I’m saddened by how this has become fairly unpleasant towards someone making an interesting and valid scientific point. As a now biology teacher, formerly behavioural evolution researcher with a specialism in the evolution of sexual reproduction (not as kinky as it sounds), this really is my favourite area and I love that people are taking an interest.
I’ve written a long and detailed response to this three times but my phone keeps refreshing and losing it, so I’ve got fed up and am using this from someone else (cannot find who to give credit to):
First of all, in a sexual species, you can have females be XX and males be X (insects), you can have females be ZW and males be ZZ (birds), you can have females be females because they developed in a warm environment and males be males because they developed in a cool in a cool environment (reptiles), you can have females be females because they lost a penis sword fighting context (some flatworms), you can have males be males because they were born female, but changed sexes because the only male in their group died (parrotfish and clownfish), you can have males look and act like females because they are trying to get close enough to actual females to mate with them (cuttlefish, bluegills, others), or you can be one of thousands of sexes (slime mold, some mushrooms.) Oh, did you mean humans? Oh ok then. You can be male because you were born female, but you have 5-alphareductase deficiency and so you grew a penis at age 12. You can be female because you have an X and a Y chromosome but you are insensitive to androgens, and so you have a female body. You can be male because you have two X chromosomes, but one of your X's HAS an SRY gene, and so you have a male body. You can be male because you have two X chromosomes, but also a Y. You can be female because you have only one X chromosome at all. And you can be male because you have two X chromosomes, but your heart and brain are male.
For what it’s worth, there are many, many species with more than two sexes- some slime moulds with thousands :)