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To ask if you've ever been arrested, and what for?

108 replies

ChittyBangabang · 11/06/2023 17:26

With Sturgeon being arrested this afternoon, my friends were discussing this and surprised that some had been arrested. Included for protesting and also driving offences, but one also for fraud (acquitted) and one for shoplifting (dropped).

Anyone else?

OP posts:
Thelittleweasel · 12/06/2023 11:24

@ChittyBangabang

For what it's worth "arrest" takes place when there is suspicion that a crime has been committed. It does not imply that all will be "charged". Nearly all are "released under investigation".

Years ago DS [age 14 ish] was arrested for being carried in a stolen car. Given a good frightening (those were the days!) and cautioned by police. "Never been so frightened in my life". Went on to a successful life [in general]

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 12/06/2023 11:24

Yes when I was 34-35. I’d been staying with my boyfriend and we broke up (my choice) and I’d left a few clothes there. My best friend offered to drive me and get the clothes but I stupidly told her no.

When I got there he was being his usual abusive self, not necessarily shouting but just being really difficult and rude and finally he chucked my small suitcase which I’d put clothes in over the flats railings breaking the suitcase! I should’ve left it there but I was so angry (he kept on swearing at me on my mobile) so I picked up a jar of dolmio and lobbed it through his window! Police were called and his brother who’d been inside prison and apparently had a gun hidden in the loft of the flat came round quickly so I couldn’t leave. I was arrested I think for assault and spent a few hours in a cell. Luckily my DB’s friend is a detective and he spoke to me and just said be very apologetic and say it’s out of character. I said this to the police officer and he said “oh red mist was it?”. He also asked me about ex’s brother with the gun, did I know him, had I seen him etc? I said honestly “No todays the first time I’ve met him and ex is renting the flat from his brother but that’s all I know”. I did know more - what my ex had told me but no way was I going to say anything. I got a caution.

Ex was furious and thought I should’ve got more of a harsh punishment and he kept on threatening me by phone. I simply told him, carry on with the threats and I’ll be reporting you to the police for this.

Kabbalah · 12/06/2023 11:26

No, and I don't know anybody who has.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 12/06/2023 11:26

Thelittleweasel · 12/06/2023 11:24

@ChittyBangabang

For what it's worth "arrest" takes place when there is suspicion that a crime has been committed. It does not imply that all will be "charged". Nearly all are "released under investigation".

Years ago DS [age 14 ish] was arrested for being carried in a stolen car. Given a good frightening (those were the days!) and cautioned by police. "Never been so frightened in my life". Went on to a successful life [in general]

Exactly, I technically committed a crime and would’ve been happy to have paid for damage but for some reason police didn’t charge me and didn’t even suggest I paid for damage. My ex and his brother wanted further action, there was technically proof as what had happened but no one witnessed it. I didn’t deny it though.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 12/06/2023 11:41

Plipplopdrop · 11/06/2023 17:29

I stole a cadbury's creme egg when I was 15, from a superdrug shop. Shop assistant called the police who came very quickly and cornered me in the shop, took me into the backroom to go through my bag and then carted me off to the police station where my very pregnant mother had to drive to collect me.

I ended up with a police warning on my record, which prevented me age 18 to work with Camp America which had been my dream and instead I did an entirely different gap year before uni, and actually completely changed the course of my life Grin

Bit OTT over a cream egg isn't it. Mind you I supposed they had to give you an eggsmaple of eggscatly what happens when you steal.

caringcarer · 12/06/2023 11:49

I was arrested at 16. I'd gone to a service station with my then bf and we fell out. I insisted on walking home. He drove off in a mood. I was walking home, about 3 miles and the police pulled up and stopped and asked me for ID. I didn't have any. They insisted I was a girl called Julie who had run away from home and was 14. I kept telling them I wasn't but they just would not believe me. They made me get in their car and took me to the police station. They had a photo of this girl Julie and she did look similar to me as in 5 foot with long brown hair. They let me make a phone call and I rang my auntie as I was too afraid to ring my parents who would have gone nuts at me. My Auntie came and identified who I was and I was released. She brought photos of me, bless her. I had to wait there for almost 2 hours though.

MayBeee · 12/06/2023 11:51

We once visited Fairford in Gloucestershire when it was an American airbase ( don't know if it still is ) my dh was interested in a B52 bomber on the runway, so we parked up and he took a walk to see it.
He was gone a fair while , when he came back he was clutching a piece of paper , he had gone through some undergrowth ( but still on non military ground, and the right side of the fence ) but was arrested by two u.s. military police on a quad bike for acts of terrorism !
He wasn't taken away , but had to give his details to them.
He kept that bit of paper for years !

MayBeee · 12/06/2023 11:53

Lol just reminded dh about it and apparently it was a warning not an arrest .

Cam22 · 12/06/2023 12:49

ChittyBangabang · 11/06/2023 17:26

With Sturgeon being arrested this afternoon, my friends were discussing this and surprised that some had been arrested. Included for protesting and also driving offences, but one also for fraud (acquitted) and one for shoplifting (dropped).

Anyone else?

No.

You are rude to refer to Nicola Sturgeon by her surname, incidentally.

BadLad · 12/06/2023 12:57

No. The nearest I’ve come is in Dubai when walking drunkenly after a few too many. The police told me in no uncertain terms that I had had enough and was to go home or else.

Verv · 12/06/2023 13:03

Arrested and cautioned for assault when I was 19.
I punched a woman after she had deliberately spat in my face for the second time. First time I just said stop and wiped it off. Second time my fist flew.

Cas112 · 12/06/2023 13:04

PinkiOcelot · 11/06/2023 17:28

No I haven’t. None of my family or friends have either.

That you know of

I will surprise you how many people keep being arrested to themselves 😂

Porkipye · 12/06/2023 13:12

Verv · 12/06/2023 13:03

Arrested and cautioned for assault when I was 19.
I punched a woman after she had deliberately spat in my face for the second time. First time I just said stop and wiped it off. Second time my fist flew.

Good for you OP she deserved it .

Motnight · 12/06/2023 13:14

Cam22 · 12/06/2023 12:49

No.

You are rude to refer to Nicola Sturgeon by her surname, incidentally.

🤣🤣

Porkipye · 12/06/2023 13:15

*Cast112
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You are right . People tell you what they want you to know . How often people are shocked when it comes to light .

Porkipye · 12/06/2023 13:18

onefinemess · 12/06/2023 11:03

I was deported from the US when I was 22.

No idea why, first time there, didn't even get through immigration.

Can't ever go back there without a formal interview at the US embassy.

Literally had a "please with here one moment", next thing I was being escorted to a holding area, wasn't allowed to leave, waited 11 hours for the next flight back to the UK.

They wouldn't tell me why, and I still have no clue what it was all about.

My friends joke that they won't ever fly with me in case they get "caught up in your international man hunt".

Did you ever criticise American foreign policy on line ? They can Aldo sent you back if you have been arrested and not charged now thanks toTrump

Anoushkaka · 12/06/2023 13:18

Yes I was arrested for shoplifting. I got a phonecall to say my brother had been in a car accident and had passed away. Without thinking I ran to my car with a couple of items in my hand. Was stopped by security and brought to the stores back room. I was crying uncontrollably and couldn't speak. My DH actually turned up to the shop as I had not returned home. He explained what had happened, shop were having none of it and rang the police. I was taken to the station in a police car and cautioned. Said it would be on my record for one year.

Absolutely awful experience. Shop then contacted my DH to say I wasn't banned and would be welcome back as the other security guard knew me as a regular customer. My DH told them where to go.

Franticbutterfly · 12/06/2023 13:19

Sort of (they came to my home to get me) for something non-violent.

Gerrataere · 12/06/2023 13:34

Cam22 · 12/06/2023 12:49

No.

You are rude to refer to Nicola Sturgeon by her surname, incidentally.

Hahahaha. Her surname is the nicest thing I can think to call her.

OneTC · 12/06/2023 13:52

Yes, I can't really remember how many times. Criminal damage and drugs. Only ever cautioned plus one street thing when they just nicked my weed.

TheFormidableMrsC · 12/06/2023 14:13

You are rude to refer to Nicola Sturgeon by her surname, incidentally

Are you well?

FatalKittehCharms · 12/06/2023 14:14

Cam22 · 12/06/2023 12:49

No.

You are rude to refer to Nicola Sturgeon by her surname, incidentally.

Is that because it’s a bit fishy?

Mollymoomoomoo · 12/06/2023 14:16

Never been arrested but have arrested hundreds.

RiderGirl · 12/06/2023 14:29

I think I'm the only one in my family that hasn't been arrested 🙈 have got 3 sisters who between them (many years ago in their youths I might add) have been arrested for various (many) drunk and disorderly type things, possession of cannabis, theft from employer, those are the ones I know about.
My mum has been arrested for drink driving a couple of times but wasn't actually over the limit once taken to the station.
As a silly young lad my DH got made an example of for criminal damage, there'd been a spate of it locally attributed partially to him and his mates and he got caught, he had to do community service digging graves etc. He's very law abiding and pretty responsible nowadays!

catin8oots · 12/06/2023 14:33

OneRingToRuleThemAll · 11/06/2023 18:56

I was arrested for "common assault" which was me pushing my way out of a large crowd of people when I felt trapped.

I was aged 20. I was diagnosed with autism at age 32 and looking back on it I was in meltdown.

Its still on my record as cautions are no longer spent.

A caution for common assault becomes spent immediately and filtered after 6 years