To ask if anyone else felt a defined point where nights out no longer interested them

[lucadore]

I used to love going out for drinks but less so these days as we’re growing up, we hope to start a family later this year but I feel like naturally my mindset is shifting from nights out to it not really being my scene and preferring nights in. Did anyone else get this in their twenties or am I ancient before my time lol?

Maybe not getting wankered, but those of us who are introverts get just as enjoyment out of being at home and pottering around in our safe spaces. There's nothing' tragic' about it at all and there's all manner of reasons why ppl might prefer being at home

I'm 41 and DH is 51.... we both still love nights out.
I'm hoping that we always will!

No. I've never stopped. I love getting dressed up and going out. Did it all through being pregnant (without the drinking alcohol obvs), having children, and after. Where we go now differs, no more clubs, but still go into our city centre, just to different places. Home a lot earlier too.

I love long lunches with a glass of wine and a cocktail then home and evening on sofa in my pj's.
20
Years ago I was out Thu, Fri and sat night pinning and clubbing!

*pubbing and clubbing' I mean !

Early 30s for me. I was defintely influenced by my boyfriend, now DH, as he is not a big drinker/clubber. But I think it would have come around not much later anyway. I CBA. Like a lot on this thread much prefer day time socialising/drinking.

My fave thing to do is go out for dinner with my bestie (she is child free) and then head back to hers for a sleep over. The pjs come straight on and we chat, listen to music, what shit telly, eat crap etc. My absolute fave thing to do, you couldnt pay me in my best cocktails all night to swap that for a night of clubbing.

I’ve never enjoyed clubbing or pubs much but I do enjoy eating out at a nice restaurant, go to see live music or comedy or theatre. I don’t do these things much recently because Covid then had 2 kids who are still young so I’m enjoying that for now and I’ll get back to going out in the evening when they’re older.

Wow if you think a group of mums in their 20s and 30s is embarrassing on a night out, I don't know what you would make of my friendship group in our 50s and 60s!

Maybe not getting wankered, but those of us who are introverts get just as enjoyment out of being at home and pottering around in our safe spaces. There's nothing' tragic' about it at all and there's all manner of reasons why ppl might prefer being at home

@Thinkwicebeforeyouleavemylife you don’t understand what an introvert is do you

I'm 44 & still occasionally love to go clubbing. Not cool person clubbing but I like to just dance and not care....it sort of relaxes me to just shake off all the grown up responsibilities for a couple of hours.

I stopped this year, age 49. I never thought it would happen. I think covid showed me that staying in could be good though, not my age.

Yes I do thank you. But I understand there's different types of introvert! 😊

Proper out clubbing wearing next to nothing getting pissed in the pub and then going to the club at 11 and staying out till the birds start singing (god, remember that feeling! No point in going to bed!) - 30 ish.

Then almost overnight decided i couldn't be arsed with the standing around, being cold, getting cabs, sore feet, yelling at each other over the music and the hang over the next day.

I had a brief resurgence of being out v late and getting pissed when courting DH(2) in late 30s but once and since we got a place of our own we've hardly gone out in the evening at all (15 years) 😂

I think I realised when I was about 15 that I didn't enjoy "nights out". I am definitely much more of a daytime person. The type of things I enjoy doing generally don't take place in the evening.
I was dragged along to various pubs by friends in my 20s - a couple of times to go clubbing. I was essentially bored out of my mind.
(I do like going to the cinema and theatre but I would rather go in the afternoon)

I think this is very true.

I'm 54 - I still like a night out but enjoy a more relaxed vibe - meals, theatre, quiet pubs. I REALLY love being invisable too.

Invisible even

I'm 40s and love a night out, as do my parents in their 70s.

I can't remember the exact moment. I had my first child when I was 23 and definitely didn't have many nights out after that.

But are we talking pubs and clubs? I'm late 30s now and definitely not into nights out drinking. Don't mind a meal, cinema, theatre, evening walk, takeaway with family (does going to their house count)?

Definitely more of an evening in early night person.

I had plenty of years in my late 20s and early 30s where I had small children and a night out was a very rare thing. They are still quite rare in my 50s but I love when they happen and I'm in the mood for them because I have no ties now. When I'm in the right form I love letting my hair down.

That’s great. I didn’t say it’s tragic. But that’s not what everyone wants as soon as they hit 30. The op asked if that’s how everyone felt, I answered that no, it’s not how I feel. You don’t have to get wankered to go out and have a good time. One of my very favourite things to do is go alone to a museum for instance.

I stopped quite early at 21 - weirdly when I started uni! I think it's because I felt uncomfortable going out drinking with strangers in a new city. By the time I finished uni at 24 I was just done with it so didn't revert to going back out again

At about 7 months pregnant, at 34

When I had my last DC at 39. Since then I really CBA. Had a big night for my 40th but other than that I'd rather stay in or go for brunch/afternoon tea etc

By the time I was about 30