To ask if anyone else felt a defined point where nights out no longer interested them

[lucadore]

I used to love going out for drinks but less so these days as we’re growing up, we hope to start a family later this year but I feel like naturally my mindset is shifting from nights out to it not really being my scene and preferring nights in. Did anyone else get this in their twenties or am I ancient before my time lol?

Me! It’s just of no interest to me now really. But my friend had her kids young and now all she wants is for us to go on nights out that she missed in her early twenties

Much more into afternoon drinking these days!

At least before I was pregnant, having a few glasses from 2-6pm, then picking somewhere for dinner, home by 8... Perfect.

We went on holiday with the in laws and it was murder. They wanted to be up and drinking til midnight every night, music and games etc. Fun enough, but no variety (and I got judgy pants by the end, because MIL put away over a bottle a night every night, plus what she drank at lunch).

Had a night out with a few mum friends and I was gagging to go home whilst they enjoyed the freedom!

V excited that the baby will mean a cast iron get out for nights for the next couple of years.

After my second baby, so around 27. I just can’t be assed. I’ve done all my partying. I much prefer a few ciders in a beer garden bow on a sunny afternoon. I went out a few weeks ago for a friends birthday and the realisation that we were that group of embarrassing mums in our late 20’s early 30’s really hit.

Probably about 25 when we lived in Bath for a year and could go for a nice afternoon pint/brunch on foot, without being knackered and hungover.

I still have a big work night away once a year, but otherwise I don't go past mildly tipsy now!

Not yet and I'm 35. It just isn't every weekend now that I'm a parent.

I was never in and still went clubbing in my 30's ,i do look younger so didn't feel out of place ,but now i hate going out ,my fellow clubber best friend is the same and our going out consists of early dinner and hopefully home by 8.
I don't drink and hate todays music ,i confess to being a boring fart and i'm at my happiest in a garden centre ,my own garden and pottering at home.
I wouldn't say no to time travelling back to my youth for a wild night in a club though ! - just the once .

Do you mean nights out to pubs and bars where the only focus is drinking?

Because I’m very interested in nights out at 40. My nights out are going to shows, clubs, quizzes, going out for dinners, nights out with others that share specific hobbies where the chat and focus is all on that, puzzle nights, nights out with friends stargazing and summer picnics, evening meet ups for long walks or to go running with maybe a drink after. Playing games, being active, using my brain, eating and drinking all feature.

I have nights out more often than nights in.

28 when I met DH I felt I CBA with going out any more. Realises I had just been man hunting

Yes. It was one works evening party thing and I just thought what even is this?!

Early 40's,I'd happily never go on a night out again.

I still enjoy it tbh. Even after having my first DC. But only once a month or so.

Me and DP prefer day drinking when we get the opportunity. Head out about 2/3 and be home for 9. Have a few drinks at home and food. Fresh the next day.

Currently 29 weeks with DC2, so nights out are a distant memory.

Can’t wait for that sip of wine next lol!

Good luck on your TTC journey when it comes 💐

I went out a few weeks ago for a friends birthday and the realisation that we were that group of embarrassing mums in our late 20’s early 30’s really hit.

I don't get this. I mean if you don't enjoy clubbing that's absolutely fine, don't do it.

But it's unfair to dismiss a group of women in their 20's and 30's as "embarrassing mums"! If they are enjoying it, let them be.

You don't have to criticise them if they are 80 years old and keen to go out for a few drinks and a boogie, and 30's to me seems a very standard age to still enjoy this. Not every 30 something, but plenty.

It’s a bit tragic to feel this way in your twenties. Life’s for living. Get out there and enjoy it. Plenty of time to put your feet up with a hot drink. When you’re ninety.

I think I stopped wanting to go out at night around the same time I had my last child aged 32. I’m now 42 and would happily never go out in the evening again. I spent my teens and 20s being a wild child and staying up till 3/4am or even later (earlier!) doing all sorts and feel I’ve definitely done that stage of my life now.

You have a few fallow years when you have babies and young children then you get your vibe back!

But different people enjoy different things. I'm in my 20s and love pottering around my house, gardening and running. I've never enjoyed clubbing but I still enjoy life

I started getting into day drinking in my late 20s, many years before babies came along. I much prefer to go to bed at a reasonable hour and sleep through the hangover. Fallow years is right!

Since when was going out getting wankered the only way to enjoy life though 😐

I’m 45 and I still like to go out - you don’t get older and just have no social life. I see friends, go for meals, festivals, cinema etc. There’s not a point where you’re meant to transition to sitting in for the rest of your life!

I definitely don't go out as much as I used to but I do enjoy a night out now and again. I don't find the idea of a nightclub and 3am cheesy chips overly appealing (although I still think getting ready with friends and having a few pre drinks was often the best part of the night!); but like having dinner, going to a bar for a cocktail and then maybe onto somewhere with decent music. There are definitely some places I avoid as I'd be the oldest by about 15 years and feel out of place, maybe we are fortunate around here though but there are plenty of places with people in their 20s/30s/40s/50s and no one is bothered!

Nothing wrong with not enjoying going out anymore though if you don't.

Yeah, I don't think it's age related as much as the amount but as someone who did a lot of drinking/dancing with groups of mates, by my late twenties I just had this feeling that a night out like that had not much new to offer anymore. I wanted new experiences.

In my 50s and still like to go out.

Not clubbing though - theatre, quizzes, book group, walks along the Thames, dinners, cinema...

I’m 50 and love going out. I was away for a friend’s birthday last night and have something planned for most weekends - holiday, girls weekend away, lunch then a few drinks in town, another birthday party. I love it.

@Thinkwicebeforeyouleavemylife who mentioned getting wankered? Only you! 🤷‍♀️

I’m 55, love going out. Pub, bar, theatre, cinema, dinner, round friends, seeing a band or a comic, to the match (football). I’ve done my staying in when kids were young. Now they’ve flown the nest I’m out and about enjoying myself.

Still love to go out and I'm in my 30s. At one point in my 20s when I had little babies I stopped enjoying it, probably because I was chronically exhausted. But now they're all a bit older and actually sleep etc. I enjoy it again.