Woken up being kicked repeatedly, partner says I was snoring

[Winniethepig]

This really, partner woke me by kicking me repeatedly and after I woke and I asked why he said I wad snoring.

He snores literally all the time, I have never once kicked him.

I'm now up stewing on it and feeling angry about being kicked repeatedly like that.

AIBU? I know snoring can be horrible but I have a cold at the moment and don't usually (I don't think, at least not to the extent of being kicked).

Bloody hell. DH snores every night and it drives me insane. I react by stroking his nose and he thinks that's intrusive. Kicking is absolutely wrong.

Come on, has no one ever elbowed or kicked softly to try to get someone to snoring? It's the most tortuous thing ever lying next to someone snoring away. God my blood pressure is rising at the thought.

A gentle nudge is fine, but nothing justifies physical abuse.

I do too.
A sharp prod in the ribs is normally enough to get him to roll over, If that fails then a kick usually works.
He doesn't mind that, but what he hated was being tickled on a foot, so I don't do that now. I thought that was more gentle, but apparently it's worse.

@KarmaStar has a point, it really does depend how long /hard the kicking was. What do you mean when you say he repeatedly kicked you. Surely if you were asleep you wouldn't know, and if it woke you up (which presumably it did) unless he's a monster, I'd guess you stopped snoring and he stopped kicking.
I think separate bedrooms are the answer. Sleeping with someone who's snoring is so enraging. The reason you want them to stop is so you're not disturbed. Gently shaking someone disturbs you. Im sure thats why plenty of people nudge their partners with a sharp kick.....though obviously stopping short of abh

Lol lol my hubby and I always kicking each other to turn over its hardly the end of the world lol ..nobody's talking about a kick that marks and beats the hell out of someone jeeeeez but also some nights when we really need sleep for the next day and with 3 toddlers we have separate beds and tbh I love having a king-size to stretch as much as I want lol

Jeez. I just give my partner a firm nudge to roll him onto his side while saying “turn over love.” How would kicking help?!

I see you missed my post 👀🤣

I said there was a fair bit of hyperbole, but can assure you it was inspired by actual events!

I wonder about those who give gentle caresses to wake up their snorer. I’m picturing the slightest of zzzzpooo vs the ZZZZZZZZZZSNNRRRRRSNUFFELSNNRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGG that I used to sleep next to.

Can’t believe people are passively saying “separate rooms”. He’s kicking her! In what universe is that ok?
My husband snored for months when we got together. It drove me nuts so he sought help and got it (CPAP). No way did it ever occur to me to kick him. Why would you do that?

To wake them up and get them to stop snoring 🤷‍♀️

Leave. Run, don’t walk

Presumably your partner also "has a toddler and baby" - I assume there's a good reason you do all the night wakings?

YANBU

There was a thread back along about OPs DH snoring and the replies were awful and basically said it was fine to hit him if he was snoring.

There is never any reason to hit or kick your partner.
Just shake them awake and tell them to go and sleep on the sofa.

I have kicked my ex out of bed. I didn’t really mean for him to fall out of it but he was snoring and I used my feet to push him to stop. Didn’t realise he was right on the edge so he fell on the floor. The bastard just crawled back up again and continued to snore.

I think it’s fine to kick someone who’s snoring. You are laying down, tired and drowsy. It’s not like he stood over you kicked you black and blue, it’s just that the legs reach further than the arms so you use those instead.

Placing the duvet over their head works quite well too.

To wake them up and get them to stop snoring 🤷‍♀️”

You think it’s ok to kick someone?

Get a sleep app see if your really snoring that badly

You should both get a MAD (mandibular advancement device). It’s a sort of mouthguard that holds the jaw forward and keeps the airways open. It feels a bit wierd at first but it’s worth it for the better night’s sleep.

Well I’m not advocating walking up to random people in the street and kicking them.

But yeah, if that’s the only way to wake up a snorer I’m hardly wearing hobnail boots to bed.

I would never kick my partner (or child or pet).

If my partner was snoring I’d just shake them and tell them to shut up or go downstairs.
It takes just as much effort to kick someone as it does to shake them.

Gentle nudge, followed by a firmer poke in the ribs, followed by a sharp kick to the shins if all else fails. All these people saying gently wake someone up and ask them to sleep on the sofa 🤣.

My husband is currently in a spare room as he was snoring last night.

In my half asleep state, I’ll poke, prod, elbow or kick him to get him to stop snoring. He fully accepts this.

@MrsJellycat The New Scientist (and my menopause specialist) beg to differ: https://www.newscientist.com/article/2325747-sleep-apnoea-symptoms-in-post-menopausal-women-linked-to-low-oestrogen/

It apparently makes us throat snorers rather than nose snorers, and that’s harder to solve than the usual solutions of “stop drinking” or “just lose some weight”.

Sorry but I don’t see the difference between and a hard nudge/elbow.

I don’t think this falls into abuse category.

What do you mean YOU have toddlers? Doesn’t HE also have toddlers? Why does he get to wear earphones not you?

also totally depends on how hard he kicked you