To be annoyed by a note left on my car?

[isabellaboo]

I went to pick my children up from their nannies in the evening. The street they live on is on a bend and on one side of the bend is two houses with two drives so you can't park there, the bend in front of MIL house has room to park but is always full as there are no drives for this area, as you follow the road around there are two streets where there is space on the road and most of these houses also have drives.

For context I'd had to park quite far down from the house I was actually going too but made sure not to block any drive or any house opposites drive. I left my car half on the pavement half off the pavement so if had a pram they could fit through. Didn't think anything of it as there were literally no other parking spaces and there was a car just opposite me on the other side of the road or else I would of gone there.

When I've come back (I'd been 30 minutes max) As I've been driving a piece of paper has come up my windscreen nearly flying into my vision, so when I've gotten home I've looked and there's a snobby not telling me to be more considerate. Absolutely baffled. I hadn't parked diagonally or in anyway I would find offensive in the slightest, was blocking no one in. I pay road tax and it's not private property.

I have young children and I'm pregnant so this has really rubbed me up the wrong way as I had to park a fair walk from my MIL in the first place.

I don't understand why leave a note and not just come and speak to me in person ( even though I honestly can't see what I did wrong) I understand it's annoying to have people park in front of your house as I live on a public street but that's life.

It's really wound me up. I know most of it is probably pregnancy hormones but AIBU to be annoyed by this? Or would this annoy anyone else.

Just needed a little vent.

YABU. You DO NOT ever park on the pavement
you mY have left room for a pram, but would a wheelchair user get through? What about those you are blind, why do they need to negotiate your car! It’s dangerous if you want to cross the road

added to which pavements are not made for the weight of cars

sorry just find somewhere else and if that means walking further tough

and there's a snobby not telling me to be more considerate. Absolutely baffled.

Why are you baffled? You parked on the pavement. Totally inconsiderate. The pavement is not for your car. YABU and entitled.

And actually you're even more unreasonable to not look at your windscreen before driving off.

Have you ever been to a place which is not wide roads and leafy suburbs?

Would you walk 25mins to get to where you're going, then the same back again with bags, toddlers, a buggy and SPD? OP did not break the law (unless in central London) and seems to have left space on the pavement for pedestrians.

Perhaps @isabellaboo should have stayed in the car and called mil to walk the children to her if she's struggling that much? She could then have moved if someone needed to get by (road or pavement).

Just looking down my street now and yup 7 cars parked part on the pavement? Same as usual. We HAVE to do that here. People may die if there's a fire and they don't. And it's fine saying park somewhere else but where? The next road over? Can't do that, that's exactly the same. If houses just had one car then yes, it should be possible but there are so many HMOs and for some reason all the students come and decide they each need a car.

And even the council vans do it it is like an unwritten rule of this area

”there's a snobby not telling me to be more considerate. Absolutely baffled.”

You know that, technically, you shouldn’t park on the pavement and you definitely were inconsiderate. That isn’t an huge deal though. You didn’t park in her lounge or anything!!
Appreciate the road is narrow but you aren’t meant to park on pavements so you take the risk you get the occasional note on your windscreen. 💁🏻‍♀️ The note woman isn’t wrong. Not saying you are either but don’t know why you’d be baffled, given you know people aren’t meant to park on pavements.

You clearly are ignorant, and lacking in imagination.

I know about the pavement but this street is virtually impossible to park on unless you go onto the pavement.

Hmm, if you have to park on the pavement so cars can safely pass then there isn’t room to park, however inconvenient that is for you. As for the author of the note not engaging in conversation, why the hell should they, you were in the wrong!

Your post mainly refers to considering other cars and pushchairs but what about mobility scooters, wheelchairs and the visually impaired, those on crutches?

I can’t imagine an in-person conversation going well. You don’t seem remotely apologetic and keep defending the parking decision. Would you have done that with a person to spoke to you as well?

you did have the option to drive further or to circle until a legal space opened up closer. You made a choice to park illegally. You didn’t end up with a fine, berated in person, or your car damaged. All you got as a consequence was a note.

Even in a leafy suburb, there are lots of roads not wide enough, including in lot of new build estates (since they would have tried to squeeze in as many houses as possible). Hilarious that people are so hung up about it (when it has already been said it wasn't blocking anything) that they are now talking about whether the pavement can take the weight! Have yet to see pot holes on pavements 🤣

Yep Always check for passive aggressive notes attached to your vehicle before mirror signal and manoeuvre. 😂

Can't tell if you're being facetious about my comment?

As part of a defensive driving course I was taught to always check my vehicle after being parked up. DDad drummed it into us too as learners 🤷

Don't park on the pavement. It's for people, not cars.

I bet there weren’t any pedestrians, buggies, wheelchairs, scooters or people on crutches. This was a stop and pick up which took thirty minutes in the evening in a dead end road.

Op wasn’t blocking a dropped curb or blocking the wide pavement for wheel chair access.
What’s with all the irate posts calling her a law breaker?

Some posters are literally fuming with rage

You mean the road with a care home and old peoples accomodation is unlikely to have residents with mobility issues living there?

Disabled people are allowed out in the evening you know

Why couldn’t you have picked up the kids and called MIL later? 30 minutes isn’t exactly dashing in and out.

I used to live on a street where all the cars parked down both sides of the road half up on the pavement. Apparently because people would die because a fire engine couldn’t get down the street if all the cars parked on the road.

im perfectly able-bodied, but walk everywhere and am usually carrying stuff. Even when I wasn’t, it could still be a painful walk because of bumping into wing mirrors, dodging car owners opening car doors without looking. I used to have duck and weave on the pavement. It is not unreasonable for pedestrians to have full use of the pavement, which is not the road.

Basically car owners behaving like inconsiderate fuckers, like the OP shouldn’t be driving if they can’t park properly.

All the supermarket delivery vans bump their wheels up the curb where I live.

interestingly I’ve never seen a resident come out of their house and call the driver an inconsiderate fucker and suggest he parks legally twenty minutes away because they’re happy to walk home with their shopping

You’re being unnecessarily horrible to someone you don’t know on the internet. Does it make you feel big and clever?

No one (several thousand people) parks in your version of parking utopia around here. It wouldn’t be possible. We live in a very urban area full of narrow Victorian terraced streets right on top of the city centre and absolutely nowhere near anywhere else to put the car other than half on, half off the pavement. You’re the one lacking in imagination if you can’t see how your ideals aren’t always realistic.

Leave this OP alone, she’s pregnant with SPD and you should switch on your nice switch and cut your horribleness out. If you aren’t capable of that, just shut up.

Whats really unreasonable is to join hundreds of other angry people wanting to hurl abuse at a woman on a chat forum who parked wrongly.

Directing all your anger at every car driver that’s annoyed you onto one random online poster? It’s everything wrong with social media. No wonder we’re experiencing a mental health epidemic.

I don’t mind a heated debate but this is shit.

Try pushing an adult in a full width wheelchair around for a couple of days, and maybe you'll understand why folk might be hacked-off with you obstructing the pavement.