How old were you when you had your last baby.

[summerfinn]

I was 22 having my first and will be 37 having my last. Just wanted to see is 37 a common age for having your last baby. I never dreamt I'd be pregnant at 37 . I always thought that it was a bit old. Now I'm scared that I'm just being selfish and could have a baby with lots of issues.

I was actually using ‘your’ in a more general sense, but it’s not just about going to university either. Traditional values and ideals in general are not always feasible in this day and age. Buying your own home is completely out of reach for many people. I’m not sure what you mean by ‘established relationship’ as most people aren’t just creating babies left right and centre just on a whim. If you mean marriage though, that certainly not always in the best interest (for women). I’m so glad I didn’t marry my ex, but we were certainly in an ‘established relationship’ in every other sense. Marriage is certainly not essential to have a family these days.

I was 27. It just worked out that way.

29, I wanted done by 30

I'm actually educated to postgraduate level, if you're going to try and be insulting 🤣 and I don't know, tbh, because I only know one person like that in real life and I do quietly judge her life choices. But then her son was born after a ONS with God knows who and she's been supported by the tax payer ever since, so probably not a good example!

Look, it's horses for courses, I wouldn't have had kids without being married and I was 29 when I met the man married. Had that happened earlier I'm sure I'd have had kids earlier but I'd have still gone to Uni, travelled and bought my own property first. And if you want goady, read the OP!

I had babies when I was 16, 17, 18, 22, 26 and 28.

38

Snooty by name, snooty by nature hey!? @TheSnootiestFox just because it went well and to your perfect plan, and life hasn't come knocking you down (yet!) You shouldn't assume you are better than others. You might have been an older more experience mum, but still clearly a bit of a cow 🤣 let's hope you don't pass that lovely life lesson on to your kids!
Anywayyyyy, I was 29 first, 32 second (and third!) But pretty much youngest amongst friends most of whom don't even have children yet and are around 35.

And yet the royal family pop out goodness knows how many kids (and certainly one or two with questionable parentage) on tax payers money and we all stand around and celebrate them.

Did you know most working families these days get benefits as a top up to work? Not just your blue collar workers but those whose jobs used to pay to keep a wife at home and 2/3 children with a mortgage and extras? Do you think only the ones with a certain wage and traditional family setup should be allowed to consider having children? Because you’re beyond being a bit judgmental in the tone of your posts, it’s borderline social eugenics attitude.

40

There are a handful of mums under 40 at my daughters reception class gates. Get over yourself.

Well, I'd call it being a responsible adult myself........

Can you not understand how your messages come across or do you lack the critical thinking skills? Although that would be surprising for someone educated to postgrad level [headtilt, tinkly laugh]

My life has been so far from perfect its untrue as it goes. However, I'm not a cow. Being a cow would involve calling people silly names...oh wait a minute! 😂

Did you not read the OP that I was initially responding to? [head tilt and very tinkly laugh]

Just because you think it, doesn’t mean it is. All the education in the world doesn’t make you wholly correct just because you hold deep set beliefs and opinions. Your lifestyle works for you and your children, as exhaustingly boring and narrow as it seems to others. It obviously gave you some sense of achievement, but it doesn’t mean you have done it the absolute correct way, it’s simply your way.

38 first and last!

@TheSnootiestFox if you really can't understand the way you're coming across to many, many people right now then this is a bit of a hopeless conversation isn't it.
You carry on with the stick up your jacksie and let's just hope you haven't effected your sensational children too badly with your outdated, antiquated, offensive attitude towards people you deem to be "lower" than you. Damn those benefits scrounging young mums, to the gallows I say and children to the workhouse!

DC1 @ 17 and now I will be having DC4 at 28. I am actually quite gutted the baby years aren’t going to last longer, I love everything that comes with them. If I could I would have eeked out this phase into my 30’s.
My mum had me at 38 and although I always wished she was slightly younger, it’s had minimal impact on my life.

I was 35 when I had my first and 38 when I had.my daughter. I'm 41 this year. Definitely done, husband is booked in for the snip in a few weeks time.

Yes I did, someone who is pregnant, hormonal and potentially worried about ‘doing it all again’ vs you who was just intentionally goody and offensive to many.

You must be able to see, with your education level, how badly your first and subsequent messages have come across. There are many messages highlighting this to you but you choose to ignore them.

*goady

Now you are being ridiculous. Are you feeling OK, seriously? 🙁all I said was, in response to a post saying that the OP felt selfish having a baby at 37 that may have issues, that actually having kids later worked for me because I felt I was in a better position to be a parent. I have never once mentioned young mums, benefits or anything else you rant about. I personally would never have had kids without the commitment of marriage but that's my choice. I personally think it's a shame that more people don't think like that but again that's probably more upbringing and being a practising Christian more than anything. I like having a traditional outlook and I very much like the two young men that our parenting and a traditional upbringing has produced, and a lot of that is because I have a wealth of knowledge and experience gleaned from age 21 to now to pass on and make sure they are placed to have pretty fab lives themselves. If I'd had them at 22, they wouldn't have had the same father, opportunities or experiences they've had and I don't see what's wrong with saying I think I made the right choices. Now off you pop with your socialist rantings and I hope you feel better soon!

‘ I have never once mentioned young mums, benefits or anything else you rant about.’

@TheSnootiestFox this you bab?

’and I don't know, tbh, because I only know one person like that in real life and I do quietly judge her life choices. But then her son was born after a ONS with God knows who and she's been supported by the tax payer ever since, so probably not a good example!’

@TheSnootiestFox Oh Gosh you really don't have a grip on reality do you... your literal whole post, and subsequent ones, have been about judging young mums.
Also "But then her son was born after a ONS with God knows who and she's been supported by the tax payer ever since, so probably not a good example!"
If that isn't a pop at someone claiming benefits then I'd like to see one.
You, dear, are clearly a nutcase... off you should pop - to the mirror!

I was 21 when I had our first, husband was 22. We owned our home having bought during my pregnancy. Both had graduated, and a decent income between the 2 of us (granted I was off work for mat leave). We finally got married when I was 24. But I guess we are the anomaly there