Is he just being 'nice'?

[moominmummie]

The other night the guy who lives over the road (who also happens to be gorgeous & single) randomly knocked on my door & asked for a first aid kit for his son who had a minor accident. I gave him what I had (bandages & tape). That was the first time we have ever really spoken. Today I was surprised to find on my porch a brand new first aid kit & a lovely note attached thanking me. It definitely put a smile on my face.

My question is what should I do in return? & am I being unreasonable to think this could be more than a kind neighbourly gesture? Or is he just being nice?

I've been on my own for so long I've forgotten how to interact or properly judge any situation involving the male species 😂

Well, I think there’s no harm in seeing where it goes. You know you have similar-aged DC, live near each other. Why not take him up on whatever he suggests when he calls you?

Yessss... now, don't want to get too excited but that's definitely a good sign! Please keep us updated, I'm totally invested! Have you messaged to try and arrange a play date or anything yet?

We had coffee in his garden this morning, I'm tempted to ask him round for a glass of wine this evening?

It's gone really well so far, things like this never happen to me!!

It’s a sunny day, garden wine sounds lovely 🤜🏻

Go for it!

How's his son? Injury healing nicely?

I'm totally over invested in this thread. ♥️

Definitely invite him round for a drink. I would leave it at least 24 hours for the next date though. There’s no rush.

Yeah I’d play it cool and give it a day or so to avoid looking desperate…

Ahhh, I'm way too fricking invested in this now! How did the coffee go? Do you think you like him? Do you fancy him? I actually feel like a teenager asking for these updates but I'm dying to know!!! 🙈 x

Place marking - such a nice thread

If it were me I'd knock and say Thankyou and try to get chatting.. If the vibe feels flirty invite him over for a coffee and see. He might say no or he might propose, you'll never know unless you give it a go.

Want to see how this develops! Good luck op x

I really hope he doesn't use MN...LOL

Anyway, he text asking if I was putting the kettle on yesterday & ended up coming round for an hour. We chatted in the garden for an hour or so then I had to pick DD up so he left.

I sent a message saying it was lovely seeing you and he replied saying he thinks the same & that he thinks I'm really lovely.
We texted all evening & I woke up to a good morning text.

We seem to be getting on really well, & it's lifted my spirits. I'm excited to see where this goes if it does end up going anywhere.

:)

OP, I think you are at the stage now where you could ask him over for an evening. Wee glass of wine, nice weather!

Good Luck!

Look at his body language when you see him and see how it goes naturally, body language doesn’t lie and there are lots of guides on TikTok and YouTube .

He's revealed he's seeing someone but didn't tell me before as he didn't want to scare me off, & that talking to me has been refreshing....

Anti climax.

Sorry guys!

What??? What did he mean by he didn't want to scare you off? Flip it anyway x

Why would it ‘scare you off’ that a neighbour had been seeing someone? I mean, unless he can see you’re attracted to him and what he really means is ‘I enjoyed the attention and concealed my relationship status because I didn’t want it to stop?’

Prat. You’re worth more, OP.

He's such a player. What an elaborate scheme to get to know you, charm you and then temperature test you for cheating. A cheap, local side piece??? You deserve better.

Or
He's seeing someone very causally and is more interested in you and plans to dump her.

People do date casually.

I'd wait & see. If he doesn't dump her then he's an arse

That’s also possible.

Though ‘scare you off’ is still a slightly odd choice of phrase.

I bought my neighbour chocolates and beers because he’d been through a difficult ordeal. I truly hope he doesn’t think anything more than kindness!

Well I was totally going to pour cold water on it, so I'm kinda glad he came clean!

Because judging by the progress so far, I'm fancied by a large proportion of the neighbourhood! We all have eachother's numbers for practical purposes, we socialise, and I gave a bottle of champagne to a neighbour who sorted my stuck stoptap (it was Xmas). I'd be mortified if he'd thought I was coming on to him!

But luckily it turns out your neighbour is just a common-or-garden arsehole who is trying to trangulate you.

Cos he's done nowt wrong so far if he's only casually dating, and could have dumped her without saying a word to you. Except he wants you to 'fight for him'.

Glad you have opted out and bloody well done on doing so!

That's pretty crap of him.