Is my baby still alive mistaken miscarriage? Why is my belly so big?

[ivfregret]

Has anyone ever had their belly get way bigger directly AFTER miscarriage?

I had a scan and was told likely miscarriage especially if bleeding starts which it did.

Since then my belly is HUGE and no it's not weight gain I'm naturally always size 8 and it's literally only my belly that's gone big not the rest of me.

Has this happened to anyone? I'm going to take a pregnancy test but should I be worried?

It's shit op. I had 3 miscarriages and I gave myself a date to have a successful pregnancy or to move on with adoption or just not having children. The not knowing when or if it will ever happen completely dominates everything. A and e will see you if you turn up, it could be an infection if not everything came away while you were bleeding.

Do a pregnancy test and if it's positive go to the early pregnancy unit and ask for an urgent scan.

Sorry for your loss OP, TTC is fucking excruciating. I’m in the “possible infection” camp, could you go to minor injuries if there is one near you?

I wonder if it's worth calling 111 and seeing what they advise? As others have said, you should have had a follow up scan.

I'm sorry, I hope you get your baby soon.

I did a pregnancy test it was negative so is it still worth a scan? Because I really can't be bothered unless it's possible I could be in danger

I'm so sorry OP.

I had five in a row too. My 6th and 7th pregnancies are asleep in their car seats behind me right now.

I hope it's 6th time lucky for you like it was for me.

@MargotBamborough do you mind me asking did you have any treatment by the 6th and 7th? Or was it all completely natural and just pot luck?

Yes get a scan, if it's unusual for your stomach to be bloated I'd get it checked. I had 1 d and c and for thr others I had a scan and then had to go back for a follow up to make sure there was nothing left because if there is it can cause an infection.

Pregnancy hormones can still cause your body to do crazy things for weeks and weeks after a miscarriage. In my opinion it isn't worth an ultrasound but you could always call the EPU on Monday and see what they advise. I'm pretty sure with a negative pregnancy test they won't do anything though.

I'm annoyed because I had scans booked but my fertility doctor said based on what he saw at the last scan that if I started bleeding before then I wouldn't need it.

I keep getting so much conflicting advice it makes me really update

I'm sorry you're going through this. I am also in those small, horrible odds.

I had three miscarriages, one after the other. Went on to IVF. First implant went ectopic. 1% chance. Next, nothing happened. Third I got pregnant. The embryo split into identical twins. 1% chance. They were monoamniotic twins who shared an amniotic sac and placenta. 1/50,000 chance. They developed TTTS (10% chance) and my membranes ruptured at 20 weeks (4% chance).

Some of us are just incredibly unlucky in life. I know this doesn't make you feel any better but hopefully maybe it makes you feel less alone. I know I feel like I'm the only person in the world this shit happens to.

I wish you the best. Maybe we will find our rainbows one day.

Also my doctor said today if HCG is negative (pregnancy test) it's very unlikely you've retained any tissue. So watch for fever etc just in case but it could just be bloat. I'm very bloated now following my loss.

I did monitored cycles (ultrasounds every few days) and triggered my ovulation with Ovitrelle when the follicle was just the right size. This probably made me ovulate a couple of days earlier than I otherwise would have done, based on my tracking from previous cycles and the fact that I didn't get a positive ovulation test before triggering. I then did half shots of Ovitrelle at 3 and 6 days post ovulation, and took progesterone from just after ovulation until I was in the second trimester.

After my fourth miscarriage I went to see a doctor specialising in recurrent miscarriage who did all the tests he could think of but didn't find anything obviously wrong. My husband and I both have the MTHFR mutation but I was already taking methylfolate for that. Anyway, the doctor had various ideas about things we could try. The method I described above worked in my 6th pregnancy so we did exactly the same thing again when I wanted to try for a second baby and it worked first time.

I'm so sorry for your loss and complete understand your anger. It isn't bloody fair. Have your been referred to a miscarriage clinic? I was referred after my 2nd miscarriage as I was 40, and it definitely helped. The doctor was brilliant, did bloods and scans and then prescribed progesterone and a higher dose of thyroid meds to take the moment I had a positive test. She gave me a 60% chance of having a successful pregnancy within a year and I was pregnant again 7 months later. That one stuck thankfully as did my next one using the same protocol and now they are now tucked up in bed asleep. I hope things work out for you too.

@Rtmhwales 💐

Hi @ivfregret 👋🏻

I just recognised you from the S&B threads & wanted to offer a virtual unMumsnetty hug.

I haven't got anything really useful to add but I can see you've had some good advice & support here. FWIW, having been through fertility treatment myself I just wanted to say when you feel rage at the injustice of it all, don't feel bad about that, & let it out. It's unfair & unbelievably crap & it's perfectly understandable to feel furious.

If it helps, my partner was her mother's 10th pregnancy. She lost one a year for the first 9 years of her marriage.

If that doesn't help, please ignore me. Or feel free to chuck a metaphorical pillow in my general direction 😉

Look after yourself

@AprillaCourt 😂 thank you! It's fine I know everyone is only trying to help.

It just sucks. It also doesn't help that it creates a strain on my relationship to some extent.

DH says h a not bothered one day then says he's like children the next but he won't attend a karyotype test.

The one thing he's had to do after everything I've been through and he won't do it.

I've shouted, even thrown coffee at him (not proud of it but to show him how upset it makes me that it feels one sided).

And still...nothing. No test.

I'm caught in this horrific limbo of thinking just quit while you're fucking ahead and not knowing what the hell to do for the best.

It's horrible.

I've seen five doctors now all giving conflicting information

I had a miscarriage, didn't even know I was pregnant as was 46 and on the pill, this was in the February I think. Found out in the May was I was 22 weeks pregnant so it must have been a twin pregnancy, my little miracle is 9 now

Yes, twice. Why?

Yes, twice. Both times I had a scan to check, the second time I then needed a D+C. I was never told to take a repeat pregnancy test.

You need to be checked
I bleed for the first 16 weeks with my eldest. It wasn't spotting it was full on heavy bleeding with clots. I literally bled all constantly in various colours. My daughters now almost 5.

With both of my twin pregnancies (both IVF) that ended in miscarriages, I had no bleeding at all. No sign of the loss. I even had scans with visible heartbeats and then scans with none. So bleeding or not bleeding really means fuck all.

If you have had a miscarriage you need to be checked to make sure you don't have anything left behind causing infection if you have swelling.

Can I have infection though if my test is negative?

Do you have any discharge or smell? I'd have a scan. You need to get sure for piece of mind.

because its very common to be told to do a pregnancy test after. The fact you didn’t have this experience doesn’t make it silly that other women do pregnancy tests, which is what your comment implied with your ‘I can’t understand why’.