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How to surprise husband with his dream puppy for his birthday

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Safarigiraffe · 13/06/2023 21:34

Hi all, husbands birthday coming up & we have got him his dream puppy. What’s some ideas to surprise him with puppy other than just handing puppy over to him

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BellatrixLestrangesHeatedCurlers · 13/06/2023 23:16

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LumpyPumpkin · 13/06/2023 23:18

Safarigiraffe · 13/06/2023 21:46

We tried rescue but couldn’t find a rescue puppy

You know puppies grow up to be dogs. You could've adopted one of those.

LifeIsPainHighness · 13/06/2023 23:21

ilovesooty · 13/06/2023 23:04

Of course it's not a real dog.

One person's "sensitive disposition" is someone else's basic decency.

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Not sure how I’ve been indecent but OK.

I’ve told OP this is a bad idea.

I’m just not deluded to think everyone can get a rescue dog.

Sarahtm35 · 13/06/2023 23:22

Jellybebe · 13/06/2023 22:14

They most likely didn't give you a puppy because you and husband both still work and would not be around the walk the puppy. Take the hint, your lifestyle is not currently conducive to getting a puppy as your circumstances are such that you cannot give it the care and attention it needs.

Cue the thread in the next few weeks where you can't cope because your puppy is badly behaved and shits everywhere.

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I agree that it’s better to adopt and have adopted 2 dogs myself.
however I find it amazing how strongly people feel about getting a dog when you work, yet it’s perfectly fine for people to have babies then dump them in childcare all day.
in your opinion is it ok to get a dog then stick it in doggy daycare?

LifeIsPainHighness · 13/06/2023 23:22

Wexone · 13/06/2023 23:06

that's because they don't appear by magic a good rescue will assess your life etc and assign you the dog to suit your needs. if you can't accept this don't get a dog. !!! I actually can't not believe in the day with all the education media reports etc. people still buy dogs
if yoi want a dog try fostering or volunteer at a shelter.

Good responsible breeders should do exactly the same. Sadly I hear more and more stories of breeders palming off puppies onto the next willing idiot in order to make a quick buck. My friend paid £2.5k for a cockapoo - breeder didn’t even expect her to meet the parents and asked nothing about her home and work life.

ghostyslovesheets · 13/06/2023 23:23

Ugh to the rescue whingers

Ugh the lovers of puppy farming, over breeding and animal abuse

LifeIsPainHighness · 13/06/2023 23:24

LumpyPumpkin · 13/06/2023 23:18

You know puppies grow up to be dogs. You could've adopted one of those.

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But then how will OP have her cute Insta moment? A 6yo terrified rescue doesn’t quite hit the heart like an excited puppy popping out a box does

LifeIsPainHighness · 13/06/2023 23:24

ghostyslovesheets · 13/06/2023 23:23

Ugh to the rescue whingers

Ugh the lovers of puppy farming, over breeding and animal abuse

I agree.

But it’s not one or the other 🙄

LifeIsPainHighness · 13/06/2023 23:25

Sarahtm35 · 13/06/2023 23:22

I agree that it’s better to adopt and have adopted 2 dogs myself.
however I find it amazing how strongly people feel about getting a dog when you work, yet it’s perfectly fine for people to have babies then dump them in childcare all day.
in your opinion is it ok to get a dog then stick it in doggy daycare?

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Babies can’t really be left alone in the house though like dogs

BringItOnxxx · 13/06/2023 23:27

No such thing as dream puppy. It's a 15 year commitment and full of challenges, not a.toy.

Greengreentea · 13/06/2023 23:30

I wouldn't get a rescue. Most of them will be backyard breeders' dogs with the exact same health issues, and possibly added trauma, as they're in the shelter for a reason. Why on earth would I choose that, if I could buy a pup from a reputable breeder and have fewer surprises?

Wowserme · 13/06/2023 23:31

Look on YouTube, there’s loads on there

kingtamponthefurred · 13/06/2023 23:35

What on earth is a dream puppy? Does it shit rainbows?

BunnyBettChetwynnd · 13/06/2023 23:36

Greengreentea · 13/06/2023 23:30

I wouldn't get a rescue. Most of them will be backyard breeders' dogs with the exact same health issues, and possibly added trauma, as they're in the shelter for a reason. Why on earth would I choose that, if I could buy a pup from a reputable breeder and have fewer surprises?

Thousands of people, me included, have rescue dogs that needed a home and who are leading happy, healthy lives.

Many dogs are in rescue centres because they were bought without thinking by people who were unable to look after them and gave them up. Many are there because their owners died or were too ill to look after them.

LifeIsPainHighness · 13/06/2023 23:39

BunnyBettChetwynnd · 13/06/2023 23:36

Thousands of people, me included, have rescue dogs that needed a home and who are leading happy, healthy lives.

Many dogs are in rescue centres because they were bought without thinking by people who were unable to look after them and gave them up. Many are there because their owners died or were too ill to look after them.

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I wonder how many are there because irresponsible owners found out that Dream Puppy was actually a hell of w lot of work, required lots of walks in the rain and hinders having spontaneous days out

SheilaWilde · 13/06/2023 23:41

Tell him there's no puppy and you've taken it to a responsible person who will look after it properly. Then tell him that you realised buying a living animal as a present was a really ignorant and irresponsible idea but you've come to your senses now and his birthday surprise is a trip to xyz restaurant plus a donation to the Blue Cross.
If the puppy exists it'll probably be in a rescue centre within a year.

Greengreentea · 13/06/2023 23:41

@BunnyBettChetwynnd that's lovely, but personally I wouldn't risk it. A dog should be a pleasure, not a heap of trouble for 10+ years, especially if it came from dodgy breeders and ended up in a shelter. But that's just me.

Floralnomad · 13/06/2023 23:50

How is it a surprise when you said on your other thread that he knows about it .

LifeIsPainHighness · 13/06/2023 23:51

Maybe OP has a new husband. I supposed it’s very tiring to have an inconsistent husband who works then retires then goes back part time on the space of a day

BunnyBettChetwynnd · 14/06/2023 00:04

Greengreentea · 13/06/2023 23:41

@BunnyBettChetwynnd that's lovely, but personally I wouldn't risk it. A dog should be a pleasure, not a heap of trouble for 10+ years, especially if it came from dodgy breeders and ended up in a shelter. But that's just me.

It's not that much of a risk. Shelters have vets who give the animals a thorough check up, neuter and vaccinate them and treat any injuries or illnesses. Often they will pay for ongoing treatment if needed. They also do thorough checks on suitablity for various homes/other pets/ living with children etc and many have specialists who help dogs deal with any behavioural problems. Have you seen Paul O'Grady's dog show?

Our dog was taken to a rescue when she was three as her previous owners had another baby and couldn't cope with her. She's been with us10 years now and has never, not for one moment been any trouble. She's a cross breed mutt and one of the best things that ever happened to our family.

whynotwhatknot · 14/06/2023 00:07

i know someone who said oh you never know what youre getting if you get a rescue

then went on to by a random dog on the inernet whos shit scared of men

Labraradabrador · 14/06/2023 00:10

LifeIsPainHighness · 13/06/2023 22:56

Yes I do - is that ok with you?

It’s humour drawing on actually how difficult it is to get a rescue dog because of the conditions dogs impose. It is very possible to a person’s circumstances to make it impossible to have a rescue dog

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we Would never be acceptable to a rescue centre as we have young children. Two adults wfh with flexible schedules, large rural property with acreage. Ended up going to a breeder but would have been happier to adopt.

pet adoption in the uk is ridiculously selective

LifeIsPainHighness · 14/06/2023 00:14

Labraradabrador · 14/06/2023 00:10

we Would never be acceptable to a rescue centre as we have young children. Two adults wfh with flexible schedules, large rural property with acreage. Ended up going to a breeder but would have been happier to adopt.

pet adoption in the uk is ridiculously selective

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Yes we had a rescue pre-children who supposedly couldn’t be around children - but when we brought DD home the dog couldn’t have given two shits 😂

We are also on a foster list and have fostered just one dog in a year - too many can’t be around kids or need a huge garden not a yard (despite living on the brink of a nature reserve). Even WFH full time isn’t a draw anymore.

BonnieBobbin · 14/06/2023 00:17

greyhairnomore · 13/06/2023 22:39

@Safarigiraffe how many variations of this story are you going to post ?

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