AIBU about 'healthy eaters' who scoff your 'naughty' food while telling you how much harm it's doing you?

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We were away camping this weekend with friends we haven't seen for about 18 months. They talked a lot about how they'd completely overhauled their diet. Fair play, they look great on it and we could learn a few tips from them.

Their breakfast was home-made spelt crackers eaten with home-made hummus and radishes and carrot sticks. They drank herb or green tea. We had bacon sandwiches on sourdough from the wholefood shop and ordinary tea. We wouldn't normally have bacon sandwiches, but we were on holiday and had an active day planned. They were 'White bread! Bacon! Yorkshire Tea! Do you know what that's doing to your body?' — and then later in the day asked whether we could spare them a slice or two of bread with real butter, because for them it was a treat. We did. And it went on. DH and I got back from a 7-mile walk and a swim and had tea and a slice of the lemon drizzle cake I'd made. I didn't offer them any because obviously it's not the kind of thing they would eat. And next thing they were 'Oh, if it's home-made... so bad for us, but just a little slice.' Or two, as it turned out. For dinner they had a big green salad and a lentil salad. We had salmon with asparagus, spinach and Jersey Royals with lemon and butter. Although they 'never eat potatoes' they were salivating over ours and quietly finished off the rest of the Jerseys, which I'd cooked with the intention of making potato salad for the next day. They helped themselves to all our 'bad' snacks, they even asked for a coffee. 'We don't drink coffee, it's so bad for you, but if you're making one...'

Then at the end of it when we said goodbye it was 'You two are terrible with all your naughty food, it's back to healthy eating tomorrow.' So bloody rude, surely?

@stbrandonsboat

I eat healthily, but if I'm within a sniff of something tasty I turn into an absolute gannet and can't control myself.

LOOOOOOOOL!

There's more than a few mumsnetters like this on the diet threads. Although whether they would eat your lemon drizzle I'm not sure.

Ah, I see you've met my in-laws.

Your dinner sounds healthier than theirs. Hooray for Yorkshire Tea.

You should have stopped them eating the leftover potatoes that you planned making a potato salad with.

I am far from being a food bore like the OP's friends but, whisper it, raw mushrooms are actually quite nice, sliced into a bit of olive oil, garlic and black pepper.

I suspect you wouldn’t have a problem with sharing your food with them if they weren’t being so rude and superior in the first place. They sound like a drag. Craving lemon drizzle cake now!

Can’t believe you didn’t take the piss out of them every single time! I would have literally chortled whilst polishing off my dinner

I eat healthily, BMI 21, but this is tedious!! Everyone needs a break and some joy in their lives. I never lecture anyone and it’s all about balance.
I don’t find that strict type of regime sustainable for many people in my experience. They’re still craving it which is why they nicked yours.

Another year or two when you’re very much older is huge and I’d take it any day.

You never said anything?!

They sound boring tbh. I can't stand people who comment on what others eat and act all superior because of their own diets. Add into the mix the fact that they kept pinching your food and it would be the last time I went anywhere with them.

They took your JERSEY ROYALS?! 😧

If they'd tried that with mine they'd have lost an arm! I LOVE jersey royals - I cook them up and keep them in the fridge and eat them like other people eat sweets.

Barstewards.

I presume I'm not the only one who has just watched Nuts In May.

If I'd been camping with you, I'd have had salmon, lentil salad, jersey royals, spinach, asparagus and a wee bit of salad on the side. I'd be so happy.

So, when are you next going camping.

I last watched "Nuts in May" about 40 years ago! It was fab - is it being shown again? Which channel?

"Kiss Pwudence" 😂

It's available here and there online. Tempted to watch it again myself.

I’ll admit I have been these people 😂 it’s a fing nightmare to get out of the good and bad food mindset once you get in it. Slimmingworld, weight watchers, keto, and genuinely growing up with everyone telling you all the nice things are bad/ treats can end up with some seriously bad relationships with food and once you think you’ve “cracked” the code you come across as a smug twat when really you’re just putting such strict rules on food you’ve put yourself in an all or nothing mindset. On the way home I bet they stopped off and had “one last naughty treat” but there will always be more excuses. I’ll apologise for them in leu of whoever I’ve managed to do it to in my lifetime of trying to repair my relationship with food 😅 I’ll admit I’m still going and I have a little help from adhd medication which (even now the appetite suppression has massively settled out )helps me not hyperfixate on either food or dieting I’m seeing food as what it is and don’t let it take over my life. (Prescribed for actual adhd I didn’t get it to lose weight 😂 overeating and over correcting were a hugeeee part of my diagnosis)

I'm currently working on repairing a lifetime's unhealthy relationship with food and disordered eating, so they would have pissed me right off. Getting out of that good food/bad food mindset is difficult enough, without being lectured on perfectly normal meals like fish, vegetables and potatoes (one of the healthiest carbs you can eat FFS)

I would never mind sharing but to blame you would get me raging! Also hardly sounds like you eat ‘bad’ foods anyway. I’m mad for you

At what point in the last 30 years did asparagus, salmon and potatoes with spinach become “naughty food”?!?? or bread and butter, for that matter, unless they are diabetics?
Crackers and carrot sticks for breakfast… “At home, Nathaniel sits on a spike”.
Written with amused bitterness as I have Crohn’s and raw veggies are delicious forbidden anathema to me at the moment 😉 Since I got an illness that forces a restricted diet and sometimes means I can’t eat at all, people not allowing others who can to enjoy their food without judgement have begun to get on my nerves.

Your friends' idea of good and "bad" foods is a bit warped.

I say this on a regular basis 🤣

When my lad was little, my personal trainer brother would lecture me on feeding my son processed foods, like the kids tinned pasta. Fast forward 15 years and his car is littered with McDonald's wrappers and leftovers from his little darlings and he's now chunkier, though still at pt. My lad on the other hand is now a fit toned slender man and my brother is rather sheepish over the choices a working parent sometimes needs to make 🤣

😂

They sound tedious.

From time to time my husband will announce he's giving up carbs. This involves him digging his 'omelette maker' out of the cupboard. (Who the fuck has an omelette maker? You can cook one in 1 minute in a pan). Which then lives dirty on the side for however long this goes on because I won't clean it. I give him double vegetables and no carbs for dinner and he stands in the kitchen every evening eating dry cream crackers straight out of the cupboard.