To ask if anyone else felt a defined point where nights out no longer interested them

[lucadore]

I used to love going out for drinks but less so these days as we’re growing up, we hope to start a family later this year but I feel like naturally my mindset is shifting from nights out to it not really being my scene and preferring nights in. Did anyone else get this in their twenties or am I ancient before my time lol?

I am late 40's I go out but it's got to be worth it. The theatre a good restaurant, a film or a gig I really want to see, I am all over it, getting mindlessly drunk much less so. I like my mornings, my clear head and my running too much.

I’m 50 and still haven’t gone off nights out.

I'm early 50s and if there were places for people of my age to have a drink and go out dancing (to 'our' music) I'd do it occasionally. I love big birthday/wedding parties with a DJ.

Mid 40s here and still love a proper full on night out with bars, clubs, and getting home at 6am.

I don’t do it as frequently though as I did in my youth, mainly as it takes it out of me a bit! But also as I think with age you are more comfortable with saying you’ll happily miss things if you’d just rather head home- there’s a lot of FOMO when you’re young and more insecure I think.

I also don’t have kids.

Apologies, not getting wankered then, but it's really unkind to call someone 'a bit tragic'just because they're maybe introverted and prefer their own company. Both approaches are valid and I found that comment really mean and narrow minded.

I love going out with friends. Can’t do as often now, but try and go once a month. We all earn more money now so tend to do fancy dinners and bars (can still be late finish, but more 1am rather than 6am!). Most of us our parents and it hasn’t really changed anything.

Around my 33rd birthday. Had an amazing night out but ever since all I want is to be home by 9, cuddle up with DH, watch a good film, exercise, be healthy and have a really great night sleep. Have pretty much given up drinking too with no effort.

Never. Love it. I'm 42. Husband is 58. He's recovering from a stroke at the minute bit once he's better we will be back out in the pubs listening to bands and getting wankered.

Agree with this. My kids are 11,13 and 15 and myself and DH have got our vibe back over the last couple of years after been too knackered and having no childcare to actually ever go out. Loving our days/nights out now.

Haven’t stopped yet at 45. But I value my friends!

Unless your friends are vampires, you can value them during daylight hours.

One of the things I like best about the decline of nights out is the ability to have actual conversations.

Im 40 and I enjoy a good night out or in!
I dont like clubs, and havent for a good decade or 2, but dinner and drinks? Count me in!
Not even a month ago I left the house at nearly midnight to go meet up with some friends at a bar, then we went to someones house, and didnt get home until 7am!
I dont do it often, but I do enjoy it!
However, I do go out for dinner several times a week, and by some standards that would be considered a night out, as I never get home before midnight/1am!

I find that quite sad. I’m early fifties and I have still not lost my love of going out, Gigs, big concerts, festivals, lunch,dinner, nights away. We often take the young adult kids with us too. I think it’s fine to be home if you like it, but variety and socialising with friends I find key.

I got to this stage in my early 30s when ready to start a family. Mine are teens now. I'm 49, on HRT and loving getting my social life back. Was out Friday, Saturday and Sunday listening to live music. Pub bands to stadium rock, love it all. I can't see me stopping. My dancing days are numbered due to arthritis so I'm going for it while I still can.

I'm late 30s and not developed a desire to stay in pottering about every night! I'm not a big "get drunk" drinker but I love seeing friends for dinner and a couple of drinks or doing things like cinema/theatre/gigs/wine tastings etc. I'd get a bit bored snuggling up watching box sets or staying home every night/weekend. Young kids and lack of evening childcare means it's not a constant thing as otherwise I'd never see DH so we do end up staying in together a fair bit too but not really through choice. We've always loved live music so when the kids are older we'll be out doing that again.

I also found the "sad mums in our 20s/30s" comment unnecessarily mean. Socialise (or not!) however suits you but you don't need to put others down.

It was gradual for me. I was a bit of a party animal but it slowed down (slowly) . I didn't have a child until 35 and then I lost all interest in partying.

For me it was probably about 25 I think when my career really started to take off and weekends became too precious to be hungover. Prior to that age the hangovers never used to really affect me then hit 25 and was like hitting a brick wall!

I don't think it's an age thing. More stage of life. I'm 38, 2 years younger than a PP but I can't stay up til 7am then look after a 4 year old for 13 hours, nor regularly sleep 1am - 5.30am, when he wakes up, then go to work.

I was still enjoying nights out in my early- mid thirties but I also spent most of my 20’s married so once I divorced I got to party for few years!

I’m the same age and there’s loads of events for people our age to go dancing with like minded others.

I love music and dancing - though it takes longer to recover these days. I do actually prefer an afternoon/airy evening session now rather than a late night.

The 40+ soul/dance music scene is big business nowadays with promotors realising there’s a big audience for it. Depending where you live, they’re events on every weekend.

Dunno maybe about late 30s for me. Now I’m nearly 46 and girls nights out, going from pub to pub, non stop drinking, out with the galsss fills me with horror.

i don’t mind the odd night out, went out on fri to a local cricket club where my dd had her football presentation and was able to sit down and have a few drinks in peace and then have no queue for a taxi as I only live half a mile away. Was home by half ten 😂

Aged 50+ I went to a big weekend dance event earlier in the year where the vast majority were over 40 (and at least half over 50) which was 3 days and nights of big name house and soul djs going on til 6am Friday and Saturday.

Personally I was a raver in the late 80’s and 90’s and never stopped loving house music - I don’t care if I’m a sad mum - our motto is rave to the grave

Dont write yourself off - the baby / young child age is a phase of life that passes I see some parents settle into that then they seem quite surprised the kids grow up and they need to adapt to that too.

Had a fantastic weekend with friends at a dance festival with our mid teens who couldn’t go if we hadn’t gone too. They had a ball as did we.

I prefer a leisurely Sunday roast with a bottle of wine out to a Fri/Sat night out these days. But will still take the night out if offered.

50 and go out loads - no longer clubbing til the early hours but love going out for dinner, drinks, gigs, theatre, meeting friends etc. We actually probably go out more now we don’t need babysitters.