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Can I have a few chips? -Light Hearted

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pontipinemum · 29/06/2023 22:30

Does it annoy you when you are asked for a few chips? DH and I had a Chinese tonight he got chips with his main I had rice. This is a standard for us and I always 'rob a few chips' I offer rice but he usually doesn't want it. The way he joked and said no you can't tonight really reminded me of my ex.

He used to get so frustrated/ annoyed if I wanted to 'rob a few chips' and say if I wanted some just order them that I couldn't have any of his, even though he never finished them all so I just thought it was a waste of food. For ref this is how many I normally take threw a spring roll on the plate to ref the size of plate.

YABU - Get your own chips
YANBU - It's a few chips share

Can I have a few chips? -Light Hearted
OP posts:
caringcarer · 30/06/2023 01:20

The takeaway near to me always puts in enough chips to fill the good sized bag and I order 1 portion of chips and one rice between 3 of us. Sometimes there are still some chips left as well as some rice. None of us want many chips, just a few each and a spoonful of rice. It wouldn't hurt him to give you a few like the number on your plate.

caringcarer · 30/06/2023 01:20

Your DH must be like Joey.

Lacucuracha · 30/06/2023 01:28

I’d be fine with this. I’m on a diet and don’t eat a lot of what DH eats. He always offers me the first bite of his food. But it is just a bite, the rest is all his.

SeaToSki · 30/06/2023 01:32

Its the chip tax.

completely fine if its just one or two. Any more than that and you should get your own!

SD1978 · 30/06/2023 01:35

It gives me the rage. If he's fully finished with then, and there are some left that are definitely otherwise destined for the bin- have at it. Taking them 'fresh' of another persons plate makes me quite miffed.

thishasnotmyweek · 30/06/2023 01:40

Im With your DH on this one. I wouldn’t mind sharing a few chips most of the time, but I’d also want the freedom to say no

i think it’s the expectation that he always has to give you some of his chips that’s the issue. What if that day he’s really hungry and really wants all his chips?

rice in return is a pathetic swap!

flimsywhimsy · 30/06/2023 01:47

Unless it's agreed beforehand that we're sharing, I wouldn't ask for some of DH's portion, nor would I be happy if he expected some of mine. If I'm finished, I'll offer any leftovers to others, but until then, hands off! 😆

WandaWonder · 30/06/2023 01:48

I am happy to share sometimes but I order what I want and expect others to do the same

Mind you we share Chinese/Indian dishes not so much Thai

NoTeaNoShade · 30/06/2023 01:52

YABU

SirenSays · 30/06/2023 01:59

DH and I share food, I wouldn't take without asking but it would be a shocker if he ever said no.

SUBisYodrethwhenLarping · 30/06/2023 02:14

We call it doing a "JC"--- James Cordon as in Smithy in our house

With Stacey ordering a Chicken Korma etc

Although between DH & I we always get something like Chicken & cashew nuts & Beef chop suey and egg fried rice

Do we have half of each dish

However, if there are other people there they are doing a JC if people order their option but just want a bit of yours but you have no interest in having any of their choice

No way do we agree with a JC

Order your choice everyone and eat it, I do not like them eat my choice.

DH went out to a Chinese restaurant the other night with work colleagues and some of them wanted to do a JC but he along with a couple of others said they just wanted to order their own dish and pay for their choice. He doesn't drink alcohol either so he just paid for his food and drink.

This was agreed amicably beforehand if people didn't want to JC it, they could order their own dishes and drinks and pay separately so then everyone was happy. 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

In your case let your DH eat what he wants and you have some of what he doesn't want, at the end. It would be a waste to order another portion of chips imho

SUBisYodrethwhenLarping · 30/06/2023 02:19

SO we have half of each dish each 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

Brandspankingnewandshiny · 30/06/2023 02:39

My husband will always order two sides of chops for this very reason

Sparklfairy · 30/06/2023 06:02

He wouldn't even notice if there were 7 fewer chips in his order.

There's a big difference between someone saying 'oh I won't order x' and then snaffling half of yours, and asking for 7 ish chips out of what is probably loads from a Chinese anyway.

Diddykong · 30/06/2023 06:04

We order a Chinese assuming all dishes will be shared. And we would never order chips in a Chinese that's just wrong.

Generalisation · 30/06/2023 06:06

I have two friends who never order chips or dessert but then take some of everyone else’s. For them it’s a sign of disordered eating. It’s really annoying to have them do this every single time.

moneymatr · 30/06/2023 06:10

We share a rice and chips so we split it. But no if he's ordered chips for himself then you shouldn't expect any. He clearly doesn't want to share so I'd stop asking and order my own. Or ask on ordering and if he says no get your own.

Generalisation · 30/06/2023 06:11

Strange that people are calling the person that does not want to share, greedy?! Rather than the chip-snaffler!

camelfinger · 30/06/2023 06:15

I would just get your own or wait until he’s finished and have the leftovers.
It’s a chip thing - could be wrong but I’ve often found that people are ashamed to buy chips themselves as it makes them feel unhealthy so they like to pinch a few of someone else then it doesn’t seem so bad.

justanothermanicmonday1 · 30/06/2023 06:48

Yeah I'm usually on the "get your own side"

But does anyone actually finish a whole bag of chips from the Chinese? 🤣

BarbaraofSeville · 30/06/2023 06:49

Chinese takeaway chips and are the best. People who've not had them are missing out.

But surely it makes sense to share the portion when the OP only wants a few and the portion is more than DH wants anyway.

Chinese takeaway chip portions are enormous, are people really wanting to eat a whole portion to themselves rather than sharing?

NorthWestThree · 30/06/2023 06:56

We always share chips. Chip portions from wherever we order from are always huge! Would be such a waste to order another portion so yes I'm a "pinch a few chips" person too (with DH)

Inertia · 30/06/2023 07:04

YABU.

Either you agree in advance what’s to be shared, or you get your own chips, or you wait and see if there are leftovers.

Calling someone controlling because they wanted to eat their own food is a pretty low blow.

BarbaraofSeville · 30/06/2023 07:05

camelfinger · 30/06/2023 06:15

I would just get your own or wait until he’s finished and have the leftovers.
It’s a chip thing - could be wrong but I’ve often found that people are ashamed to buy chips themselves as it makes them feel unhealthy so they like to pinch a few of someone else then it doesn’t seem so bad.

It's nothing at all to do with shame, just wanting to avoid wasting food and money.

Why would anyone buy a whole portion of chips when they want about a quarter of the portion and there's that amount going spare anyway?

Nottogetapenny · 30/06/2023 07:39

Totally agree with @ BarbaraofSeville a few chips from husbands portion saves waste and money!