To think no contraception option is “good”?

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for clarity, NC on this one because of the personal medical content

Looking into contraception options and have come to the decision they there is a downside to everything! It’s just infuriating!

• get really bad migraines so combined pill is a no.
• tried mini pill but it had terrible effect on mood (anxiety and depression exacerbated)
• copper coil - can get heavier periods and have heard many a horror story, and you can just stop using it overnight if the effects are bad
• hormonal coil - again horror stories and not easy to get a removal appointment if it doesn’t suit
• injection - bad for migraines, weight gain, not simply reversed if you don’t get on with it
• implant - again, hormones, weight gain, can be hard to get an appointment .. my friend that uses the same surgery as me hasn’t been able to get hers removed for nearly eight months!!!

not to mention spotting/bleeding side effects any of these can have

I know there are others but this is what my surgery currently offers

am I missing something obvious, or are they all annoyingly not ideal?

I would really like to have another baby at some point but now is not an ideal time. I’ve not long had (another) MC and think this is something we need to take off our plans for a while

but I want something that once it’s removed/stopped we can hopefully get on with ttc straight away

any positive stories/advice appreciated!!

YABU - there’s plenty of options , you just have to decide
YANBU - yeah they’re all a bit rubbish and it’s not fair having to put up with the downsides!

How long are you planning to wait before TTC again? If it's only a few cycles, then a coil or implant is not ideal, as they are longer lasting contraceptions. Ditto the injection, which delays return to fertility.

If it's a shorter term issue, then I'd suggest something that has short term effects and is easily reversible. Condoms obviously fit that bill (with morning after pill in an emergency). It might also be worth reconsidering the minipill; there are several different brands with different progestogens so a different one might suit you better.

Do you have access to a sexual health clinic as well as your GP? It might be worth making an appointment if so; they are used to trying to find solutions for people whose contraceptive needs are less straightforward (and you'd get the condoms for free!)

The result of us using the withdrawal method is sitting her GCSES right now.

"all these things I haven't tried are rubbish"

Nah.

Combined pill is not a "no" with migraine.

NICE recommend you do not take it with visual aura migraine as it increases the risk of stroke, but the increased risk is tiny. I took it for 20+yrs with chronic migraine with no issues. It just requires a conversation with a sensible GP.

If your family is complete, what about your partner getting the snip?

Sorry OP just re-read your original post, so sorry about your MC.
Perhaps condoms for now, and in future after your family is complete, partner gets the snip?

Mirena was fantastic for me, was very apprehensive because I'd read a lot of horror stories.

If you're in a long term partnership and your family is complete I would also be encouraging this option, as it sounds like hormonal contraception just doesn't agree with you, so the snip could be a solution...

Apologies @op. I also didn't read your initial post properly. So sorry to hear about your loss.

In your instance I’d say condoms possibly tied with avoid sex for your most fertile days- you want another baby in the future so personally I’d take the minor risk of unexpected pregnancy over mood swings etc.

I don’t want another- I’ll take the hormonal side effects over risk of pregnancy. But I also have horrendous periods.

What on earth is wrong with condoms,why didn’t they even make your list?!

Yeah it's all shit. And not natural. I know lots of things are not natural, but this is something you either have inserted into your body or are taking every single day. Messing with hormones is generally not great. It's not for me!
But condoms are boring so only option is to know your body, cycle and partner very well. Has always worked for me.

Mini pill didn’t agree with me, and I liked the injection but was a nightmare getting appointments at my Gp. I’ve had implants now for about 12 years and love them. Get mine done via sexual health clinic rather than Gp and they are like clockwork with getting it done.

There is one Good choice of contraception. Its called a vasectomy. Has absolutely zero side effects for women.

Well.....my sister would disagree. Her husbands vasectomy had a massive effect on her sex life, in that they didn't have one for a long time.

Haven't used contraception since a failed coil 10 years ago, simply track my cycle and all works fine.

If we do fancy DTD when it's not safe, we just don't do full penetration. Other things are just as fun

I hear you! Headaches with mini pill, combined pill caused me anxiety and loss of sex drive, fell pregnant with condoms, coil ripped me inside and gave me an injection which ruined my gut from the medication and meant i couldn't eat properly for a year! Now have the implant. Thinking this morning that it's all gone well so far....and your post has just made me realise I've put on weight since!

Having 13 periods a year for thirty five years on the trot (with maybe two years' break for babies) isn't natural either. That's why the pill cuts your risk of womb and ovarian cancer.

I've had several copper coils and now have a mirena. Had no issues with either

The first insertion was a bit of a shock as I wasn't prepared for it but the benefits outweighed the discomfort.

I have the copper coil with no issues but have managed to get pregnant on it (not viable) DH has gone for the snip now, it was the most sensible option, not without its own issues of course but weighed up against all the female options it was the best one.

She means 'result' as in lack of (intended) result (not getting pregnant), so the "result" is fertilisation.

Of course, some women who are using some contraception option to prevent conception are approaching it from more your angle of "don't really want to get pregnant right now" rather than the "100% do not want a pregnancy". OP at least does want a child at some point in the future, so potentially less of a tragedy for her than in some other situations, which might be what you're getting at in the married/single stage. But not quite the purpose of trying to prevent conception! You can get pregnant from precome even if your partner does always pull out.

Is the diaphragm not used nowadays? Why not?

Condoms! I get it.
Endometriosis so can't do copper coil.
Combined contraceptives make my blood pressure rocket.
Progesterone only just doesn't agree with me. Moods, anxiety, water retention. Also caused other issues that meant I needed surgery.

After another trial or progesterone only left me needing surgery again and the doctors wanted a monitored trial of a newer combined pill, my DH said my body my choice, but if it were up to him we'd just use condoms as clearly my body was not tolerating contraception and he didn't want to risk losing me to a stroke. He was right and that's what we did. While condoms can be annoying also for own reasons, it was lowest risk to my life!

Statistically is about 60-70% effective, but you are right it is still a choice. The current ones are silicone and can be bought online if you can't get from GP or GUM clinic. Caya is the brand name. Don't know if they also supply the spermicide that goes with it though

So perhaps condoms plus cap?