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H spending a whole day ( the only day he has ) mowing the lawn

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yawnlawn · 03/06/2023 18:59

Is it necessary? Does it take the whole day?

He spends the whole day out there. I occasionally go out with the kids, but as they're young, they get in the way and it becomes stressful too. He's probably spent about an hour with us today.

He always finds something else to do.

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WhatWouldHopperDo · 03/06/2023 22:14

HeiXiong · 03/06/2023 21:23

He says these are important things that need to be done and he needs to do them.

I’d be asking him to consider where parenting his children and supporting his wife come in his list of ‘important things that need to be done’ because at the moment it feels like the bottom, and if he doesn’t re-prioritise soon he’ll find all he has left to worry about will be his lawn and his garage because his family will be gone.

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Absolutely this. This isn't about the lawn, it's about him checking out of family life. Anyone can always find 'important jobs' that need doing but apart from basic feeding and keeping people clean, not much is more important than being a present parent and partner.

Cherrysoup · 03/06/2023 22:15

RosesAndHellebores · 03/06/2023 19:06

Our garden is about 1/2 acre. It takes our gardeners about 1.5 hours with a petrol mower.

If you have more than an acre, I would suggest sheep.

Oh god, don't do it! They like to try to kill themselves on a constant.

I suggest a serious chat re why he's avoiding patenting in favour of mowing the fucking lawn!

MMMarmite · 03/06/2023 22:37

This is ridiculous. It is not necessary.

He probably needs some time to himself if he is working 6 day weeks, but so do you. You need to come to a fair agreement. At the moment he is inventing tasks to escape.

(My lawn is nice and tiny, getting the mower out and putting it away again takes about as long as the actual mowing. 😊)

caringcarer · 03/06/2023 22:38

How many acres is he mowing? If it's lots of acres he needs a ride on mower.

caringcarer · 03/06/2023 22:43

My DH spends 30 mins of his lunch hour most days either weeding, taking or mowing the back lawn and garden area. He likes to get away from the computer for 30 mins and get some fresh air. He never has to do it on weekends then. I think your DH is using it as an excuse not to have to deal with small children and is just leaving it all to you.

Freshair1 · 03/06/2023 22:45

He's a lazy twat.

DiscoBeat · 03/06/2023 22:51

It's not small, but I don't think it should take the whole day. And why does it need doing every week ? Every two weeks seems enough usually.
We usually cut ours twice a week so two weeks seems too long to me but that said we've got half an acre and it only takes us about 3 hours to cut. Taking the whole day is a lot, especially if he hasn't spent time with the family!

Agapornis · 03/06/2023 23:12

He's watering and fertilising during the day? Round mine right now that would burn the grass and make the patchiness worse.

Hand the job back to the gardener asap. Perhaps your husband could watch Gardeners World to learn something, instead of bothering you for sex.

mastertomsmum · 03/06/2023 23:20

So, yes, it needs weekly attention. No, it doesn’t usually take all day. Try planning outings you’d like to do as a family. If he doesn’t bite ho without him and tell him how fab it was

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