Husband complains of messy house

[Cantwaittilbedtime]

Hiya..new here so be kind!!
With my husband for 6 years...he doesn't work as he has a disability which can flare and go into periods of remission...also suffers from a depression type of illness..
Our life together generally good,we have 2 kids and I work part time... he complains constantly that he can never find anything he's looking for,complains I never tidy up after myself, works himself into a foul mood and no matter what I say....as In I haven't had time,was just about to sort that etc...he completely shuts down and says he's not interested in excuses!!! Now I'm no pushover and I stick up for myself....I do the majority of things In the house...but I cannot track down every sock,toothpaste lid etc while lookin after our kids and working.. he does little to nothin in the house...he minds the kids when I'm working but needs a rest the moment I come home....am I unreasonable in thinking if he does fuck all In the house to help,that he shouldn't complain when he can't find his favourite pen...and the vast amount of shite that he leaves everywhere may go missing from time to time without it being My fault??

These helpless males attach themselves like limpets to resilient, capable, overly tolerant and understanding women as many others would give them short shrift

actually men attach themselves to any women who will tolerate them, IMO these women usually have issues with people pleasing and self-esteem. Most of my female friends are capable,understanding and resilient…and so are their partners because they want the best for themselves and their children.

And the few who ended up with these kind of Piss taking men eventually got rid and are happily single now.

I meant to say : Men like that attach themselves to any women who will have them