to expect friends to pronounce my DS name correctly?

[bebespain]

This is starting to really piss brass me off. Despite me making it clear how DS name should be pronounced I still have 2 friends who continue to mispronounce it. I wouldn´t mind but its not that difficult

Neither of them I see that often but even so I think its rude and disrespectful and it really annoys me.

AIBU?

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Irene is definitely Eye-reen where I'm from.

DD has one of those "sounds nothing like how it's written" Irish names which caused endless grief in England but here in Oz people just say "I haven't got a clue how to pronounce that" to which I reply "I wouldn't expect you to, it's x". Sorted"

My sentments exactly Trolleydolly

I have read with interest all your posts and experiences - thanks all

My maiden name was polish it is spell SLIWA it is pronounced SLEEE-VAA. It cracks me up to watch people try to pronounce it or spell it.

Can you imagine the problems the Germans had trying to pronounce my maiden name, MacGillivray.

Not to mention that they never understood why the G was a capital G not g.

I used to get letters addressed to Frau Gillivray Mac.

My daughters name is Naomi, and gets pronounced by various people in all different ways;

Nigh-omi
Nay-omi
Nee-omi
Name-ee

I don't really mind how people pronounce it, although my original intention was the Nay way, but partner says the Nigh way and daughter calls herself Nee-omi. I will leave it to her to decide, and she will probably spend her whole life correcting people, poor thing.

I think they're just embarrased. Brits are like that. Even when saying merci in france, my dad still syas morsee in a major Geordie accent.

However...

One thing that does annoy me..my sons name is Thom (pronounced Tom/short for Thomas), and everybody in our family know it has the H. It's not me being pretentious or trying to make a common name unusual, it's because I named him after somebody called THom.

I don't mind when people who don't know the spelling write "Tom", that is understandable.

However, my inlaws REFUSE to put the H in it. My son always says when he reads cards, "That's not my name there's no H", so I just tell him that they can't write properly.

LOL at TREBUCHET´S Dad

at your in-laws tigerlily...

Funny thing is even when I introduced DS in a new setting with said culprits present, and putting great emphasis on how his name is pronounced they still bloomin´ well do it - arrrggghh

Hi Bebespain..

I live in Spain too and LOVE the name félix!Was on the list for DS.

I have to say though I am terrible at this. My partner is called Rubèn and when I'm speaking English to him I always say Rooben (iykwim) It's just because it rolls off the tongue that way in English. Obviously I pronounce it the Spanish way when speaking Spanish. Isn't that why you chose the name, because it would be relatively easy in both languages? We chose a name that is really difficult for the Spaniish for my DS but i'm sure it'll be character buliding for him! (poor DS!!)

So i suppose I think YAB a bit U!!

Oooh I have exactly this and it drives me mad! dh is French, dd has French name so IMO nothing weird about that. Yes it's unusual but there is nothing complicated about it, and yet sooooo many people mispronounce it. It is very very annoying and makes me want to mispronounce everyone's name even if they are called Bob.

Hi Lokka - you make a very good point and I understand completely that English people are going to say Felix the English way especially when they see it written down - that doesn´t bother me but I do think that when I explain to friends they should respect my wishes...they may as well call DS Frank at Rooben!!

I have a Caleb who people insist on calling CAL (rhyme with AL)-EB or Cay-lem or Callum. He was even down at the hairdressers today as Eliead, despite me actually spelling his name over the telephone.

Psycho, Jacob just isn't a Jake! he doesn't look like a Jake! We have similar with Alex, he is just Alex but people seem to e=want to call him Alexander.

Also one of my twin nephews is Lucas and even his paternal grandparents call him Luke. My sister has said many a time 'If I wanted him to be called Luke, that is what I'd have named him, but he is Lucas!' He corrects them now too. He isn't a Luke and definately a Lucas!

thankyou squirdle next time aunty comes visiting maybe you can come too and also pointedly do the 'he's NOT jake,HE IS JACOB!!!!!!'

oooh, have been meaning to ring/text to arrange coffee/lunch/visiting........
when you free? are you free anytime???

as for the OP......am of the opinion that anyone who is ignorant enough to ignore names and requests to pronounce properly should have their toes stomped!!

I have a slightly weird name and I really don't care how people pronounce or spell it, so long as they give it a go. But I absolutely hate it when people attempt to shorten it. I don't care that it's easier because one shortening is also used for a much more common name (well actually I probably do ), I just think that if I introduce myself as "x" then that's what I want to be called!

Bebespain, it sounds like I'm in the same situation as you, (live in Spain, Spanish dh) (but no dcs yet), and we're agonising over this issue as we think of baby names. I think it's important for both languages to be able to pronounce the name right (as you can with Felix,) but some friends have gone with the 'anything goes' approach. I think it would make me grrrrrrr.

Hunker, a guy I know was on the bus once and he overheard two women talking;
Woman 1: So what did you call the baby?
Woman 2: Wivany
Woman 1: That's lovely, where did you get that
name?
Woman 2: Out of a book
Woman 1: How do you spell it?
Woman 2:

Y-V-O-N- N-E

I think I have said this before, but a person I know called her son Guy, she pronouces it .... GOOEY!

I don't know anyone called Nathan but I HATE it when people say nay-the-an rather than naythn. If that makes sense. Like they're saying the 'than'. It really frustrates me!!!!!

No! No! chipmonkey!!! Tell me you're joking.

Unfortunately not, Bridie!

tbh, I think it's an intuitive thing...and you are stating the exact reason of why we tried very very hard to find names that have to be pronounced in exactly the same way in german and english...that was the sort of confusion wanted to avoid!

rofl at chipmonkey's post...that i so funny and my mind boggles how anyone could make Yvonne sound like Wivany- Vivian, maybe, but not Yvonne, lol