AIBU for refusing to go for a walk

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But of background here, I (f36) have a few health issues, mental health issues which means I’m agoraphobic, it’s not so bad when I’m forced out somewhere like work (I work full time shift work) or somewhere I have to take the kids (I have two young ones under 10) but when I have no ‘reason’ it can be bad.
I also have physical health concerns, I’m in pain most of the time, albeit mild for the majority of the time. Walking too far hurts both my hips and my back and the pain can last for days. I’ve even just bought special pillows for my heck and hips to try and reduce the everyday pain.

Leaving my house on my day off is basically the very last thing I want to do.
My husband (m35) is a bit of a fitness nut, he will take our eldest on hikes for miles, they did 10 miles once (keep in mind my eldest is only 8 now and youngest is 4)

We live a couple of miles from a nice lake and he’s been asking for the last year for us all to go on a walk to his area, im always saying no.
We just had an argument about it, he doesn’t want us all sitting inside watching screens on a nice spring day (we’re in the uk) and thinks it’s unfair he takes the kids out on long walks alone but he just can’t understand why I’m always saying no.
AIBU here?

Speak to your GP and arrange to take painkillers before your walk. I have hip pain (osteoarthritis) and still take big walks with the DC. I usually take painkillers before I set off.

Another idea if you prefer not to take painkillers, go a very local walk. That way you are participating in an outdoors activity with your family.

It doesn't have to be all or nothing - surely your DH can see that 🤷

Telling people the truth and not pandering to them?

Dress it up whatever way you like but every single one of your posts is nasty, not one supportive one among them, speaks volumes.

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Ahhh no you are, just had a look at all your other comments on other posts and they are all of the same vein. Nasty. Carry on spreading your vitriol, you must get something out of it.

Telling people the truth and not pandering to them?

Ahhh ok, didn't realise you were a psychiatrist. You must know best then.

This is why we have a nation of people not able to sit an exam due to anxiety, not able to work due to mental health issues, not able to do a week in work without needing time off because people have been pandered to.

I think the thing is, the less you do, the harder it becomes so you really need to push yourself to maintain what physical health you do have. I have early onset arthritis and can be in agony some days but force myself to keep active despite the pain to try and slow the progression of it. Plus I think being active is a vital life lesson we to model to our children and lead by example on. So, with kindness, I do think you are being a bit unreasonable…it would probably be a lovely thing and more enjoyable for everyone for you all to go as an entire family unit.

Did I say I was a psychiatrist? Checks posts no I didn't.

Are you getting help for your agoraphobia? It's not fair on your family to miss out on family experiences or to leave it all to dad if you're not trying to address the problem....and hard to understand if you can do it for work but not for them.

Wow. What an insult to anyone suffering from mental health issues. man up eh?
Like I said. Vile.

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@widowtwankywashroom

Wow, you're a horrific person.
Please stay off my post, you very clearly have nothing to add, any further replies from you would be just trolling.

I do think a lot of people are pandered to.

A lot of people are arseholes...but here we are.

This is a public site, you don't get to choose who comments and who doesn't.

So why the screen time comment?

It's a troll bonanza on here tonight.

This is why we have a nation of people not able to sit an exam due to anxiety, not able to work due to mental health issues, not able to do a week in work without needing time off because people have been pandered to

This is so damaging to anyone suffering from anxiety and mental health issues...... they are pandered to because they have a mental health issue? Disgusting comment.

It’s likely that exercise is the very best thing you could do to ease your aches and pains.

If you can go everywhere except out with your husband and kids for a walk, that isn't agoraphobia. You are taking your kids to 3 different sports activities and sitting in a gym or at a field with people multiple days a week.

You would go for this walk if you wanted to, but you don't want to.

What a strange way to phrase a question to me about my own father 😂

No, he was very 'helpful' in many ways. He's 91 now and was what would be considered a 'modern man' even by today's standards.

That’s very sad for your children. Have you had exposure therapy? You & your children are missing out on so much.

Depends if walking is still good for your physical health or not? I know it brings you pain which is obviously horrible but I think you should make the effort now and again if you can.

I think you are being unreasonable to not at least try and see how you get on.

If he's like this with you, watch out for your kids. Do they want to be doing these 10 mile hikes or are they scared dad will kick off? Don't let him make your kids feel like they have to do ridiculous things for him. Sounds like he needs some friends!

YABU. Sorry. I know it’s hard but this isn’t fair.