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To ask if you've ever been arrested, and what for?

108 replies

ChittyBangabang · 11/06/2023 17:26

With Sturgeon being arrested this afternoon, my friends were discussing this and surprised that some had been arrested. Included for protesting and also driving offences, but one also for fraud (acquitted) and one for shoplifting (dropped).

Anyone else?

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BanditsOnTheHorizon · 12/06/2023 14:52

Yeo, I was 14/15 for shoplifting, got carted off to the local station where I spent 5 hours in a cell. My parents asked the officer who rang them if they could leave me in there for a few hours to 'teach me a lesson' it worked, I've never stolen since, I even feel bad for eating the odd strawberry at the local 'pick your own place' Grin

Mybusyday · 12/06/2023 14:59

Anoushkaka · 12/06/2023 13:18

Yes I was arrested for shoplifting. I got a phonecall to say my brother had been in a car accident and had passed away. Without thinking I ran to my car with a couple of items in my hand. Was stopped by security and brought to the stores back room. I was crying uncontrollably and couldn't speak. My DH actually turned up to the shop as I had not returned home. He explained what had happened, shop were having none of it and rang the police. I was taken to the station in a police car and cautioned. Said it would be on my record for one year.

Absolutely awful experience. Shop then contacted my DH to say I wasn't banned and would be welcome back as the other security guard knew me as a regular customer. My DH told them where to go.

How awful. I’m so sorry for your loss

Talia99 · 12/06/2023 15:32

Porkipye · 12/06/2023 13:18

Did you ever criticise American foreign policy on line ? They can Aldo sent you back if you have been arrested and not charged now thanks toTrump

The ‘arrested and not charged’ was going on years before Trump. It was a known issue in the early 2000s when I knew someone who had this problem.

Basically, you can’t get a visa waiver with an arrest so anyone who went to the US on a visa waiver with a prior arrest must have lied in the ‘any prior arrests’ section of the application, got caught and therefore got sent home as no visa / visa waiver in place.

izzygirlis4 · 12/06/2023 16:59

Name changed for this
I was arrested for revenge porn. My 2 ex partners went to the police and concocted a story that I had shared images of ex no 1

I am a solicitor. They sent 6 coppers, a riot van and 2 cop cars to my place of work in middle of working day.
I spent 12 hours in cells and gave no comment interview
I sued the police to return my stuff - they used the wrong powers to arrest me - they knew my stuff would contain privileged information and they refused to deal with it properly.
The court ordered them to return everything to me so case dropped
I was also asked to attend for voluntary interview for harassment - again completely made up stuff and no further action.

I am currently suing the police for wrongful arrest - because of my profession they should have sought an arrest warrant from a judge which they didn't do.
They would not have got a warrant because the allegation was 2 years old, it was 2 ex's and there was no evidence.

I think I have PTSD from the experience.

Porkipye · 12/06/2023 17:01

Talia 99

My hb got in to America and had been arrested and convicted for something minor . He did declare it on his Visa application, but he got drug tested and his baggage searched . I didn't .

AP5Diva · 12/06/2023 17:10
bear GIF

For free climbing and then frolicking naked on the top of a rock formation in the Garden of the Gods (the summit was some 100m high but 1m wide of solid sheer rock- an awesome climb).

It was a place you are not allowed to free climb. You have to register and use pitons/ropes and suchlike.

The police were called, pulled up and demanded I come down with a megaphone. Once I got back down, I was arrested and fined $500

That was eons ago when I was working and hitchhiking my way across the USA as a young adult following the Grateful Dead.

contrary13 · 12/06/2023 17:18

Yes. Because my daughter lied to the police, saying that I'd attacked her. The officers who -quite rightly attended her 999 call - were extremely apologetic, but because the laws on DV had very recently changed, they were instructed by their Inspector to read me my rights and bring me in for questioning. There's a post or two on here about this event, actually, dating back to '16 (when it happened). I was held in a cell, by more lovely police officers, for 9 hours, interviewed - during which I explained the truth was that I knew my daughter was mentally unwell, but because she was over-16... no one was listening to me trying to access outside support for her, told them that she was angry with me for one ludicrous reason or another, and they acknowledged that in over 40 years of life, I'd not once been in trouble with the police before... and I was released without charge 20 minutes later.

I remember two things from this whole ordeal: them calling my father to make sure my then 9 year old son was okay, because I was extremely worried about him, and being asked repeatedly during my interview if I was scared of my daughter. Which I admitted that yes, I was scared of and for her.

A week later, she was summonsed via 'phone call to an appointment with a psychologist - and later diagnosed with NPD, traits of ADHD, EUPD and bipolar2. To this day, she will tell you there's nothing wrong with her and that I was in cahoots with the psychologist. Nope. Her having to be medicated if she wanted to continue living under the same roof as me and her brother was the direct consequence of the choice she made to lie to the police.

We had Children's Services involved for a while because of my younger child, but that was closed when even his school's reception staff backed me up (daughter had been aggressive towards them once before all of this, when they wouldn't release my son from school early into her care without my say-so... and I knew nothing about the reason she gave them!), and I have it in writing from them that I am "a good, loving mother" - which at times I certainly don't feel! I still have CPTSD symptoms from it to the point where, ridiculously, my heart rate spikes when watching some legal dramas, and - although maybe this is a good thing - my son and I are extremely wary of my daughter even now. She is unwell, but as she stopped taking her meds when she (finally) moved out last year - she's 27, for context - I'm waiting for the next big blow-out. And very worried about her stepchild's safety when it happens (the kid's 4, and my daughter loathes her, sadly). But that's not my circus, not my monkey.

In comparison, when my daughter knocked me out and left me for dead 2 years later, and was arrested because my 11 year old told the police - whom he, God bless him, called - she simply claimed to be suicidal and they let it drop. Despite me being willing to press charges. In total, she's pulled this 4 times to the best of my knowledge. Been arrested, claimed to have taken an OD, wasted NHS resources, and had the police not even take her to a cell for 20 minutes... And always when things aren't going her way...

... yet apparently she's mentally perfect (!)

annabanana88 · 18/09/2023 13:52

@ISpyWithMyCamerasEye someone who actually done what ( in my opinion) should have been done 👏!! When something inhumane like that happens the folk that say " I'll do X,Y or Z when I get a hold of them " come out in their droves but very few action what they say. I do not condone unwarranted violence but I think some cases warrant a ' taste of your own medicine ' reaction.

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