H spending a whole day ( the only day he has ) mowing the lawn

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Is it necessary? Does it take the whole day?

He spends the whole day out there. I occasionally go out with the kids, but as they're young, they get in the way and it becomes stressful too. He's probably spent about an hour with us today.

He always finds something else to do.

How much lawn do you have?! Ours take less than an hour

You must have an enormous garden. Mine takes about ten minutes 😅

How big is your lawn? Unless you have a field then he’s avoiding parenting. It’s easier to plod about being ‘busy’ with chores than being present with young dc. My dh can be guilty of this. He can’t sit still and wants to always be doing stuff. He would spend all day pottering but not getting much actually done. I told him plainly that he needs to prioritise the dc and family and if I see him starting to do this il send the dc to him and hide upstairs.

🎶 How big is your lawn? (Is your lawn, how big is your lawn), I really need to learn... 🎶

It's not small, but I don't think it should take the whole day. And why does it need doing every week ? Every two weeks seems enough usually.

Unless you acres of lawn this is an exercise in avoiding time with the family, most likely the children.

He is being a shit dad.

How big is the lawn? Is he doing it to avoid the children? Is he working the other 6 days?

Lawn is definitely not small. Yes works the rest of the time.

Tell him?

Is he using scissors?

Our garden is about 1/2 acre. It takes our gardeners about 1.5 hours with a petrol mower.

If you have more than an acre, I would suggest sheep.

If he's doing it weekly it won't take that long.. We have a 100ft garden mostly lawn. Takes an hour or so. It did take a while day recently because we'd done no mow May and November to April

hmmm ... Avoiding being in the house with the kids 100 percent

How big is the lawn? Mine's a decent size and took about half an hour today. And the kids were racing me every row that I did

He doesn't want to spend time with you. Seems pretty clear. I'd be asking him why.

SIL, is that you? If not, OP you are not alone.

My ex used to de-stress by cutting the lawn. He had a ride on lawn mower and used to trundle up and down on a Friday night with a glass of wine. He'd come in after a couple of hours in a much better mood. 🙂

He insisted it had to be every weekend or he couldn't make the lawn striped.

Perhaps it's something like that. Is he a perfectionist?

You know the answer right? He is avoiding parenting.

He's avoiding you all. 😞

Why don't you offer to do it next week so he can spend time with the children? See what he says?

Why don't you take it in turns to do the lawn, this week he mows you have kids, next week you mow, he has the kids. I wonder if he'll then decide that yes, once a fortn8ght is enough.

He's nibbling each blade with his byootiful white gnashers 😁

My ex used to de-stress by cutting the lawn. He had a ride on lawn mower and used to trundle up and down on a Friday night with a glass of wine. He'd come in after a couple of hours in a much better mood. 🙂

I love that. 😂 Lawn mower therapy... with wine.

I'd hire someone to do it on the Friday and book a family day out at the weekend, see how he reacts to that.

my dp was guilty of stuff like this years ago when dc were small, we lived separately but close by at the time and he always conveniently had a diy job that needed doing at his home. Also seemingly endless laundry and he apparently hoovered so much I'm surprised there was anything left of the carpets. All was an excuse to stay out of the way and avoid the hardwork of parenting very young dc. His jobs were always finished by dcs bedtimes though!