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Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive

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Restaurantlover · 22/05/2023 15:10

Have had to nc as incredibly outing.

I enquired about a blossom tree installation in my restaurant, someone got back to me with a quote and I said great what’s his timescales. He let me know a date and I told him it would be suitable but nothing yet agreed.
Next thing I know he says he requires a 50% deposit because he’s ordered the blossom for the tree.
I never asked him to order the blossom, never agreed that the work would actually be done and certainly didn’t agree to give him 50% upfront.

I’ve had to block him as he is continuously ringing and messaging me and is just being plain nasty, to both my husband and I.

I think he’s gone a step too far with this Facebook post though, the reference to scrubbing korma pans and polishing shoes just gets to me, I feel he’s being racist, we have an Indian restaurant but I don’t actually go/work there so he’s obviously made that up to be spiteful.

Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive
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bellac11 · 22/05/2023 19:48

And he's got a husky. Say no more.

Hugasauras · 22/05/2023 19:48

PRMachine · 22/05/2023 19:43

I chose several quotes. It didn’t come up for me.

Nice that nobody has outed him here yet. Though I would have loved a nosy!

He gave his own business name in his first post. You won't find anything on FB now as it's deleted (wonder why).

Skidmark123 · 22/05/2023 19:49

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GeraltsBathtub · 22/05/2023 19:48

So you’ve given up the pretence of not being racist now then @Skidmark123 ?

Yes hopefully the other racists on the thread can see it now, even if they won’t admit it.

danceyourselfdizzy1 · 22/05/2023 19:49

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I'm sure some of the usual suspect PP's will be along in a minute to claim this bloke isn't a racist piece of shit.

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 19:49

OP, don't forget to let HMRC know about this.

By the way, what the fuck is up with those photos? Does he actually sell trees with computer-generated red smears all over them?

SpeckledlyHen · 22/05/2023 19:49

SecretSwirrel · 22/05/2023 19:24

Also 8K for a fake blossom tree????

even the OP said she had quotes for 12k so this was competitive pricing

mrschocolatte · 22/05/2023 19:49

Redebs · 22/05/2023 19:48

No mow May?

I found out this was a thing today!

Spreadbed · 22/05/2023 19:49

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This is truly disgusting.

Butchyrestingface · 22/05/2023 19:49

greylad · 22/05/2023 19:47

Sounds like you agreed the work and you owe him money.

PS you can read your name on the FB post…

You're not read the full thread, have you?

InBeautifulKindWays · 22/05/2023 19:50

How to throw away your business in an evening. What a dick.

PRMachine · 22/05/2023 19:50

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Btw you need to work on your spelling and grammar if you are operating a business. Just trying to help.

Lwrenagain · 22/05/2023 19:50

Skidmark by name, skidmark by nature.

You'll find only the most racist of gobshites use the phrase, "the race card".
Absolute twattish thing to say.

Ineedtoloseweightnow · 22/05/2023 19:51

Intarestine · 22/05/2023 18:26

This is why I love mumsnet. The ability to change names and try to hide away from these online sleuths. Most of them will say they hate the name changing feature for some other reason but it's so they can go digging and trawling through information at will. They have a lot of time on their hands.

It’s crazy! I love the name changing because if i posted about x,y and z i’m pretty sure someone in real life would identify me. I can’t be the only person at work who loves reading on here!

Jaxhog · 22/05/2023 19:51

Racist or not, he appears to be posting a pack of lies (which is borderline libelous). I wouldn't do business with someone who is this irrational.

(And yes, I agree it is racist)

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 19:52

I'm sorry for everything you're going through, OP, but I actually find this thread rather glorious. People usually show their arses by mistake. This guy's stripping and spreading under a neon light, with foghorns. I've never seen anything like it. HMRC will have, though...

808Kate1 · 22/05/2023 19:53

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The man that claims he's "god fearing" is telling everyone else to get a helmet and stop being offended? I've heard it all now.

Btw, I hope you're OK @Restaurantlover

Lwrenagain · 22/05/2023 19:54

Just seen the faulty balti comment.

What a comedy genius, can't believe this guy makes fake trees and isn't a regular panelist on "have I got news for you".

ohnonowwhat · 22/05/2023 19:54

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MumUndone · 22/05/2023 19:55

This whole thing sounds bonkers but his post is racist, yes.

vitahelp · 22/05/2023 19:55

This guys making a right show of himself, cringing..

DarrellRiversCriminalBehaviourOrder · 22/05/2023 19:55

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I think we've just found the second most self-embarrassing poster on this thread.

Ammez · 22/05/2023 19:55

Wow, Skidmark AKA Daniel Carter has also left the restaurant a fake bad review on Google too!

Is this incredibly racist or am I being sensitive
kokeshidolls · 22/05/2023 19:56

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Are you serious? So you think that using the phrase “scrubbing the jerk chicken pans” wouldn’t be racist when it’s irrelevant in the context of discussing a Jamaican restaurant?

Redebs · 22/05/2023 19:56

PRMachine · 22/05/2023 19:49

Yes hopefully the other racists on the thread can see it now, even if they won’t admit it.

From the OP's posts it wasn't certain that he was being racist. It was only when he came on to 'defend ' himself, that it became more likely.

Please don't go round calling people racist for doubting a one-sided account of an incident.

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