Gift for cheater.

[Iwasrightallalong]

Posting here as not sure where else to post.

Really odd question but what would you buy for Father’s Day for a recent ex that you just found out had cheated on you so there’s a lot of upset and hurt feelings etc.

i would love to just get nothing at all but unfortunately DC is too young to buy their own gift and I don’t want to come across as the bitter ex and like I’m trying to get back at him through his DC.

But equally I’m not a complete fool so don’t want to go to huge expense or effort, any ideas?

A card. Just that.

Id buy a simple gift- nothing too extravagant 😊

A card, let your dc scribble on it.

If you really want a gift, just go to a card shop and pick up a keyring or mug for less than a fiver.

I begrudgingly get my youngest dcs dad a gift every year for their sake, but I put zero effort into choosing something nice. Generic shit all the way.

Don’t buy anything, not even a card. Fold a piece of paper in half, DC draws a picture and writes a message. Your ex shouldn’t need anything more than that.

Card and a mug because he's a mug for cheating or a pair of socks.

Nothing, give him nothing.

I would not be wasting a single penny on him.

do you think he’s going to bother with your birthday/Xmas/Mother’s Day gifts?

I wouldn’t even think about it.

I understand you're hurt but you have to push that aside and ask the DC what they would like to get. Obviously not OTT but they might say socks etc.

What he done is wrong I'm not condoning his behaviour.

Oh my mistake, just re read they're too young to choose so just a pair of socks then.

Condoms?
I'm obviously being flippant, you have my sympathy ❤️

Get DC to draw a picture and put it in a cheap frame.

However, if the dc is too young to know,

I am trying to push my hurt aside, that’s why I’m asking for advice.

DC is too young to choose something, they wouldn’t understand.

If the dc is too young to actually know, I wouldn't bother.

Sorry, hit post too soon.

This is a great post as I’m actually in the same situation.

Kids are 13m and 25m so not exactly like they can choose something for him. I’ll be getting him a 69p card from Card Factory and will let them scribble on it. I’ll address him and say something nice on behalf of the children.

He isn’t even getting a pair of socks out of me the cunt

Fuck all. Just like my own cheat got his kid the last several years

Make sure you leave the price tag on as well!

A book? A Beginers Guide to Cheating by Andy Jackson looks good!

I would not do a thing, unless DC asked me to. I sincerely doubt he's thinking about getting you a mother's day gift. This isn't being bitter, this is just declining to take on stuff that is no longer your job.

If he really wants a gift, he can ask his own family to arrange it, or take the kids to a gift shop and ask them to pick something.

I get my ex a box of maltesers every christmas, birthday, and fathers day because he hates them. The kids love them!

I wouldn't bother. When dc is old enough, they can sort something out.
Do you think he'll sort something out for Mother's Day?

If the kids are too young then don’t bother. When they are old enough, and if they want to, give them a few quid and let them loose in a charity shop.

Card factory mug... Every year. People hate mugs, especially lots of the same.
Cheap and tacky
Dc draws a card

For Mothers Day I give my DC my credit card and send them into a gorgeous boutique where the staff help them to pick me something lovely, then wrap it ready for the DC to give to me. I do this for birthdays and Christmas too

This.....box ticked.

Just don't bother. It would be perhaps different if your kid was actively aware it was Father's day and wanted your help but really this type of emotional labour or compassion is no longer your baggage to carry. Forget it completely.