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Sports club keeps using my address

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TeddySunflowers · 28/06/2023 09:23

Help! There's a sport club near my house, they have a building in an field nearby and I guess my house is the closest to it.

They keep using my address for all their deliveries and pick ups to the point now where I'm getting delivery people knocking on my door every morning sometimes twice a day and it's becoming really invasive and stressful because it's constantly disturbing my day, quite often they come early and wake me up, or hammer on the door while I'm in a meeting, and when I explain that I'm not the sports club and they've used my address without my permission, they argue with me as if I'm wrong! Then insist on showing me the order with my address on it as if that'll somehow convince me I'm not standing in my own home. It never used to be this bad and I used to try and be helpful when I first moved in but after accepting a parcel for them they turned up and we're immensely rude and I decided screw that I've just done them a favour for no reason. So I don't accept parcels, I don't even redirect the drivers any more in hope that it would deter the club from using my address but they still do it.

I know it's not the fault of the delivery person but I am slowly losing my patience with it. We've told the club to stop I've also contacted the delivery company to tell them to stop but it makes no difference. I don't know what else to do 😫 hellpp!

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WWPPSLKD · 14/07/2023 20:17

Damn it. I’ve been following this thread but now your DPD driver looks like Pedro Pascal I’m so conflicted 😂

Soapyspuds · 14/07/2023 22:44

Depends on the value. If the police are told the OP has deliberately taken in and kept thousands of tens of thousands of pounds of goods due to a website error, I think they could become interested pretty quick

But the point is it will encourage the sports club to return the items if they need to get the police involved each time. That is the whole objective here. The police are hardly going to handcuff OP for taking in a parcel with their address on it, as long as she eventually remembers where she put it.

oldermen · 14/07/2023 23:37

Simply email the club and tell them that, with immediate effect, you won't be accepting any deliveries for them!

And stick to your word!

massiveclamps · 15/07/2023 14:23

I want to know what's in the parcels...

Emotionalsupportviper · 15/07/2023 18:14

When they come for this parcel tell them it's already been collected.

A shortish bloke - red face - had a hat on so you have no idea what colour his hair was or even if he had any - white van. You didn't take much notice because he was so bliddy rude to you, you just wanted him off your property and shut the door on whims soon as you could.

FishTrashGlove · 16/07/2023 03:45

Log w/111

user1492757084 · 16/07/2023 06:05

Go in person to the club and explain.
Have them make up a sign to afix to your fence giving the couriers exact instructions of where to deliver and leave their parcels. They need a big locked metal delivery box bolted to their fence or some where logical.
It is the club's problem and I'm sure they will want to fix it by also changing their postal address to align with new delivery arrangements.

Probationnotontarget · 16/07/2023 08:50

user1492757084

Dis you actually read anything on here?

lieselotte · 16/07/2023 09:02

marcopront · 14/07/2023 17:38

@PrueRamsay
@VisionsOfSplendour
@Ginger1982

If you had read the OP you would know she has tried not accepting parcels and it didn't stop it.

Yes but at least she doesn't have the hassle of looking after them (assuming they don't just dump them on the doorstep and run).

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 16/07/2023 10:16

I think the op is keeping this one so she can talk to a club member and explain why it has to stop. Might not work but if everytime they are inconvenienced then maybe they will change the address.

I wonder if a club member used to live at that house and they have never bothered to update the details.

ClaudiaWankleman · 17/07/2023 09:20

FishTrashGlove · 16/07/2023 03:45

Log w/111

Hello NHS 111, how can I help you?

zingally · 17/07/2023 09:52

I'd take every single delivery, and in the meantime, it would sit out in the middle of my back garden, in the pouring rain.

Scoobyblue · 17/07/2023 12:07

You are 100% enabling this situation. They are delivering the parcels to your address and you are accepting them, keeping them and then nicely handing them over when they arrive to pick them up. There is absolutely no reason for them to stop at the moment.
It is very very easy to stop the situation. Either you don't accept the parcels at all. Or you keep them outside in the garden in the pouring rain so that they get spoilt so the club decided that this isn't a good idea. Or you accept them, leave them on the pavement outside your house and email the club to say that they need picking up immediately or they will get stolen so the club decide this is t a good idea either. Or you accept them and then are continually out/busy/not suitable time for pick up etc every time that they come round to pick them up so that they decide after multiple visits that this isn't a good idea either. None of these involve stealing the parcels so aren't illegal - you are just creating a situation where it is more difficult for the club to have the parcels delivered to your house than elsewhere.
Simply decide what you what you are going to do and absolutely stick to it. Then delivery to your house becomes the worst solution rather than the easiest. Then they will stop doing it.

SkySecret · 17/07/2023 13:00

Scoobyblue · 17/07/2023 12:07

You are 100% enabling this situation. They are delivering the parcels to your address and you are accepting them, keeping them and then nicely handing them over when they arrive to pick them up. There is absolutely no reason for them to stop at the moment.
It is very very easy to stop the situation. Either you don't accept the parcels at all. Or you keep them outside in the garden in the pouring rain so that they get spoilt so the club decided that this isn't a good idea. Or you accept them, leave them on the pavement outside your house and email the club to say that they need picking up immediately or they will get stolen so the club decide this is t a good idea either. Or you accept them and then are continually out/busy/not suitable time for pick up etc every time that they come round to pick them up so that they decide after multiple visits that this isn't a good idea either. None of these involve stealing the parcels so aren't illegal - you are just creating a situation where it is more difficult for the club to have the parcels delivered to your house than elsewhere.
Simply decide what you what you are going to do and absolutely stick to it. Then delivery to your house becomes the worst solution rather than the easiest. Then they will stop doing it.

I agree with the first part of this, but suggesting causing damage to the item is terrible advice.

OP has taken responsibility for the item upon accepting it from the delivery driver, and any subsequent loss or damage will be OP’s responsibility.

return to sender is the safest option, causes inconvenience to the club and has no comeback whatsoever on OP.

Scoobyblue · 17/07/2023 13:34

But what are they going to do? You've told them not to send the parcels to your house, you've told them that a parcel has arrived and you're leaving it outside on pavement/in garden for collection. Are they really going to sue you? If they can't be bothered to change the delivery address, are they really going to do this?
I absolutely agree that refusing to take the parcels in the first place is the best option. But, if the OP is going to continue to take them in, then she should make it super difficult for them if they won't change the delivery address.

SkySecret · 17/07/2023 20:17

Scoobyblue · 17/07/2023 13:34

But what are they going to do? You've told them not to send the parcels to your house, you've told them that a parcel has arrived and you're leaving it outside on pavement/in garden for collection. Are they really going to sue you? If they can't be bothered to change the delivery address, are they really going to do this?
I absolutely agree that refusing to take the parcels in the first place is the best option. But, if the OP is going to continue to take them in, then she should make it super difficult for them if they won't change the delivery address.

If they’re the a-holes the OP described them as, then I wouldn’t give them a single inch! Absolutely not worth it, and puts OP firmly in the wrong with no defence or backup.

Emotionalsupportviper · 17/07/2023 20:50

SkySecret · 17/07/2023 13:00

I agree with the first part of this, but suggesting causing damage to the item is terrible advice.

OP has taken responsibility for the item upon accepting it from the delivery driver, and any subsequent loss or damage will be OP’s responsibility.

return to sender is the safest option, causes inconvenience to the club and has no comeback whatsoever on OP.

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This.

Having accepted responsibility OP could be liable anything happens to the item.

She should take the opportunity to tell them that she won't accept more, put a HUGE sign on her gate (so that drivers know not to just leave parcels if she is out, and also refuse delivery if it is attempted.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 17/07/2023 23:01

Change your name by deed poll to 'Ponceytown Cricket Club' and then claim that, as the parcels all have your name on them, you quite naturally assume they are presents from your delightfully eccentric and fabulously wealthy Great-Aunt Isolde - and she's always told you "If ever you don't like any of the eclectic gifts I send you, feel free to stick them straight on eBay and buy yourself something nice with the money".

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 17/07/2023 23:03

You know those signs that pubs and clubs often have near the door, saying "Please respect our neighbours and be quiet as you leave" - could you stick a great big sign on the door to their clubhouse saying "Please respect our neighbours and don't use them as a free delivery depot and storage for OUR many parcels"?!

DogInATent · 18/07/2023 13:11

TeddySunflowers · 14/07/2023 10:30

Update: not heard anything from the fraud action report that I made and things went quiet for a week. But this morning I had another parcel 😤 so I've taken it and I'm going out for the day and won't be here all weekend. 😂 So taking some of your advice to make things difficult for them every time they send something to my house! This one came from DPD, and the delivery guy looked a little bit like Pedro Pascal.
Does anyone know if it is legal to charge a daily parcel handling fee? 😂

so I've taken it and I'm going out for the day and won't be here all weekend

The sensible advice has consistently been to stop taking in parcels.
So stop taking them in.

Holding parcels hostage is not the sensible option - once you've accepted them you are responsible for them. Even if the delivery driver looks like Brad Pitt, feel free to play a starring role in Confessions of a Delivery Driver but refuse the parcel.

TRexTara · 18/07/2023 14:09

What's in the parcels? Why does a sports club need so many?

massiveclamps · 18/07/2023 15:41

TRexTara · 18/07/2023 14:09

What's in the parcels? Why does a sports club need so many?

That's what I've been wondering too.

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 18/07/2023 17:02

What's in the parcels? Why does a sports club need so many?

It's quite odd, isn't it? Presumably they have a letterbox for all standard printed communications, so it's just parcels. Maybe you'd expect them to order a new load of kit or equipment once or twice a season.

If there's nobody based there full time, it's obviously not going to be providing an all-day hospitality service/cafe scenario.

Without wanting to go all tin-foil hat, it does make you wonder if the club is actually all as it seems and is not just a cover for some illegal enterprise. Most clubs - even posh exclusive ones - wouldn't want to fall out with and get themselves a bad name in their community; the attitude of the man collecting the parcels from OP seems deliberately calculated to be as unnecessarily rude as possible.

maximist · 18/07/2023 17:24

I'd take them in and if anyone came for them, say they've already been collected. By a man in a flash car who sat outside and pipped. You think he had a hat on and the car was blue. Or it might have been black. Dark, anyway.

Zimunya · 18/07/2023 17:42

@TeddySunflowers - I totally realise that I am overly-invested in this saga, but I am desperate for an update! Have they realised you have their parcel? Have they contacted you (more politely than the previous occasion, I hope)? Are you avoiding them? Update, please!