to expect friends to pronounce my DS name correctly?

[bebespain]

This is starting to really piss brass me off. Despite me making it clear how DS name should be pronounced I still have 2 friends who continue to mispronounce it. I wouldn´t mind but its not that difficult

Neither of them I see that often but even so I think its rude and disrespectful and it really annoys me.

AIBU?

I think you are being a littel hard too - my firned (japanese) gave her DS a japanese name and an Enlgish name - the Enlgish use one and the Japanese the other. She didn;t expect either to cope with the other (if you see what I mean). It might sound confusing but it works just fine.

LOL YKNOTC!!

Maybe I should chill out about it all...but
I know would always make an effort to pronounce a name correctly and would be mortified if I didn´t!

Thanks for the input

I sympathise but not much you can do about it!
My name(Sonia) is always mispronounced as Son-YA when it should be pronounced SON-ee-a. Only my parents and my dad's family(all Spanish) pronounce it correctly. Also it is often misspelt with a y, even if i've already spelt it out! Never thought that my name was that rare.
Still I just don't think it's worth getting stressed about!

I think that it can be difficult to get the difference between your Fell-ix and Feel-ix. Sometimes you just do not hear the difference in a different language.

DH is German and pronounces Sally wrong, when we were reading a book I corrected him and he said that he could not hear the difference. He also finds it difficult to differenciate between Greg and Craig. It is not unusual to not be able to hear the differences, and if you cannot hear them then you cannot pronounce the name right.

When DD was born, MIL said, that is too difficult but BIL intervened and said that since I had given up my lovely Scottish name, then the least MIL could do is learn how to pronounce DD's name.

She learnt! Still calls me Loon rather than Lynn though

This reminds me a bit of a Thai girl I worked with once. I tried to pronounce her name right. I really, really did. But I could not hear the difference between what I was saying and what she was saying.

I think the difference between Fell-ix and Fee-lix is a bit easier to manage, but remember how terribly self-conscious British people are at 'putting on' a foreign accent. It's what I love about my ds's spanih speaking. He is utterly unself-conscious about mimicking exactly what his teacher say, whereas I do tend to anglicise every sound .

she might be calling you "Loon" for a reason though, you just think its a mispronounciation...

TheFallenMadonna - that reminds me of a Swedish friend at university called Klaus. I really wanted to pronounce his name properly ratehr than do the usual anglicised "clawse". Conversation went

Swedish friend "Klaaahs"
Kewcumber "Klaaahs"
Swedish friend "No Klaaahs"
Kewcumber "Klaaaaahs"
Swedish friend "No Klaaahs"
Kewcumber "Klaahs"
Swedish friend "No Klaaahs"
Kewcumber "AAAAAAAAAARGH"

Kewcumber

It went exactly like that, only with Juuumm substituting for Klaaas, which made it sound like I was imitating fat moving traffic

fast moving traffic

Kewcumber

I had the same thing with DH trying to pronounce Buche (Beech)

DH: Buche

KS: Büche

DH: No without the Umlaut, Buche

KS: Büche

DH: No Umlaut. BUCHE

KS: BÜCHE

DH fell off bike laughing

TheFallenMadonna - such a good point, I´m sure you´re right about Brits and the foreign accent thing

LOL at Kewcumber!

Ds is called Fraser and a few of my friends often call him Frasier!!

Someone I used to know did this with DS1's name.

If I said his name, then she'd do that irritating thing of saying his name in her very next sentence, very specifically saying it in her wrong way and pausing to look at me, as if she was teaching me how to say it!

That´s exactly what gets to me Hunkermunker as I feel that´s what´s happening in our situation almost like they know best

what a lovely name bebespain - my ds used to go to La Jolie Ronde french classes and his teacher would pronounce all their names as French which was ;lovely as ds's works really well frenchified...ds came home pronouncing the names in a French accent too

I once knew an Italian girl called Aurora. She said that my English pronunciation of her name wasn't her name so could I please say it the Italian way.

Short answer: no, I couldn't.

I really tried. People laughed at me.

She wasn't that nice anyway.

Similar problem here. My French ILs have never pronounced our DD's name correctly. It's not difficult - all her French friends, teachers and most other people get it right but her grandparents and some other family members don't. We're past caring, DD doesn't notice any more. It's not worth it.

FWIW, we have an Austrian friend called Felix, pronounced Fay-lix. I prefer it said that way

there is quite abig difference between Felix and Félix. Have you explained to them that it is Félix, and it isn't your accent mispronouncing Felix?

I'm sure most of the people who hear my son's name jsut assume it is my accent and so say it how it appears. His name is Ravi - so everybody says RAV-i. It is pronounced RUV-i. with a 'uh' sound like in butter. I was tempted to spell it with a u, but then I realsied he'd probably just get called rue-vi.

Thanks MaryAnnSingleton

I agree with you chopster and maybe I need to make things clearer for them...

Even worse was another friend who had her own take on DS name and insisted on pronouncing it fell - eeks. Where she got that from I´ll never know...

Well when my son was 8 weeks old and went into hospital, i said his name. and then when i checked his notes. I found they had put Megan down

My SON is called Morgan. and even DH said i pronounced it right, and although all in blue, they thought he was a female. Go figure.

Then there is my little girl, all my friends can spell and pronounce her name right, yet our family (besides my dad and step mom) can not spell her name or say it properly. Her name is Kya. Fair enough saying it might be a bit weird at first if you havent heard me say it. But how is the spelling hard. We have had Khaya, Khya, Kia, Kai-ya, Keia and many more.

Her name is pronounced the same as Fire, Wire, Liar, Dryer, Flier.

What drives me nuts the most is, though she is 7months old and we have told the same people over and over that it is not pronounced that way. etc. They still go and ask why we are naming are kids after cars. We have Morgan, which i believe is an old car. and then they think our girl is like the car KIA. ummmmmm no. yet everytime we see these ppl they still ask us the same question. Well you can all guess what i said to DH when we were upgrading our car to summet bigger, and he suggested the KIA range. Its so infuriating and I feel for anyone who has all this hassle just because of a name. I am advising my children to give their children boring, simple, non-confusing names, like Bert/Bob/Dave/Karen/Edna etc (no offensive to anyone with these names, just what i cud think of)

And i have problems with my name. My dad decided to call me Stefanie. And the amount of people who put PH in it. I dont mind as the PH is more common than F. But then i think if u spell things how it sounds then yes it should be spelt with an F. The amount of people I have scared when shouting 'nope thats not how you spell my name'

I have now concluded, that if any1 says a name to u, always ask how it is correctly pronounced and spelt. as i bet one day even the name Bert or Edna will have some weird spelling and pronounciation. lol.

I work in a chocolate shop where it involves icing onto chocolate models/plaques. and i ask how to spell each name. I laugh when people respond with the answer 'the normal way' and then i have to stand there and spell out all forms of that name.

I knew, when we gave ds a Swedish name, that my MIL would never be able to pronounce it. Turned out she couldn't remember it either, so we ended up giving him a nickname that she could remember. Better than having your son known as Borg, anyway.

At school and with their English friends, both my dc's are used to having their names pronounced in an English way. Comes with being bilingual. Not even dh can pronounce my name properly- he gave up trying many years ago.

Friend of MIL apparently told all her friends and family they were mispronouncing dd's name and correcting them. Would have been nice if she'd chosen the right pronunciation...

My DD's name is often spelt wrong. We spell it Mollie, and it drives me mad when family members and coser firends (or something from school even) comes home with Molly instead - she is nearly 6, they should know by now!