To be really annoyed he plans to let them use my room?

[MySpace19]

I'm currently away dealing with some family stuff and DH is at home.

Just need to add here that me and DH have separate bedrooms and have done practically since the start. We just sleep so much better in our own beds and it works for us (no affect on sex life, marriage is fine etc).

He let slip during a phone call tonight that he's told his DC that they can have multiple friends over for a sleepover on Saturday night and that they plan to use my room (bigger than said DCs).

This would also mean them sleeping in my bed and using my room all night and I'm just really not happy about it and DH thinks I'm being unreasonable and doesn't think it matters and thinks I'm just being awkward.

I've told DH I don't want a load of teenagers in my room and bed and have told him they can sleep in his if he's offering up anyone's room but he thinks I'm terribly unreasonable for making a fuss about it.

AIBU to not want a load of random teens sleeping in my room and bed and using it as a hang out all night? I can't explain it very well but it just makes me uncomfortable and I'm not happy about it, I'd never have been allowed to use my parents room like this when I was a child.

(DH doesn't want them to use his as he has a set up in there for TV etc. he uses).

It would be a no from me... and a keyed lock would be on the room as soon as I got back. Whether they used it or.not this time as he has shown he cannot be trusted.

If you get home and they’ve used your room you drop your bag in dhs room and it along with his precious tv are yours until your room is restored to perfection. It’s really disrespectful. Ask him if you need to put a lock on your room in your own house because he refuses to respect your space, while at the same time insisting his is special and different.

When my kids have bigger sleepovers they’ll all sleep in the living room on a couple of sofas/blow up beds/mattresses dragged from their room. It’s part of the fun. Would that work? No way in a million years would I want a pile of teenagers sleeping in my room.

His set up sounds ideal for the teenagers. Agree with pp that he should be giving up his room and sleeping in yours.

You don't need a reason to ask for people to stay out of your room.
State that you trust DH to make sure the door is shut and the kids stay out.

Back up with idea of them using the living room or all in the child's room (and having fewer guests if need be).

If you need to speak directly to the DC then do so.
Would the DC like it if you asked four people over to stay in their room?

They should all understand, if they respect their own privacy.
Another option could be a tent outside.

I don’t think so at all, he’s made the choice he can give up his room.

Lazy fuck can’t be arsed to unplug a tv and shift it but expects you to have random strange boys sleeping in your private space? I’d be having a big console / game bonfire when I come home.

If you have time, could you arrange for a tradesman to go in to put a lock on your door,(probably with a fax message to show your husband the instructions to give him access)) then tradesman to lock it and post the key to you? Far fetched I know, but an idea stop his little game. Or threaten him with divorce.

tell him you've secret cameras set up and everything that happens will be streamed live to your phone

My son had a load of mates staying over when I was away, older than teen. He used my room and let his mates sleep in his. I know it's not the same scenario, but he knew I wouldn't want random people I didn't know in my room.

So did you resolve this @MySpace19 ?