To hate DH playing video games in bed with me next to him??

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Just that really.

DH plays his Switch next to me in bed at bedtime. He turns down the sound if I ask (he does huff about it) and sometimes will put headphones on if I say the weird zapping sounds are keeping me up...but even with no sound on it annoys me so much. I can still hear the buttons and him sighing if he loses or whatever.

I get the ick.

He says I'm being very unreasonable. I like to read and he says its the same and im being unfair. I just find it so irritating.

AIBU?

Oh OP. He sounds a very poor specimen. I would leave him tbh. Life is just too fucking short.

😂think someone needs to be introduced to The Rabbit and chill

Too bloody right I do 😘@Alargeoneplease89

Rabbit makes noise surely

Ha ha! @Sigmama Ryan Gosling could be going down on me for 3 hours in the marital bed and Zelda would still be holding my husband's full attention.

If you think gaming is a childish hobby, how did you get to the point of being married to someone who is that into them that they do it in bed?

I don't mind gaming. I can't stand sports. I cannot see myself ever in a relationship with a sporty bloke, it would really put me off.

Everyone's different and you're entitled to your likes and dislikes, I just don't get this mismatch.

Even my 14 year old kid wears headphones when gaming in the same room as me.

Your DH is a selfish nob

@BertieBotts

Low expectations
No self esteem
Youthful naivety

(He used to be funny).

Gross, really do you want to have sex with him after that? Such a turn off,. Start clicking on the phone tap tap tap before he's woken up,, that should puss him off, then go find a decent grown up.

Ye OP you probably should have gone with how he's a massive manchild and irresponsible and the actual issues regarding sex rather than him gaming in bed.
Like.
Those are the bigger issues.

I'm so torn between the flicking of the contact lenses into the bed, and the Zelda obsession, I'm struggling to work out which is the bigger turn off. I think your only reasonable option is to get your people to talk to Ryan's people.

When he's gaming, whip out your new toy 😂

A switch really isn’t that “clicky”, DS and DD both have them and they’re not noisy. I’d argue reading, assuming it’s a book and not a kindle, isn’t that different as it needs a light on and page turning can be relatively loud when it’s quiet in bed. Bottom line is neither one likes the activity the other one does in bed so that needs solving.

Forget rabbits. See if LoveHoney still sell The Womaniser...

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Ah, right. Lob the Switch out of the front door and hope he goes after it, then?

I wouldn’t have a problem with gaming per se as long as it was silent or near silent. DP plays games on his phone in bed sometimes. But the Switch is quite noisy and distracting.

I don't even like phones in the bedroom, a switch would drive me mad

Our practice is no screens in bedroom, period. No electronics at all. Two reading lamps.

Swings and roundabouts.

My wife and I go to bed at the same time for this reason. The light from her phone keeps me up, and even if not, when she makes herself comfortable after she's finished, that too wakes me up. A book would do the same because of the light.

Why don't you just have a lights off rule? If you're in bed, half an hour of 'stuff', then sleep.

And the OP can read sitting at the other end of the sofa!

The attitude displayed by some posters in this thread is far more childish than those "gamers" they claim to despise! Grown adults enjoying games is reality, and your narrow, middle England "the only acceptable activity is to read a book" viewpoint would do well to try and catch up with the 21st century before you're left behind in a wake of tutting and eyerolling.

OP - you very clearly have a lot of other issues with your husband outside of the fact that he plays his Switch in bed. Unfortunately this has now been built into such a large issue in your mind that you're just going to find him less and less palatable by the minute, and every button press or bleep is going to be like nails on a chalkboard.

If you're not happy with your relationship, you do need to address the root cause. His gaming in bed sounds symptomatic of wanting some time to relax by himself, but either not having his own space to do it in, or being judged for not spending time with you when he does. It's a gesture of protest.

I will point out that it's not mandatory to spend all your time together, just like it isn't mandatory for him to game every single day. It seems like if he played his Switch elsewhere for a fixed period of time on certain nights and then came to bed and didn't play, things would be better. As others have said this will probably utlimately lead to better sleep as well. On the other topics, there are far bigger issues and neither of you really seems to like the other very much!

That would turn me right off I have to say. a grown ass man playing a video game next to me in bed?
Nope, nopeity, nope.

I think i'd be inclined to hide his switch.
Get yourself a vibrator.
Go up to bed at 8.20 and be using your vibrator when he comes in. And when he asks what on earth you are doing (or more likely, where his switch is).
Just tell him that he is right!! Playing with his switch IS actually quite a lot of fun in bed.

Do you get off on posting stuff like that? That's sad.

He's outdone himself.

Tonight he started gaming at 8pm. But this time he is double screening. Video game on one screen and Russell Brand's YouTube channel on the other.

It's not the ick. It's full blown vomit in my mouth at this stage.

I mean
That just sounds like him finding a way to relax. Nothing bad about that. Finding it icky is a you problem tbh.

It's the other stuff that's the problem. Like not giving you the attention you want.