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AIBU about 'healthy eaters' who scoff your 'naughty' food while telling you how much harm it's doing you?

134 replies

GoldfincTart · 19/06/2023 11:45

We were away camping this weekend with friends we haven't seen for about 18 months. They talked a lot about how they'd completely overhauled their diet. Fair play, they look great on it and we could learn a few tips from them.

Their breakfast was home-made spelt crackers eaten with home-made hummus and radishes and carrot sticks. They drank herb or green tea. We had bacon sandwiches on sourdough from the wholefood shop and ordinary tea. We wouldn't normally have bacon sandwiches, but we were on holiday and had an active day planned. They were 'White bread! Bacon! Yorkshire Tea! Do you know what that's doing to your body?' — and then later in the day asked whether we could spare them a slice or two of bread with real butter, because for them it was a treat. We did. And it went on. DH and I got back from a 7-mile walk and a swim and had tea and a slice of the lemon drizzle cake I'd made. I didn't offer them any because obviously it's not the kind of thing they would eat. And next thing they were 'Oh, if it's home-made... so bad for us, but just a little slice.' Or two, as it turned out. For dinner they had a big green salad and a lentil salad. We had salmon with asparagus, spinach and Jersey Royals with lemon and butter. Although they 'never eat potatoes' they were salivating over ours and quietly finished off the rest of the Jerseys, which I'd cooked with the intention of making potato salad for the next day. They helped themselves to all our 'bad' snacks, they even asked for a coffee. 'We don't drink coffee, it's so bad for you, but if you're making one...'

Then at the end of it when we said goodbye it was 'You two are terrible with all your naughty food, it's back to healthy eating tomorrow.' So bloody rude, surely?

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Besttobe8001 · 19/06/2023 11:47

If they're genuinely your friends I don't know how you could have got through without teasing them about it.

Thebigblueballoon · 19/06/2023 11:48

So they pinched your potatoes after dinner? Didn’t even ask if they could scoff your evil carbs?! Cheeky fuckers.

JeandeServiette · 19/06/2023 11:48

I don't think I'd be seeing them again for a few years.

TheSnowyOwl · 19/06/2023 11:49

It sounds like they are trying to justify their eating and project their struggles with it onto you.

Endlesssummer2022 · 19/06/2023 11:56

TheSnowyOwl · 19/06/2023 11:49

It sounds like they are trying to justify their eating and project their struggles with it onto you.

Yes it sounds like they were being ‘performance healthy’ and were struggling with it. If they normally survive on lentils and herbal tea, they wouldn’t make such a big deal of it. They sound like complete wankers to be honest.

Anotherparkingthread · 19/06/2023 12:03

I kind of get it, I eat mostly vegetables miso soup, salads and lean protein. I drink galons of herbal tea. I'm not preachy about it but in very good shape and people often think I never have days off from my diet (i do!). It's super hard if not impossible to maintain this diet when I'm around friends who are eating other stuff because, let's face it, who wouldnt rather have pizza or some chips than the 8th salad of the week.
Sounds like they are struggling to maintain this lifestyle and didn't need much of a push to start eating just whatever. Unfair that they ate so much of your food though, and unfair to sound judgy then dive in themselves straight after you.

Zhougzhoug · 19/06/2023 12:05

This is definitely in the category of "massively take the piss out of them about it for the rest of their days"

GoldfincTart · 19/06/2023 12:11

Their food was actually very nice: the lentil salad had feta and a lovely dressing and I've asked for the recipe because it's something I'd happily eat. And I've been known to make my own hummus — so I'm not knocking healthy eating. But dividing food up into good food and bad really got up my nose. I did try and make fun of it, but they got defensive a couple of times and insisted on telling us exactly why potatoes or sugar were seriously bad for us. We'll make sure that we don't go away with them in future. It's a shame. They used to be okay.

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PoachedEd · 19/06/2023 12:13

Reminds me of a friend at uni who used to lecture me on how unhealthy it was to smoke and how she'd worked out a way to limit her own smoking by never buying a pack and just smoking mine 😂

Timeforabiscuit · 19/06/2023 12:17

You ate bacon... while they were eating spelt crackers with houmous!- you're an absolute monster 😂- there is no way anyone could maintain drinking herbal tea with the food equivalent of angel wings wafts by after a crap night's sleep!

If they were close friends, the piss be taken, such as the water in squash not being organic and it being such a shame that the fresh air isn't filtered.

red78hot · 19/06/2023 12:25

Can't stand people like that. I had one at work who because he lost a lot of weight thought he'd educate us all on what and when to eat blah blah. You can eat whatever you want until 5pm then only healthy after that 🤔.
I'd not had crisps for a month so decided I'm having a pack of space raiders, immediately grabs the pack and says " look, look at this PURE FAT!"
Fuck me I don't know how I didn't lose Mt shit. You're still 3 times bigger than me 😅.

thespy · 19/06/2023 12:27

What boring cheeky fuckers! I would never begrudge sharing my food with anyone, especially if they said it was delicious, I'd be delighted actually, but when those people are simultaneously criticizing / denouncing that food - and by implication your food choices / lifestyle? Yes very rude! Hope they've given themselves gut ache gorging on all that "naughty" stuff.

Likeaburstcouch · 19/06/2023 12:29

They sound miserable as well as rude obnoxious, condescending etc. You sound like you live right!

Summerishereagain · 19/06/2023 12:30

First time they ask for something just say ‘Oh no, not after the last trip as we know you were disappointing with yourself for eating our unhealthy food’. Frame it as doing them a favour.

stbrandonsboat · 19/06/2023 12:32

I eat healthily, but if I'm within a sniff of something tasty I turn into an absolute gannet and can't control myself 😂 lentils and herbal tea aren't fun.

2bazookas · 19/06/2023 12:33

What is WRONG with you OP? Why didn't you return their sneer/comments in kind at every hypocritical gobble of your deadly white bread, potatoes, cake ?

Friends are people it's safe to have a hot discussion and lose your temper with.

Hoppinggreen · 19/06/2023 12:34

At least you don’t live with them.
DH is into neutrogenics, watches very tedious YouTube videos on it and used to comment on everything the rest of us ate (has stopped that after being told to Bugger off). He makes revolting Keto bakes and mug cakes which have to be chipped off the side of the mug like concrete but then my chocolate or similar vanishes and if I ask if he ate it he says he didn’t but he didn’t enjoy it as it was far too sweet

MooseBreath · 19/06/2023 12:35

I don't think your food even sounds that bad! You ate salmon, spinach and asparagus, ffs!

WandaWonder · 19/06/2023 12:51

I don't get them but I just happily eat what I want they don't bother me

TheOrigRights · 19/06/2023 13:18

Your title is a bit broad - this is really just about your friends being twats.

littleripper · 19/06/2023 13:27

I had a friend who did this. We saw them 2x afterwards but then knocked the whole relationship on the head when the man - who was far more dominant in the whole thing - had a tantrum that we were drinking wine containing whatever hideous poisons witter witter bore off, and then polished off a whole bottle secretively having only eaten fruit/salad all day and vomited all over the side of my car. Then blamed the sulphates in the wine and being really nasty. What a twat.

Thundercats77 · 19/06/2023 13:28

I would have told them that I simply can't let them eat this food (your food) as they are doing so well on their new healthy eating lifestyle. And then I would eat all my food slowly and say how good it is in front of them.

GoldfincTart · 19/06/2023 13:29

TheOrigRights · 19/06/2023 13:18

Your title is a bit broad - this is really just about your friends being twats.

At least one person on this short thread has confessed to being the same.

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IwishIcouldButIcantSoIwont · 19/06/2023 13:29

They sound boring fuckers

Thundercats77 · 19/06/2023 13:30

@littleripper thats soo funny. What an arse! Not great for your car though.