For taking my sister along as a baby sitter for a friend‘s wedding

[Maaofatoddler]

I have a wedding to attend. No grandparents to look after my DS. My mum is not particularly happy that I’m asking my almost 30 year old sister to look after her baby nephew for half a day while I get to spend some time and enjoy the wedding with my DH where kids are not allowed.

I have been married for 5 years and this is going to be the first wedding we’ve been invited to as a couple so it means a lot to me!

I am paying all her expenses (hotel, flights) for the destination wedding so she can enjoy her trip and also for just 1 day look after my son.

Why does your mums opinion on this matter? As long as you dh and your sister are happy, who else gets a say? Why is she not happy?

Why isn’t your mum happy? Firstly it’s none of her business and secondly it seems like a great solution.

I don’t really understand. What has it got to do with your mother? What is she not happy about?

Your Mum's a grandparent surely?

*misses point

Your mum is a grandparent?

What's it got to do with her anyway?

Wouldn't it be a lot cheaper to hire a nanny for the wedding locally?

Sounds ideal! Win win. But your mum (as PO says, is a grandmother is she not), why is she objecting?

Why isn't your mum happy? And why is her opinion even relevant?

Is your sister happy with the arrangements? It's not your mum's business.

Is your mum not happy because she wants to be the one getting the free holiday?

Anyway yanbu. Your child, your choice.

It sounds like your mum is jealous that she hasn't been chosen to go on the holiday. I'm sure you have your reasons. Don't give her excuses, just say that you're all happy with the arrangement.

As long as you and your sister are happy then why even ask?

Ignore your mum, you don't need her permission

I don't understand the grandparent comment either.

Obviously this has nothing to do with your mum unless your sister is her carer or something which I imagine you would have mentioned, OP? Although you never know on here these days

What?!
Your sister is 30, why is your mum involved??

Unless there's some reason for your sister to not be trusted around children, why on Earth is it anything to do with your mother?

It's none of your mother's business. Ignore.

It sounds like your mum refuses to look after your DS because she doesn’t want you to have the freedom to socialise without him and she’s annoyed that you’ve found a way to circumvent her stopping you going to the wedding. In which case she’s horrible.

Did you ask your Mum if she wanted the babysitting job ? If you didn't, that's why she isn't happy, maybe she would loved to have gone on holiday with you. She may feel snubbed.

I assume she is jealous of your sister getting a trip away. Ignore your mom. Hope you, your husband, little one and ds have a lovely holiday and you and your dh have a ball at the wedding

As long as you, your child and sister are fine, that's all that matters. It sounds like a great idea for everyone.

That sounds a great plan, I hope you have a lovely trip.

YANBU good idea! Have fun x

It really doesn't matter what your mum thinks honestly it doesn't, enjoy your wedding sounds like your sister will have a nice time too.

Is your sister happy to do this and is not feeling under any duress? If she is then your mum should mind her own business. Is she jealous that you arent treating her to a trip away ?

What’s it got to do with your mum?