AIBU about 'healthy eaters' who scoff your 'naughty' food while telling you how much harm it's doing you?

[GoldfincTart]

We were away camping this weekend with friends we haven't seen for about 18 months. They talked a lot about how they'd completely overhauled their diet. Fair play, they look great on it and we could learn a few tips from them.

Their breakfast was home-made spelt crackers eaten with home-made hummus and radishes and carrot sticks. They drank herb or green tea. We had bacon sandwiches on sourdough from the wholefood shop and ordinary tea. We wouldn't normally have bacon sandwiches, but we were on holiday and had an active day planned. They were 'White bread! Bacon! Yorkshire Tea! Do you know what that's doing to your body?' — and then later in the day asked whether we could spare them a slice or two of bread with real butter, because for them it was a treat. We did. And it went on. DH and I got back from a 7-mile walk and a swim and had tea and a slice of the lemon drizzle cake I'd made. I didn't offer them any because obviously it's not the kind of thing they would eat. And next thing they were 'Oh, if it's home-made... so bad for us, but just a little slice.' Or two, as it turned out. For dinner they had a big green salad and a lentil salad. We had salmon with asparagus, spinach and Jersey Royals with lemon and butter. Although they 'never eat potatoes' they were salivating over ours and quietly finished off the rest of the Jerseys, which I'd cooked with the intention of making potato salad for the next day. They helped themselves to all our 'bad' snacks, they even asked for a coffee. 'We don't drink coffee, it's so bad for you, but if you're making one...'

Then at the end of it when we said goodbye it was 'You two are terrible with all your naughty food, it's back to healthy eating tomorrow.' So bloody rude, surely?

I once went out for lunch with a friend. She went on and on about how broke she was and I said ‘well I’ll get this, then, what are you having?’ She ordered the most expensive dish on the menu, fish with rice and salad. Then she sat and gazed longingly at my Yorkshire puddings until I offered her one. Next time I saw her, she gave me lecture about how ’you are what you eat.’

ex friend now

People absolutely have the right to their strong beliefs but when they start lecturing me or criticising my lifestyle it really passes me off. I usually go down the route of reminding them that you have to die of something and that there are way too many people on our planet as it is!

What a bunch of twats. And tight aswell. Eating all your food.

Annoying smug people. I would have said no I don't think you should eat our carbs as you are so particular. We subscribe to the all things in moderation philosophy. Let's just both eat what we want with no judgement. I lean towards healthy eating 90% of the time but it is more tricky when on holiday.

People on here have weird friends. IRL, people get on with their friends and food isn’t an issue.

Watch 'Nuts In May'
Alison Steadman acting and her then husband Mike Leigh directing.
Wish I could link but too old now 😴

I did try and make fun of it, but they got defensive a couple of times and insisted on telling us exactly why potatoes or sugar were seriously bad for us.

it’s shocking how relieved I am you answered them back!! I hope you laughed when they gave their speeches! Dh has lost a few stone over the last two years by overhauling his diet similar to your friends but it’s more he started drinking water, he cut out/down on fizzy drinks/crisps/fizzy haribo and eating after 8. For his first few months it was all he spoke about to everyone- he said he was driving himself nuts, but people would say he looked much better and off he’d go. He’s stopped saying it now but he said you just think you can help people who say ‘I wish I could do x’

I eat pretty healthy but would bend the rules while camping, not criticise other people's food and certainly not grab theirs unless offered. Not drinking even coffee sounds very tedious.

I know one person like this and he's a raging grandiose narcissist. It's quite amusing actually because it's so easy to trigger him and he doesn't seem to realise he's being played. We'd deliberately order something carb-y or open snacks in front of him and count down the seconds before the diatribe starts coming.

Having recovered from an eating disorder I genuinely will not be around people like this. I don't know how you bore it.

Beside the point, but @GoldfincTart your camping food sounds delicious 🤤

We haven’t been camping in years but pretty sure we’d have bacon sandwiches for breakie - you’re on holiday for goodness sake and camping is hard work 😅 (& probably why we haven’t been for donkeys!!)

They sound really annoying. I have a friend like that - she claims to be vegan and talks about it all the time, but will eat sausages and burgers at the bbq.

There is nothing as boring as hearing about other peoples nights out or their current diets. So effing boring! I eat healthily but wouldn’t comment on others choices. They are rude!

Rude. I wouldn’t have shared.

So they berated you for what you were eating & then ate it also because???

What on earth was ‘wrong’ with Jersey Royals anyway? They sound bonkers, as well as being CFs.
Like a pp, I’d have been tempted to say, ‘Sorry, I can’t possibly let you have any of that, I’d be too worried that it’d make you ill, when your systems are so unused to our sort of food.’

I'd have taen the potatoes away & said that they were for another meal for us.

If you were making your own meals why were they helping themselves to yours?

I watched this in the 70s when it was first on and never forgot it - then I watched it again recently and realised that it was Alison Steadman. How pretty she was - well she still is very attractive. It's one of those films/programmes that stay with you.

You're far too generous and tolerant. After the first hilarious lecture they'd have been told to fuck right off and forget about snaffling any of my food!

Your food sounds like a great balance of healthy and tasty, theirs sounds verging on miserable.

Omg I couldn’t cope with this!

I can’t stand people who are all high and mighty over food anyway.
But to eat your food and then blame you for it is a slap in the face.

I know someone who does this but she’ll say she won’t eat this or that because she wants to stay slim, yet almost every time I see her she’s eating cake or chocolate. Then the salad comes out and she starts again about how she’d love to eat whatever she wants but can’t because she has to stay slim, then gets a bowl of chips at lunch. The other day she ate her lunch at 10am and kept going on about how she won’t eat until tomorrow now and then I saw her scoffing chips.
She is slimmer than me and much slimmer than most people we work with so I don’t get it.

I'm amazed that several people on this thread have actually confessed to being like your friends! they sound absolutely horrendous.

I do agree with other posters though, surely the mark of a good friendship is the ability to utterly piss take any ridiculousness, if you'd started teasing them the moment they had their first nibble of your food it might not have aggravated you to the point where you're now willing to never see them again!

Omg I’m glad she’s an ex friend now.

Sorry they sound like nut jobs with weirdly restrictive diets. They need a life.

What's wrong with potatoes ! Seriously these people have no idea.

Bacon sandwiches, Yorkshire tea and lemon drizzle cake - I'll go camping with you instead of those miserable lot.

"Oh I couldn't possibly lead you from the straight and narrow. As your friend, I'd never forgive myself for sabotaging all your good efforts".

Said with a gentle smile as you firmly put the cake away or transfer the potatoes to a tupperware box.