To think the parents of children who are in childcare would like to see them more often?

[tori32]

I CM and have several sets of parents who finish work early on many occasions who never collect their child early. I know I am paid and it does not bother me in the slightest to look after them for their agreed hours, I just feel sorry for the child because they are missing out on this extra time with parents who work full time.

I was a working mum for 3 months (as in not CM) but always collected dd early when I finished early because I wanted to spend time with her. AIBU?

And don't judge nice mums, with excellent childcare by the same standards as that old slag you saw on your estage, fgs!

Kerry - are you saying that I should never leave my child in nursery at all? - you seem to be saying that .

tori next time your child attends GP,School,hospital,goes grocery shopping with you it might be one of us pesky working mums meet your needsmaybe even me...

Oh, soapbox, that's not a good argument for being non- judgemental is it? The majority of sahm's in my circle don't claim benefits.

Yes Mrs R - it's been life-saving. My dad is terminally ill too - he only has days left now, or a week at most, so would have fallen apart without DH around so I could go and visit my pops. Sorry to bring that into the thread, not meaning to bring a good old barney down with something so sad.

Ah, thanks scottishmummy!
got cha

And I'm afraid you're loosing me tori, with your "I understand some people need a break but why not have that when they go to bed?" You can't do many things once they are in bed, and, whether you work in or out of home, whether its for yourself, an employer, or minding your own children, the 2 hours between their bedtime and yours is not long enough to do everything.

Especially if there's a CSI night on or something

Scottishmummy has a special potion for children of SAHM's . It's odourless and colourless. You better watch ooouuuut!

I'm glad you brought it in. My best wishes to you and your family

I've been a nursery nrse for 4 years, and in that short time it has amazed me just how many parents prefer to have "me" time over quality time with their child.
Don't get me wrong, every "normal" human being needs "me" time.. in fact, as soon as I informed my manager of my pregnancy, I told her I WOULD be returning to work - I knew this from the start.. not only for the money side of things, but also for the socialising, and to feel like I am someone else as well as "Mummy".
Now, I LOVE being Mummy. I adore my little boy. I love him more than I can say, but if I didn't work, I wouldn't be me!
I work a 3 day week, 8 until 6pm. Those 3 days are hard, but this is my "me" time. I LOVE my days off with my Son, I appreciate my time with him so much and of course, I always wish I didn't have to return to work when it gets to Wednesday, and if truth be told, if I had the money, I'd work less than I do. I sometimes feel guilty that Wed/Thur/Fri seems to merge into 1 and I don't get that quality time with my Son that I indulge in on my days off.
Now, some parents who I know/have known through my work place.
Take child A. Her father is a world famous motocross bloke, her grandparents own various national companies - needless to say, they have money! Child A comes to nursery 5 days a week, 8-5pm. Mum doesn't work, she spends her days shopping and relaxing. Since September (when Child A started in our room) Mum has collected her early possibly 3 times, because she was "bored".
Child B. Not in my room, but her 1st birthday was last week. She spent the whole day in nursery. Forgive me, but have these people heard of annual leave?
Child C, has, on a few occasions arrived in his pyjamas (and may I add, the previous nights nappy) having had sweets in the car for breakfast.. child C collected at 6pm, sweets or biscuits in the car, falls asleep before arriving home, placed into bed on arrival.
Child D was booked to travel to nursery on our nursery bus at 6 weeks old. Mother was not returning to work for another few months, so goodness knows why.
And the parents who arrive at 5.59.. sorry for being judgemental, but it seems a bit convenient that they arrive just a minute to closing time each evening - but hey - they've paid for the session until 6pm, right???
Enough said. It sickens me.

scottishmummy 'you could easily do my job' I beg to differ as it involves multitasking with children Also, I very much doubt you could assist with a laparoscopic hemicolectomy which is what I did in my previous working mum role
I am actually a working mum I just chose to work from home in stead of doing the 45 min commute each way in rush hour traffic attached to the 9hr day.

Well there are a lot of parents who have children with severe allergies who have to work KM - who don't have the choice not to!

mrs ruffalo - no indeed - it was a very good example of what being judgemental is about though, which is why I posted it!

not for indiscriminate use, oh no PRN for da stoopid hard of thinking types. not licensed for paeds

Tori, way off mark again.i have many clinical skills...pop round for some CPD or ajournal club, lets discuss evidence based interventions, clinical efficacy.oh you decide. i am waiting

shaqpe- those are very sad examples and you meant your point eloquently

Thanks Mrs R - you're a lady.

Kerrymum - I don't think ANYONE has said that they wouldn't sometimes get home to see the kids, and I have said that 9 times out of 10 I would rush home. However, sometimes you have to grab your moments of sanity where you can. Both DH and I are at home 7 days a week with our LO's at the moment. We give each other "fun passes" so that we get to spend half days away from the kids doing stuff like cinema (on our own!!!!), shopping or whatever. Are you saying that you wouldn't take up this kind of offer if it was given to you? If someone offered you half a day off AWAY from your kids, you wouldn't take it? When we are at work, we are WORKING you know. It's the same for us, some bonus free time is for US occasionally.

scottishmummy- now, that sounds like too much fun for anyone to handle

fletchaaar You do the same as I have to most weeks, shop online or do it at a weekend.

Sycamoretree, I'm sorry too

Scottishmummy, what is PRN?

shaq - you are talking about many things that are not parents taking a little time to themselves when they finish early at work.

There are some shit parents out there, that's for sure.

But there are shit parents who work and shit parents who stay at home. Using childcare doesn't necessarily make you a dreadful mother.

Bringing your children up to be judgemental and lacking empathy isn't a good idea and it is seemingly what some of you can aim for if they learn from your example.

tori again you fail to grasp the point by referring to your previous post not your curent CM post. But i do look forward to a comparative discussion about comparing the perioperative results and the oncological outcomes of laparoscopic hemicolectomy with those after open conventional hemicolectomy.