To be fed up with men trying to have conversations with me in jacuzzi?

[Uppitydown]

I'm rather an introvert and I have worsened since my menopause started.

The jacuzzi etc improves my mental health, I zone out a bit and try to relax.

I wear earphones and enjoy listening to music and true crime podcasts for ideas. I also think it ought to give off a very big Do Not Disturb message. But nope, at least once a session a man tries to talk to me about nothing important or gestures for me to remove the earbuds.

I just look apologetic and point to my ears and try to ignore.

Some will perservere. One even, after I did take them out, tell me I was being unsociable.

It's never been a woman. They'll just smile nicely, and get on with their own time.

The situation saddens me greatly and spoils the down time somewhat.

A friend thinks differently and says they only want to small talk with you. So I really don't know if I'm being unreasonable, hence AIBU posting.

YABU - you shouldn't mind, they're only being pleasant.

YANBU - they should take the cues an leave you in peace.

Wear some dark sunglasses too and look right through them with a sour fuck off look on your face

Is there really that much of a difference between sharing a public jacuzzi and sharing a public swimming pool? There's more water in the latter so anything nasty gets more diluted, I guess, but you're still sharing water with other people's bodies. And in a swimming pool your face is in the water and water is going in your mouth, which isn't the case with jacuzzis.

Surely that whole website is satire?? The bit about him at the bottom 🤢 The article for getting your ex back - good grief 😯

I love that this really annoys you. It’s actually really satisfying.

Not everyone wants to make boring small talk to loser men.

OP - just ignore. Or do the ostentatious putting on (or, if necessary, reputting in) of earphone, à la Hugh Laurie.

In similar situations I say "I'm sorry, I don't speak English." I obviously do speak English but they can't really contradict that, if they ask anything else I just shrug and repeat.

OP could always pretend to be Norwegian and say jeg snakker ikke engelsk👋

💐🙏

I was just thinking that. His partner's back is facing the camera. Now there's a sign of soneone not ashamed

Such great advice here. A random man must approve of your music taste.

She's had him worried whilst listening to music she likes that nobody else could hear

The author certainly wooed lots of women

This happened to me on a train once. Earphones in. Man said something, I didn’t hear. He gestured for me to take my earphones out, so I did, incase it was an emergency and he needed help etc.

He just started talking to me. I was so stunned,
I put my earphones back in and gave him the worst look I’ve ever given anyone.

In a jacuzzi, just ignore ignore ignore. If anyone gestures to take them out etc keep ignoring

Va fa un culo, testa di cazzo. IIRC.

Language is a wonderful thing.

The spa at my gym has women only sessions , three mornings a week .

Just close your eyes. Don’t worry if they think you are rude. Men like thats opinions aren’t valid

If they tell you to smile use your middle fingers to pull the sides of your mouth into a smile.

Been to a Spa Hotel twice . It was a woman who wouldn't bloody shut up when she saw my uneven skin tan 😡

I worked with horses, and wore sports tops but uncovered arms and shoulders.
Being a ginge and tan/burn easily the tanned bits did look odd against my deathly pale other bits.
She sounded like that annoying women on HollyOaks that goes on and on. Had to leave to hot tub and went to the pool instead.

Not with entitled male twats we don't 🙄

Yep. You couldn't pay me enough. The thought of soaking with male smegma...
There's not enough Dettol in the world 🤮

Love the idea of bleating on about periods! I feel like heading to the nearest leisure centre just to try it (and I don't even get periods). If they dare stay in the tub with me after that I'll repeatedly look down and check the water around me as though I'm worried about leaking.

The sauna and steam at my gym. Not a visit goes by. I'm so glad someone else finds it annoying! It's supposed to be a spa experience, not a disco. It's always the men. I have tried closing my eyes, and they just say something like, 'oh, you having a nice relax with your eyes closed?'.

What do we have to do?! You can't really put headphones in when you're in a sauna.

@MrsTerryPratchett thanks for the shout out. Much appreciated.

Pas de problem mon petit choufleur.

I'm trying out my languages.

A man in the street once grabbed my arm (whist I was running) because I wouldn't take my headphones out and engage with him.
Absolute knob. Made my quickest 5k time getting home and reported him to the police.
Imagine the entitlement of thinking you can grab a woman because you want her attention.
(I was not on fire/in the road/being attacked by a dragon or any other situation that might warrant a "safety" grabbing)

Ah, that was the sad end of a happy era.

This.

The jacuzzi at my gym looks directly onto the pool. If you are swimming, they are staring. If you happen to lock eyes, they continue to stare..and yes, they stay in there on average for 45 minutes..

Go to the steam room and position body in a 'fuck off pal, not in the mood to chat' stance... They climb onto the high ledge and stare down/sigh/cough/clear throat..
Begin to engage about the heat in there.

It moves quickly from that to...So does your husband come here aswell? (needing quickly to find out if it's worth pursuing? 🙄)

Me too. I can't relax. I hate Jacuzzis in general now. We have a nice sauna in the women's changing rooms at my gym. Women just know what to do. We can sit quietly, but I've also had some chats, when we have both wanted to.