Size 16 but don't feel I look it

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I have put on weight the past few years so have completely avoided dating. However, I recently joined OLD and have a date tomorrow night.

Absolutely terrified what he will think of me. I've always had body dysmorphia, am never able to have a clear idea of how big/small I am or if I'm ugly or pretty. I just view myself as fat and ugly no matter what size I am or what I do to my face.

I am 5 foot 3 and about 14 stone (maybe a bit under) and size 16 bottom and size 14 top.

Can you advise if I look my weight/size or much bigger? Am I fat? Is this something I should warn my date about?

I'm genuinely thinking about pulling out but then don't want to be alone forever

Excuse the messy room and unmatching socks

You’re fine. Enjoy the date!

You look lovely, go and enjoy yourself!

I’m the same height and weight as you and you look smaller than me. I have a big belly which I hate. Even if you did look big it wouldn’t be anything to warn your dates about! That would be strange.

I don’t know about what size you are. I certainly wouldn’t think you were ‘fat’. Many women wear clothes far too big for them as well, so you may well not be a size 16. Go on the date, you absolutely don’t need to warn him about anything! Have fun, I hope he’s a good one

Why 9mon earth would you 'warn' a date about your weight?
Go, have fun and enjoy

I'm similar height, weigh slightly less, wear 16 top and bottom.
It's not what size you are that matters, it's how confident you come across so try to stop worrying about it. If you keep stressing yourself neither of you will enjoy the date but it won't be because he thinks anything of your looks!

You don't look bigger than a 12 to me, not that it matters anyway, I'd love to have your legs!

You look lovely. I'm a size 14 and 12 stone and I think I probably look bigger than you tbh! It's not about the number on the scales, it's about height and build too.

Regardless though. Your weight isn't important.

Your figure is lovely. Go on your date!

You look lovely OP and certainly don't look like a traditional size 16 at all!

I’m 5’8 and weigh the same as you, I look 10x bigger than you! Go and have fun, don’t worry about it at all.

It might just be good pictures/angle though. Worried I look much bigger in real life. My face is really fat.

Make sure you wear matching socks! 😉 Enjoy your date.

Unless you've claimed to be a lot thinner I can't see why it would be something you need to 'warn' your date about?

No idea, how could anyone tell from those photos? Either way, it is absolutely no business of your date unless you have lied about it.

Don’t bring your date back to that messy bedroom, he will run for the hills 😂

Hope you had fun.

You look great op. Maybe tidy up if you’re bringing him back😆

I don’t think you look fat at all.

I do want to tidy your bedroom and make your bed though. I love folding laundry 😂

You look lovely, and I'm sure he will think so too. You look much slimmer than me, and I'm a few stone lighter! I would have guessed you were a size 12 from your pictures. Hope you have a lovely time ☺️

Blimey- I'm your height and weight and I def look bigger than that - you look lovely and totally normal- !! I bet you are pretty too -

You look lovely and I like your wallpaper.

What did you put when it comes to weight or size? Because if you chose the right one, then you've done all you need to do to be upfront. Also do you have this sort of picture showing your size? That should give a good indication.

You look great. I'm size 16 too, but wie talk and I don't think I look fat, but I also struggle to look at myself objectively sometimes. I used to ask my ex "am I as far as her?" if we passed someone in the street because I've genuinely no idea.

I'm getting a key cut for you!