Who's bring unreasonable here? Birthday involved

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I've been called to go to meeting on my birthday in London. We live 5-6 hours away so it's a long way to go, however they obviously pay for my travel expenses.

We were originally thinking of going on a one night staycation for my birthday. Obviously, this new meet changes the plans, but I see it as a decent opportunity. We get some of the expenses paid, and we get to celebrate in London, win-win.

Now, DH is saying that it's too far away to go for basically one day, and I'll just have to go on my own and have my meeting.

Which then means I'll be on my own for the entirety of my birthday (bar that meeting).

I'm starting to get annoyed with him, but I don't know if I'm just being unreasonable.

Note: he was happy to spend two night in a spa hotel that is about 3 hours and a bit away.

you just lost me there! A week to 10 days is barely enough to make up for a 5-6 hours trip at that age, an overnight stay? no way.

Do you honestly fancy entertaining your 3 year old for 6 hours return?

We don't have a choice, and we've done that a few times already, it's not the end of the world to have him in the car for that long.

So you would be dragging a toddler on a 5-6 + hours journey there and back? Nope - I think you are being unreasonable.

it might not be the end of the world, but is is actually enjoyable for anyone?

Before and after being stuck in the car seat for so long, the poor kid will need to run around and spend some energy, which limits massively the trip to London anyway. I know there's plenty do to in London, I live there!, but I wouldn't travel for hours just to visit Diana's playground, as fun as it is for kids.

You must have a very easy going 3 year old mine would be bored shitless in a car for 6 hours especially if there was an alternative where he could stay at home with his dad.

I don't think your unreasonable at all. I have some work that involves travel, next year my husband is coming too and I'll be working from 7am. We'll enjoy the journey and the evenings together.

Nah, I wouldn't even have any expectation of my husband doing that with me. I'd just celebrate my birthday another time and if he said he'd come to the meeting trip to keep me company I'd tell him not to be silly!

in your shoes? I'd extend my trip and have a lovely solo 2 nights in London. (for a 6 hour trip my company will pay me to travel there, overnight, day of meeting and remote working, overnight, trip back next day

As mentioned before, I travel so often (on average I spend one night away on a weekly basis), that I don't find them as relaxing as I used to, I just find them lonely.

IMO london isn't great for toddlers. Neither is a 6 hr journey. So I get your DH's reluctance.

I also don't think it's that big a deal to be away on your birthday. I've been away with work on my birthday before.

Honestly if he’s being a poop already, leave him with the baby and you go and have a fat old time by yourself. Maybe meet one of your friends there and have cocktails. (Stay overnight?)

YABU to call it a staycation. That's staying in your house.

Why would it be 36 hours alone?

Why do you need to stay two nights for a two hour meeting?

Wont work pay for flights?

Bizarre thread!

Of course they'll pay for flights, but they're mid afternoon so I'd have to go the day before.

Oh and normally I'd be allowed to expense one night, but because it's my birthday they're allowing two.

the dictionary disagrees with you, it's not JUST in your house.

Big NO!

5-6 hour journey with 3 year Old on train.

It's not on a train, we'd be driving

5-6 hr drive each way, probably longer with a toddler, DH with limited annual leave - can't you see yourself that it's not a great plan?

The six hours includes one break (if he's not asleep) although.hess been 3/4 times

If you go alone and stay two nights (my idea of heaven!), who would look after the toddler while you are away?

We frequently go to London for one day & one night from Cornwall. It's 6 hours!

Yes it's a pain and the travel is long but it's worth it.

Go and have some fun!!

And yes, we take the kiddos and they LOVE it.

My DH would!

Anywho, he's said that next week it's too short notice, so I either tell work to suck it up (as in I was planning to go away regardless) or they have to guarantee it's only two hours.