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AIBU about 'healthy eaters' who scoff your 'naughty' food while telling you how much harm it's doing you?

134 replies

GoldfincTart · 19/06/2023 11:45

We were away camping this weekend with friends we haven't seen for about 18 months. They talked a lot about how they'd completely overhauled their diet. Fair play, they look great on it and we could learn a few tips from them.

Their breakfast was home-made spelt crackers eaten with home-made hummus and radishes and carrot sticks. They drank herb or green tea. We had bacon sandwiches on sourdough from the wholefood shop and ordinary tea. We wouldn't normally have bacon sandwiches, but we were on holiday and had an active day planned. They were 'White bread! Bacon! Yorkshire Tea! Do you know what that's doing to your body?' — and then later in the day asked whether we could spare them a slice or two of bread with real butter, because for them it was a treat. We did. And it went on. DH and I got back from a 7-mile walk and a swim and had tea and a slice of the lemon drizzle cake I'd made. I didn't offer them any because obviously it's not the kind of thing they would eat. And next thing they were 'Oh, if it's home-made... so bad for us, but just a little slice.' Or two, as it turned out. For dinner they had a big green salad and a lentil salad. We had salmon with asparagus, spinach and Jersey Royals with lemon and butter. Although they 'never eat potatoes' they were salivating over ours and quietly finished off the rest of the Jerseys, which I'd cooked with the intention of making potato salad for the next day. They helped themselves to all our 'bad' snacks, they even asked for a coffee. 'We don't drink coffee, it's so bad for you, but if you're making one...'

Then at the end of it when we said goodbye it was 'You two are terrible with all your naughty food, it's back to healthy eating tomorrow.' So bloody rude, surely?

OP posts:
Thepeopleversuswork · 19/06/2023 13:32

I can't abide people who are smug about their eating disorders food. Eat what you want but if you lecture me about healthy eating I will drop you. Life's too short.

DarkChoc33 · 19/06/2023 13:33

Your food sounds delicious OP and other than the white bread is perfectly healthy to have. Pulses like lentils makes me nauseous. They don’t know what they’re talking about either, coffee is good for you!

littleripper · 19/06/2023 13:35

@Thundercats77 we are farmers - the cars are not clean in any case. DH pressure washed it off whilst he was having his tantrum. I just gave up and started laughing hysterically at him which did not go down very well. 😂

Seasonofthewitch83 · 19/06/2023 13:37

Fucking hell. Food isnt naughty. It has no moral value.

They are def projecting because if they were happy with their diet they wouldnt talk about yours.

hattie43 · 19/06/2023 13:37

Haha this made me laugh , I have a colleague who eats crap , think chocolate bars , cakes , monster drinks , sausage bacon breakfast baps all morning and afternoon yet spouts forth about the sugar in my fruit being bad for me . The irony .

Thundercats77 · 19/06/2023 13:38

Do your friends do it so they can get approval and encouragement?
I have a MIL who would declare I've cut back on xyz and I don't have sugar in the evenings yet would eat a spoonful of dessert if there was any.

Her daughter does the same now and will say x has y in it so I can't eat that etc etc and I can only eat xy and z.....
I don't care and I haven't asked!

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 19/06/2023 13:40

I've got no time for performative undereaters or food shamers of any kind. Take solace in the fact that they were clearly jealous of your food and it was obviously delicious.

Ihavekids · 19/06/2023 13:42

This is exactly the kind of shit I do.

I'd fully expect my friends to roast me constantly about it. I know I deserve it.

GloomySkies · 19/06/2023 13:42

I'm going to be buying Jersey royals, salmon and asparagus in my next shop. Yum. And maybe make a cucumber mint and feta salad. You really should have told these moochers to get their grubby hands off your food.

Orangetang · 19/06/2023 13:45

So they got defensive when you teased them but still think it’s ok to bang on and on and on to you?

Potatoes are not “seriously” bad for people. They are clearly u able to maintain their diet so it’s obviously not working is it.

I’d be seriously bored with that level of projecting and contradiction whilst on holiday.

AlyssumandHelianthus · 19/06/2023 13:48

I think you need to take the piss out of them a bit more!

Topseyt123 · 19/06/2023 13:55

They sound very tedious, and cheeky fuckers to boot.

I could be tempted to wind them up over it. 😉😂

HideousKinky · 19/06/2023 13:58

This reminds me of a friend who would always refuse dessert because it's SOOOO bad for you, then try to eat her husband's.... it really pissed him off every time (understandably)

Itisyourturntowashthebath · 19/06/2023 13:59

Well done for recuing your friends from their disordered eating.

Sounds like they had a really healthy diet (with the combination of your food and theirs) and they couldn't have done it without you.

Hopefully they will have calmed down by the next time you see them.

Thundercats77 · 19/06/2023 14:01

@littleripper thats hilarious!

MrsLully · 19/06/2023 14:24

Oh I'd be fuming. The cheek! They haven't stopped smoking, they just like to pinch fags from everybody else!

TwoFluffyDogsOnMyBed · 19/06/2023 14:28

Your dinner was far healthier than theirs. Protein, omega 3, green veg and potatoes aren’t bad. They had no decent protein or easily absorbable nutrients.

TheOrigRights · 19/06/2023 14:30

Ihavekids · 19/06/2023 13:42

This is exactly the kind of shit I do.

I'd fully expect my friends to roast me constantly about it. I know I deserve it.

Why do you keep doing it then? Or is it a running joke with friends now?

Recoveringcynic · 19/06/2023 14:36

I find it so sad that the state of knowledge regarding what is healthy eating is so poor, that they (and others) think their diet is so infinitely superior. The reason why we are a nation of overweight people is because many people think their version of healthy eating is how it has to be, when it's totally unsustainable.

Ihavekids · 19/06/2023 14:36

TheOrigRights · 19/06/2023 14:30

Why do you keep doing it then? Or is it a running joke with friends now?

I guess I do it because I really, really care about eating right, but then get distracted by other people's food. Yours sounded absolutely delicious 😋

I'm really, really sorry.

Nordicrain · 19/06/2023 14:39

Well of course that soudns annoying. BUT my takeaway from your post is how you like to paint your "friends" out to be absolute dickheads while you are wonderful with all your good quality home made food. It gives a very weird vibe and seems pretty smug. If you don't like them, don't go away with them again.

Overrunwithlego · 19/06/2023 14:47

To be honest you all ate pretty healthy for a camping trip. Salmon, asparagus and new potatoes - CAMPING? Christ I normally eat very healthily but barely manage more than sausages, burgers and kettle chips whilst camping.

MagicTape · 19/06/2023 14:52

I had a colleague years ago who did this. We had a staff kitchen / sofa area where people went to eat lunch and she'd come and nose into everyone's food and in a really odd oo-er Matron way would say "oooh! Naaaaaughty!" if she saw anything she thought was unhealthy. On a Friday lots of us used to go to the chip shop and she'd do this "ooh! Shall I be a DIRTY GIRL and have some!" routine in a tone of voice that suggested she'd been offered a trip to the nearest seedy sex shop. When there was chocolate / cake on offer for a birthday she'd perform a dramatic monologue about it before (always) having some.

In the end I got pissed off with her and told her that calling food naughty and dirty could cause anyone who'd had an ED to relapse. She huffed off and never spoke to me again which was a result, although I could still hear her honking away in the kitchen from where I sat.

ohdamnitjanet · 19/06/2023 15:40

I’d have bought a giant Toblerone and shoved it up their arse.

C1N1C · 19/06/2023 15:45

Tell them that the life expectancy of the healthiest European country compared to the UK is only two years... and at that age, do you really care about a year or two? Are you in a fit state to enjoy that extra time anyway?

So they can eat as healthy as they like, it's not going to make a massive difference.