To be annoyed by a note left on my car?

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I went to pick my children up from their nannies in the evening. The street they live on is on a bend and on one side of the bend is two houses with two drives so you can't park there, the bend in front of MIL house has room to park but is always full as there are no drives for this area, as you follow the road around there are two streets where there is space on the road and most of these houses also have drives.

For context I'd had to park quite far down from the house I was actually going too but made sure not to block any drive or any house opposites drive. I left my car half on the pavement half off the pavement so if had a pram they could fit through. Didn't think anything of it as there were literally no other parking spaces and there was a car just opposite me on the other side of the road or else I would of gone there.

When I've come back (I'd been 30 minutes max) As I've been driving a piece of paper has come up my windscreen nearly flying into my vision, so when I've gotten home I've looked and there's a snobby not telling me to be more considerate. Absolutely baffled. I hadn't parked diagonally or in anyway I would find offensive in the slightest, was blocking no one in. I pay road tax and it's not private property.

I have young children and I'm pregnant so this has really rubbed me up the wrong way as I had to park a fair walk from my MIL in the first place.

I don't understand why leave a note and not just come and speak to me in person ( even though I honestly can't see what I did wrong) I understand it's annoying to have people park in front of your house as I live on a public street but that's life.

It's really wound me up. I know most of it is probably pregnancy hormones but AIBU to be annoyed by this? Or would this annoy anyone else.

Just needed a little vent.

Haha I'm lying in bed with my daughter in the dark or else I would post a diagram ! Sorry !!

Those saying sometimes you have to park on the pavement otherwise the road would be blocked - you need to park elsewhere! You can’t park half on a pavement and you can’t block a road so you need to go somewhere else to park.

Depends how much space you left.
If DD2 in her very heavy motorised wheelchair we can’t safely go down a kerb and have to use dropped kerbs; sometimes we end up traipsing down roads, actually on the road, which is dangerous, because cars and vans are parked on the pavement so we have to reverse to the nearest dropped kerb and then go on the road until we can pick up another dropped kerb to get back on the pavement.
To say it’s a pain is an understatement.
Double buggies are massive so must have similar problems (without the having to reverse complication).

There is a cf near my dm house too. She places letter, then followed by a car. She has even taken the wiper off dbro car and placed it on the screen. There is no recording of this, but she admitted to it while screaming profanities at him.

She don't like people parking near her house. Even though dm lives four doors down, she don't even want dm car close by.

Dm decided and tells everyone to avoid parking there, to make her (dm) life easier. Having a crazy neighbour is hard enough, park a bit further down is what she says.

That's what I'm saying in some areas where I live there is nowhere else to park you'd be like 3 miles away from your house. If everyone was limited to one car per household there might be a chance

Our road is full of parked cars like this and most of the adjoining residential roads.

Cars park as considerately as possible with two wheels on the pavement edge.

Its either that or get your wing mirrors smashed off by cars swerving the 50 million gigantic potholes and block delivery vans or ambulances trying to pass through.

People are being a little pious about it breaching the Highway Code.

You parked on the pavement, which is not ideal. Highway code advises against. Fines in some areas, and various countries going so far as criminalise (including Scotland in near future). It's inconsiderate to various groups of pavement users and in some cases completely prevents groups (like wheelchair users) from accessing their local surroundings.

And someone put a note on your windscreen as a result.

Actions have consequences, I guess. If you don't care for the consequences make a mental note not to repeat.

Everything else (your reasons, why they left a note rather than speaking with you etc) is over thinking a really simple relationship.

This is what this road is like! But if I only had two wheels the edge the car would be blocking the road. Especially as there's cars scattered everywhere on the street and drives all over the place. The pavement is wider than average the road is more narrow. It's so bizarre.

When I had a visit from the police for doing the same, he said, Were you parked on …. road earlier today?
I said, er yes.
He said, I don’t care and off he went.

Yes this. You can be annoyed but you were still in the wrong.

if everyone parked fully on the road it would be a nightmare for anyone trying to just drive down the road Yeah, fuck the pedestrians, as long as the cars can get through without any issues.

The note was correct, you were inconsiderate and seem to have a 'cars first' attitude.

OP mumsnet loves to quote the highway code 🤣
In reality people park on pavements everywhere.
In my area it's totally normal as there is still enough pavement for pedestrians/double buggies to get past and the roads are narrow so it's safer that way for both the drivers and parked cars.

Look you parked as considerately as you could in the circumstances I think.

Some built up streets are incredibly difficult to park in and parking fully on the road could have serious consequences if an emergency vehicle can’t pass through.

A rude note left on your car can feel oddly personal and aggressive can’t it?

Why is the fact you have children and are pregnant relevant to the fact you parked badly - neither of those facts get you a free pass.

Maybe the person who wrote the note objected to someone parking in front of their house.

Maybe they objected to your specific parking job. We'll never know.

But don't do all the self-justifying backstory. All anyone else cares about is whether you are legally parked (and it sounds like you were not). They don't look at your car on the pavement and take your life story into consideration.

Half on pavement very normal where I am - have had some colleagues get tickets because they haven’t parked in the marked bays, which are marked half on/half off pavement. No chance an ambulance could get down some of the roads if this wasn’t the case. I guess each borough/county is different.

As said previously I have SPD which makes it difficult to walk distances if I had not parked where I had I would of had to park about 10-15 minutes away from MIL house, as the street leads off onto a double roundabout. That is why I parked there. I also have young children and they were tired so it would of been a struggle to wrangle them a 10-15 minute walk to the car.

This is very unnecessarily rude.

OP, you have to half park on the pavement on my road. Everyone does it, including the qualified driving instructor, because there is no choice. If we didn’t park half on the pavement on both sides of the road, no traffic could come down the road at all.

I don’t know where all these solely parking on the road posters are, they certainly don’t live locally to me.

I’d have a giggle at the woman sticking notes on people’s cars and get on with my day.

@WhatAmIDoingWrong123 I didn't really think I needed to be called stupid or entitled as I am far from it. Funny how people make assumptions like that from one post you've made.

It's just a very difficult road. I don't know how many times I can't state the pavement is wide and the road is narrow. I'm not saying it's right to pavement park. Everyone on the street pavement parks. You would block the entire road if you parked fully in the road. There is also a care home and older peoples accommodation to take into account and often ambulances squeezing through. I left as much room as a I could on either side to allow for pedestrians, buggies etc without stopping strategic.

The street is a bend and then goes onto two double roundabouts so you can't park elsewhere unless you want a 10-15 minute walk which as I've said I have SPD so I'm struggling with my pelvis.

I won't be parking near her house again

Can you put a photo of the note on here? Or tell us what it said?

Just for amusement purposes.

I wonder if this woman has a template letter she uses for every car that parks in “her” bit of road?

@WhatAmIDoingWrong123 stopping traffic that is supposed to say 🤦🏻‍♀️

I think they must all live in places with nice wide roads and no other cars

I bet it wasnt a wheelchair user, will of been a put out neighbour with their pen and paper 🤣

People who park on the pavement are just plain selfish. Blocking a safe route for the disabled and prams.

YABU for parking on the pavement