Does drinking a bottle of wine, alone and at home on a school night, indicate a drinking problem?

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Or am I over-reacting? I'm just concerned about a friend who causally told me this earlier...

I must be, because I once drank every day for 2 weeks! It was about 15 years ago and since then I’ve had at least 4 years teetotal (pregnant and breastfeeding) and now only have a couple of glasses of wine a week, but still..,

No, it's just made me realise that some people are extremely judgemental of others who do things differently to them. Move to the continent 😁 No one thinks like this. Good wine abs good food are life!! In all seriousness though, I wonder if the puritans about alcohol live a healthy life in other ways. If they're overweight, smoke, eat unhealthily or don't exercise, they should pipe down. I suspect the majority have their own vices/points that don't make them the bastion of all that is pure and healthy!

Some people live alone. Are you suggesting they can't drink unless they're in a social situation?

I was out with a group of women at the weekend...some I knew, some I didn't. The woman sat opposite me (first time I'd met her), was telling us all that she'd been trying to lose a bit of weight and had cut down 'massively' on drinking wine at home...and now only gets through '4 or 5 bottles a week'. She said this genuinely believing that this would be considered a small amount...every mouth was a version of 😮 (some less subtle than others!) I can't imagine how much she'd been drinking before she'd 'cut down massively' 😱

A bottle a night is a huge amount of alcohol. As is '4-5 bottles a week' 😦

Totally depends on the context, as others have said. Do they need to go to school the next day? Do they need to take their kid to school the next day?

Ps drinking a bottle of wine to myself tonight!
Got to be up during the night with baby (sharing the load thought) and take my partner out in the afternoon. Come at me!

I happily drink a bottle, but if I had to be up with a baby id be half pissed in the early hours 😂 That's pretty hardcore if you can do that!

I started at 5pm as I've been cleaning and organising the house all day...daddy does the first night feed and I'll stick baby on the boob around 4am. New mums out there...you can drink a bottle of wine while breastfeeding (just burn it off, space it out, eat a good meal and hand the reigns over to daddy) 🙂

More context needed. For instance would you be concerned if she was alone on a school night and had worked her way through a 750 ml bottle of soft drink (with its own health problems long term) or is it just the wine that causes concern?

is she drinking AF or low alc wine or right up to the 13% stuff ? (Noted on the label).

are you a good enough friend to need to know the details if she is trigger drinking and if so, what are your thoughts of in helping?

personally I fell into the routine of drinking a full strength bottle every night and realise now the landmarks in the 16 year period that kicked it off.

Could a ‘Friend’ have helped me, I’m not sure but having access to women’s health sites on fb, being honest with my GP, knowing I didn’t want to upset my family and not consuming as much but feeling the positive difference, has helped.

but as a friend, if this is what you are thinking of helping with, be aware unless the person is ready to talk you are wading into murky waters.

I’m not suggesting people who live alone cannot have a glass of wine now and then but it’s easy to get into the habit of drinking a few glasses of wine and watching a movie by yourself every night - many people build a relationship with alcohol as they are lonely. This comment is not coming from a place of judgement but experience. I am an alcoholic who quit 8 years ago and set up Tribe Sober to help others to do the same.

She must be a young woman. I love my wine (at weekends bristly in moderation) but Peri menopause has decimated my tolerance. I had 2 medium glasses last night while out with friends and have a hang over! Sad times. Nature is limiting my drinking.

Broadly not bristly!

I’m 46 and never let my age and the savage hangovers get in the way of chucking buckets of booze down my neck 😩 Hats off to you and those who can moderate - I’m all or nothing.

For instance would you be concerned if she was alone on a school night and had worked her way through a 750 ml bottle of soft drink (with its own health problems long term) or is it just the wine that causes concern?

Soft drinks are not as problematic as alcohol.

It’s not an obsession as such more of a habit, Lockdown maybe to blame a little, but are you designated driver and when the kids were small it was easy to have one or two when you sat down and they were in bed. I started using an app and attached a link to start logging drink free days and changing from wine to hard seltzers and white wine with soda, focusing on control. Monday to Thursday has been drink free for sometime now and then on a Saturday night if having a nice dinner I stagger the bottle of wine or share it with DP through that one night. Then I won’t drink on a Sunday normally only when it is a bank holiday Monday and we are hosting if the Family are over for a roast dinner😂https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=nhs+drink+less+app&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-gb&client=safari

I buy a nice bottle of red wine every week with my shopping, which I usually open on a Friday when I’m cooking dinner. Sometimes I drink the whole bottle during the evening or other times I drink it over the whole weekend. Occasionally I open it mid week!

My mother in law and her partner are Spanish and they drink one glass of wine with lunch and evening meal every day, rain or shine.

I really don’t think it’s a big deal drinking a bottle in one night. At all. I wouldn’t be concerned for your friend. If it’s a bottle a night like others have said, then that’s a different story.