob a few chips' I offer rice but he usually doesn't want it. The way he joked and said no you can't tonight really reminded me of my ex.

He used to get so frustrated/ annoyed if I wanted to 'rob a few chips' and say if I wanted some just order them that I couldn't have any of his, even though he never finished them all so I just thought it was a waste of food. For ref this is how many I normally take threw a spring roll on the plate to ref the size of plate.

YABU - Get your own chips
YANBU - It's a few chips share

Can I have a few chips? -Light Hearted
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SimonsCow · 30/06/2023 18:34

If I did this, DH (who loves his food) would definitely share with me. There’s no way he would have only just ordered enough Chinese to fill us up and no more. There is always leftovers. If he didn’t like me doing it and I did it on multiple occasions, the next time we ordered Chinese he would buy an extra portion of chips without telling me and present it to me 😁

AgnesX · 30/06/2023 18:34

AgnesX · 30/06/2023 18:33

I don't mind sharing any more, now that I'm older and devour everything the way I used to. We always order too much anyway 🍚

That should read can't devour everything like I used to

IncomingTraffic · 30/06/2023 18:46

I think attitudes to ordering takeaway are a compatibility issue. In my house, takeaway is ordered communally, especially side dishes.

The quantities ordered will take into account how much rice etc people are likely/planning to eat. So if one person just wants chips and others want a few chips but mostly rice, there will be two portions of chips. But there’s no ‘my chips’ involved.

it seems most people take a more individual approach to ordering.

Thing is, if you know he’s a ‘my chips’ person and you need to ‘rob some chips’, then you probably need to order your own chips if you want some. Even if that’s wasteful.

timberho · 30/06/2023 18:50

If a partner couldn't share a few chips from a massive bag I'd be a bit grossed out. How greedy do you have to be to begrudge a few chips?!
Different if it's something small - then I think it's fairer not to ask.

Herecomestreble1 · 30/06/2023 18:52

Depends on the takeaway for me. DH is welcome to my kebab chips, but chips from the Chinese are ordered per person because I love them 😃 having said that, I probably wouldn't really care too much if he robbed the amount you took!

Harry12345 · 30/06/2023 19:08

If he doesn’t finish and it’s a full bag yanbu

AuntieMarys · 30/06/2023 19:10

Why would you have chips at all? 😀

KohlaParasaurus · 30/06/2023 19:49

Chip robber. I'm owning that.

Chocolateship · 30/06/2023 19:51

There's no need to buy 2 portions of chips if you genuinely just want a few. Different if it's a main course and you haven't discussed sharing, in which case no!

OneTC · 30/06/2023 19:57

I'd happily share, I wouldn't normally finish a portion anyway. Every time I go in the local chippy I say I want a handful but happy to pay for a full portion and they weirdly insist on giving me loads. why though?

ZiriForEver · 30/06/2023 20:00

It is one of those situation when it is ok to ask while being ready to accept "no".

We do share with my DP in both directions.

2Rebecca · 30/06/2023 20:03

No voting on phone. Get you own chips and pudding unless you agree you are halving your meals. If you want chips order frigging chips

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/06/2023 20:08

pontipinemum · 30/06/2023 12:18

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius I do sort of wait. He puts his on his plate first. There is usually 1/3 of a bag left. Their portions of chips are honestly huge. He only joked that I couldn't have any. This was before we ordered by the way when I said can I have a few of your chips or will I order my own?

I didn't mention that it reminded me of my ex to DH. It just used to really really piss my ex off. His food was his food. Even though we lived together and I knew roughly what he would eat and in our 5 years together I never saw him finish a portion of chips. I just wanted to see how many people like that were out there, it would appear a lot.

Sorry I didn’t reply sooner, @pontipinemum - we are driving from Glasgow to Suffolk and it has been a nightmare journey with no coverage a lot if the time.

I think if you are waiting until he has dished up what he wants, it is a bit churlish of him to complain at you having a few of the chips he’s left behind!

ZiriForEver · 30/06/2023 20:29

2Rebecca · 30/06/2023 20:03

No voting on phone. Get you own chips and pudding unless you agree you are halving your meals. If you want chips order frigging chips

Yeah, because it makes complete sense to eat the calories from the extra full portion instead of getting a small sample, just to get the taste.
(I'm so glad my partner is ok with mutual tasting)

Btw, the app is useless. Mobile website has both voting and features like "see all OP's post".

Vellincharm · 30/06/2023 21:23

My DH always shares his chips with me but I am now wondering if he is secretly seething 😀
They are massive portions though.

LaMarschallin · 30/06/2023 21:33

I didn't find the "Friends" episode with "JOEY DOESN'T SHARE FOOD" one of the best, because it seemed such a made-up over-reaction.
But, if even some of the replies on here are serious, I'm obviously wrong and people really do hate to share, sometimes even if asked politely and/or even if some food will be wasted.

Having said that, the one time I really did feel annoyed was when I told an old boyfriend about my habit of leaving the "best forkful" of a meal until last.
I was having a cooked breakfast soon afterwards and had my precious last forkful ready (bacon, sausage, egg yolk, fried bread) and he snatched it off my plate and ate it.
Now that's bad, imo.

redressgirl · 30/06/2023 21:36

Definitely order your own chips I'd be mad sharing lol

2Rebecca · 30/06/2023 21:42

I think the fact that you "always" do this where as he has no interest in your food makes it annoying. It's not reciprocal. My husband and I agree to swap food if we both want some of what the other has ordered. If one of us orders something the other doesn't fancy we stick to our own meals. Order an extra portion of chips if you want chips as well as rice, or just have chips another day. You don't have to eat everything in one meal.

HeckyPeck · 30/06/2023 22:15

redressgirl · 30/06/2023 21:36

Definitely order your own chips I'd be mad sharing lol

But would you be mad sharing if you knew the portion was too big for you and you were going to throw the left overs in the bin?

That's the scenario OP had with her ex & makes him sound a complete tool.

2Rebecca · 30/06/2023 22:19

You can reheat chips. Plus when you start your meal you don't know how much you'll want.

redressgirl · 30/06/2023 22:27

HeckyPeck · 30/06/2023 22:15

But would you be mad sharing if you knew the portion was too big for you and you were going to throw the left overs in the bin?

That's the scenario OP had with her ex & makes him sound a complete tool.

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No if the portion was large and I know I'm not going to eat it all I would actually share

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/06/2023 23:03

Can I just me-rail the thread to say it has taken us nearly 12 fecking hours to drive from Glasgow to Ipswich - thanks to bad weather, horrendous traffic, breakdown’s causing delays and finally a diversion that was an hour long tour of rural Suffolk because the A14 is shut. I could cry.

As you were. Sorry for the derail.

ARareKindaBear · 01/07/2023 05:51

It’s a funny one, if it was my ex “robbing chips” I’d find it infuriating because he was a greedy bastard who was constantly wanting to “try” my food and used it as an excuse to dig into mine as well as his own.

Current DH - it wouldn’t bother me but we generally share everything anyway

00100001 · 01/07/2023 07:53

2Rebecca · 30/06/2023 22:19

You can reheat chips. Plus when you start your meal you don't know how much you'll want.

Grim. They'd taste fucking shite.

00100001 · 01/07/2023 07:57

I am utterly fascinated about how possessive Somme people are over food. To the point they won't let one of the people they supposedly love most in the world have a few of the chips they were never going to eat... So bizarre.

I wonder why they're like that...

Maybe we're all imagining two different scenarios because I really don't understand why it's a problem.

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