Aibu to not want my dd watching this at her dads?

[lovelyjubblymum]

Dd14 goes to her dad's every other weeks and they spend a lot of their time watching films "to bond" he says

The other day we saw the film This is England on TV guide and she told me she's seen it before w her dad. The film is 18 rated and is about skinheads, full of bad/racist language and violence. Aibu to not want her watching this?

My DH watches movies with our kid, too.
It’s something to do when he can’t be arsed. In terms of being 14, it’s an age when you’re very malleable. So, the ratings are there for a reason. But it’s a time of discovery too, if she’s expressed interest then fine.

To be honest at 14/15 I think there's very few things that I'd actively stop them watching.

Tbh, there’s nothing you can do about his parenting decisions and what she’s allowed to watch at his house, unless it’s an actual safeguarding issue.

14 is the bare minimum age for that film IMO

How is this 'bonding' watching this puerile this rubbish?

Have you ever actually seen the film, or the TV series. It is so far removed from 'puerile rubbish', that I actually think you had better wash your mouth out!!!

I would watch this with my daughter who is 15 later on this year.

Our teens would not be watching such things sorry kindof disturbing the amount who say they would allow young children to watch mind affecting films.

It's a brilliant film with some really top class actors, too.

Nothing in the least bit puerile about it.

14 isn’t a young child though, and watching films with key themes, discussing them with a safe adult is good for their development- she’ll see much worse online, which isn’t filtered or age rated.

Well they will and they will likely watch worse when you're not around. Nothing wrong with watching a film with difficult themes and being there to discuss them with a teenager.

Nothing to do with you tbh. When your children are with their dad that's his call

I think it's a great film for a 14 year old. It's not like it's a horror film with a silly plot, it's a thought provoking film.

The thing is, you don't really have any say over what she does at her dad's anyway unless there are safeguarding concerns.

It's a celebrated, well acted, thoughtful film about how some kids without a stable family background might feel that they belong in another sort of family, even if they don't realise how unpleasant the group is. A bit like gang members. It's not some shoot'emup nonsense. Be glad she's watching something thought-provoking and interesting.

This is England was a good film, from my recollection. It's probably actually a good film for a teen to watch as can provoke a lot of discussion on a lot of issues. I wouldn't have a problem with a 14 yr old watching it

But then, I'm not too bothered about swear words and violence in programmes, even for my pre-teens. The only films I'd not be too keen on for a 14 year old are ones with a lot of sexual content,.particularly if it's graphic, or ones which are scary (horror movies and the like)

Oh I apologise....I didn't realise there was a movie.

Well she's seen it now

It's done

I'm not sure I'd let my kids watch when 14, but maybe when they get there, I'll feel differently.

It's a fantastic film, certainly to be watched with an adult, to have the discussions afterwards. Doubt I'd let it happen at 14 though, 16 maybe.

I'd be mindful that watching the film may lead to them wanting to watch the follow up TV series. Again, fantastic television, but the first follow up series TIE 86, has a particularly harrowing rape scene.

Catch thank you for your comment but my mouth is quite clean thanks. I have seen the film and thought it was shit, It's not to my taste but each to their own.

Is that you Mary Whitehouse 😂

Get a grip.

By 14 my two were mature enough to watch anything really, they were both really into horror films, anything I felt had disturbing content we would discuss first and make a decision together. This wouldn't worry me at all, I'd much rather them be watching something thought provoking rather than crap like South Park (which they still watch anyway)

It doesn’t sound like a film I would watch with my teenage DGS. I wouldn’t police what his parents allow him to watch though. It’s a parental decision.

I think when it comes to film ratings you can use your parental discretion. Some ratings are really taking the piss - like Gremlins being rated 15.

I haven't seen this film myself - but there is a big difference between a film that acknowledges that racism happens and a film that celebrates racism, and I would be very surprised if any modern film features the latter.

Dead beat dad?

The mumsnet man hating vipers strike again!

What? People watch films together all the time!

I've not seen it, but isn't there a rape scene in This Is England? I am fairly agnostic about swearing in films (my almost 13yo watches some 15s providing we've seen them first), but an 18 cert normally takes things to another level and sexual violence is one of the factors. I wouldn't be happy with that, no.

My 13yo niece wants to watch Pulp Fiction. Her dad says it's ok, my sister says no. Some parents are overly permissive about the things they let their children watch. Squid Game is another example. Everyone seemed to be letting their junior aged child watch that. As a result our ds thought we were too strict not letting him.

I’d hardly call a BAFTA award winning film puerile or shit!

And 14 year olds love watching films and hate being seen out in public with their parents. Movie night sounds an absolutely fine bonding activity.