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Shamed for going to Pizza Express

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Pizzaexpressshame · 17/06/2023 19:15

This has been on my mind for a few days. Newish friend and I met up one time and I told her how I was in the same area just a week ago with a friend and we had lunch at pizza express. We planned to meet but not much else, so when we got there we were hungry and PE was just the next thing we walked by.

She pulled a face, saying why pizza express, she knows better places, why did you go there etc. A couple weeks later I met her again at a place she chose and had been to before, which also did pizza and pasta. After we ate she said to me 'So what do you think of this place? I find it much better than Pizza Express'. I just said the food was nice but nothing I hadn't had before.

I felt so looked down upon as if I needed to be shown a better place to have lunch at. I find this friend generally exhausting, as in every conversation, every topic, she needs to come out on top. She had also made some racist remarks a few months ago, which I let slide.

Anyway, I have decided I let go of things friend and know how I am going to do it if she wants to meet up again. I won't ghost her. It was on my mind all week, but I feel really good about myself now. Putting myself first and being assertive. I'll find myself another new friend as I don't feel great around her.

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AllThatTwitters · 17/06/2023 20:37

Pizzaexpressshame · 17/06/2023 19:24

@BennyBlancofromtheBronx @hattyhathat she made those remarks at the very start and I couldn't or didn't want to believe she really thinks like that. I was hoping I could connect to her and find out a bit more about her, hoping I'd be proved wrong. In hindsight I was weak and desperate to be out and about with someone.

i don’t think this was weak or desperate, @Pizzaexpressshame you were just open to the fact that she might become a friend. I’m sorry that this was a let down end.

MrsMcisaCt · 17/06/2023 20:38

She's a snob isn't she? Pizza Express are excellent with my DS's allergies, so I love it there. If she annoys you this much, she's not much of a friend is she? I wouldn't bother meeting up with her again.

Iknowthis1 · 17/06/2023 20:39

Just phase yourself out by being unavailable. She'll get the message eventually.

Lacucuracha · 17/06/2023 20:41

She had also made some racist remarks a few months ago, which I let slide.

You did lose me here but sounds like you now have the measure of her.

Just dump her for good.

Pizzaexpressshame · 17/06/2023 20:42

@Motorcycleemptyness completely agree. And the service and hospitality is usually on another level at the two Turkish places I go to. It might have to do with the fact that they are independent.

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ImAMinion · 17/06/2023 20:42

Some people are just like this sadly.

People like to be one up on you. You say you bought Dulux paint, they’ll say they only use Farrow and Ball. You say you’ve booked a TUI flight to Mexico, they’ll start they refuse to fly anything other than Virgin. You worked your backside off to get that degree? Well their journey was ten times harder. You took a month to sell your house? Well they’ve got people queuing outside for theirs and will have a bidding war within a day because it’s so amazing.

Pizza Express suits me to the T. Agree with previous poster about the pesto chicken pasta. Likewise the goats cheese and red onion pizza. And the freebies from the app. I’ve been in better places and worse. PE is a nice safety bet.

I can’t deal with snobby people. I’ve learnt to just fire back. Always catches them off guard. Can be fun.

goshitsturnedwarm · 17/06/2023 20:43

Pizzaexpressshame · 17/06/2023 19:15

This has been on my mind for a few days. Newish friend and I met up one time and I told her how I was in the same area just a week ago with a friend and we had lunch at pizza express. We planned to meet but not much else, so when we got there we were hungry and PE was just the next thing we walked by.

She pulled a face, saying why pizza express, she knows better places, why did you go there etc. A couple weeks later I met her again at a place she chose and had been to before, which also did pizza and pasta. After we ate she said to me 'So what do you think of this place? I find it much better than Pizza Express'. I just said the food was nice but nothing I hadn't had before.

I felt so looked down upon as if I needed to be shown a better place to have lunch at. I find this friend generally exhausting, as in every conversation, every topic, she needs to come out on top. She had also made some racist remarks a few months ago, which I let slide.

Anyway, I have decided I let go of things friend and know how I am going to do it if she wants to meet up again. I won't ghost her. It was on my mind all week, but I feel really good about myself now. Putting myself first and being assertive. I'll find myself another new friend as I don't feel great around her.

So you were happy to overlook racism ?

DrPrunesqaullor · 17/06/2023 20:48

She sounds rude and a bit of a bully.
Is she failing in life, not doing aswell as you. That’s usually the reason.
Time to move on

SleepingStandingUp · 17/06/2023 20:49

You seem more bothered she doesn't like PE than the fact she's racist...

Thehippowife · 17/06/2023 20:49

It’s good enough for prince andrew …..🤣🤣🤣

Pizzaexpressshame · 17/06/2023 20:50

@SleepingStandingUp I'm not bothered she doesn't like PE. I'm bothered by the way she treats me and how I feel in her company.

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BCBird · 17/06/2023 20:52

So she's a racist food critic is she?

Pizzaexpressshame · 17/06/2023 20:52

@DrPrunesqaullor that's subjective and in all these months I couldnt get to know her well enough to know what's important to her. I know she wants to buy a house in UK (moved her a few months ago from Asia) and this hasn't worked out as she can't afford what she wants.

Other than that I don't know much about her. It's not been possible to find out. All I know is that I'm being looked down upon for absolutely anything.

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Pizzaexpressshame · 17/06/2023 20:53

BCBird · 17/06/2023 20:52

So she's a racist food critic is she?

Plus people critic 😂

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GeorgeMichaelsCat · 17/06/2023 20:54

YABU for not dropping her ages ago

Hotsummerlatenightstrolls · 17/06/2023 20:56

YABU for over thinking it you like pizza express that's all that matters. It's all the same to me personally.

JazzyBBG · 17/06/2023 20:57

Pizza Express is in a bad way, hardly any left. We need to save them! Tell her you are doing your bit for the economy to save another casualty. She sounds a right snobby cow.

Scirocco · 17/06/2023 20:57

The only unreasonable thing here is that you let the racist remarks slide initially. But well done on deciding to get rid.

For what it's worth, DC and I love Pizza Express. Doughballs, nice pizza without being swamped in excessive grease, child-friendly... What's not to like for a casual lunch?

ForTheSakeOfThePenguin · 17/06/2023 20:58

Ragwort · 17/06/2023 19:18

People love to be snobbish about chain restaurants ....

Agree. I hate Wagamama with an absolute passion as well as Ask, Nando’s, Slug & Lettuce, Bill’s and any restaurant owned by Jamie Oliver. But to my defence I looove Burger King. (I have no excuses, shame on me!)

CurlewKate · 17/06/2023 21:01

I never buy pizza because I'm always disappointed -I do make excellent pizza. But I love wagamamas!

lastminutewednesday · 17/06/2023 21:08

Ha!
My dh loathes pizza express. I LOVE it. Never had a bad meal there. The kids love it. It's easy and decent value for money. We (the kids and I ) go all the time. We leave grumplestiltskin dh at home!

ForTheSakeOfThePenguin · 17/06/2023 21:12

Ignore her, she is entitled to her views but that doesn’t mean she can put you down. I would be tempted to bin her if she is a newish friend,she doesn’t sound like a nice person, she appears to be the kind of person who pushes people down to feel she is better.

OpenDoors72 · 17/06/2023 21:17

"She had also made some racist remarks a few months ago, which I let slide."

YABU for pizza not the above being the tipping point...

The pizza bit wouldn't bother me at all.

red78hot · 17/06/2023 21:17

Yabu for making me want a pizza or pizza express now at this time, when I've done so well on my diet this week 😅

WonderingWanda · 17/06/2023 21:23

She would have lost me at the racist remarks to be honest!

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