Being induced tomorrow, baby has stopped growing

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Posting for traffic, I don't know if I need a handhold, to hear others stories of similar or just to offload my anxiety.

38 weeks and 2 days, went for a growth scan today and to my shock, they've asked me to go home and get stuff ready and be back in for 10am tomorrow for induction.

Reason for scans throughout is history of 13 miscarriages, covid in pregnancy and a previous low lying placenta (had moved up at 36 week scan).

Baby hasn't grown much if at all since 2 weeks ago, they sent me up to ward for monitoring and baby's movements and heart rate are fine, my fluid is fine but my placenta has more or less stopped working. Blood flow and oxygen okay.

I was due to be induced on due date, thought I'd have some time to prepare myself and relax but I'm in a tizz now. We've got everything and babies bag and mine is ready to go but I feel so rushed and unprepared now 😢

I'm worried about about her, they've put her estimated weight at 6lb but advised me to grab some tiny baby clothes if I hadn't already so we made a last minute trip to Asda tonight for those, just bought 8 vests and 8 babygrows in case she's bigger than expected.

They will be using the rods and see how I get on but I'm so scared all of a sudden.

Any words or wisdom or advice? Thank you x

Love to you all. Hope everything is well.

Hope you are now cuddling your girlie …what a marathon you have had to go through.X

Bless you. I hope all is going well.

Still no baby.

I had another check and apparently I'm 2cm so they can break my waters, they are reluctant to C-Section as I've progressed 🙄 now I'm in a queue waiting for a room in delivery to become available. I'm number 2 in the queue and have been since midday. I think I'm actually slightly going insane.

I've never walked so many stairs/around a car park/up and down Hospital corridors! Nothing prepared me for how emotional I'd be bumping into the women who I came in with, on their way out of hospital with their baby. I'm gutted. And scared. And sore.

That sounds really bad, I mean I'm thrilled for them and their beautiful healthy babies but I'm gutted for me that I'm still here.

Induction can suck. Mine took 5 days from start to finish and in the end I got to 10cm dilated and had an EMCS anyhow - wish I'd just had the c-section. If that's on the table for you now; I'd take it. The emotional and physical toll it takes is immense. I was near breakdown point before they broke my waters.

And I get the insane feeling, I had a full on breakdown and the head of midwifery had to come see me as I was about to go home. Kept getting told I'd be taken through, we're really busy, yet others were coming and going. I was losing my mind.

Oh bless you OP

It sounds similar to my induction. If they offer you a section I would absolutely take it.

I remember that mind blowing exhaustion only too well

Sending you support and hugs

Oh poor you, OP - that is physically tiring and emotional and I’m so sorry it’s taking so long.

Listen, they absolutely CAN give you a section if you insist you are done. They might be ‘reluctant’ but you can insist.

Sending you many positive thoughts.

Remind your DH that his job is to advocate for you. It’s not ‘making a fuss’, it’s insisting on you getting the right treatment.

Oh @MaryPoppinsHat I feel for you. With my first DS I watched the other mums come and go.

Went into labour with my first, contractions started, waters broke, but didn’t dilate. Admitted on Monday, lots of stair walking, pethedine, pessary, no progress. Eventually, on Thursday morning, the midwife realised it wasn’t his head but his shoulder presenting (I’m still irrationally annoyed 20 years later that they didn’t spot this sooner) so it was an ECMS for me. Once they’re here you (mostly) forget all about it.

Hope your labour goes well and you’re cuddling your wee one before very much longer.

I feel for you! 2 weeks ago I was in your position, no 1 priority for induction due to waters leaking, and other women on the ward going into labour ahead of me. I was waiting 36 hours in total, and couldn't stop crying.

Suddenly it was my turn, I ended up having my waters broken at 2cm, went into labour, so no drip, and my daughter was born 2 hours later. Hopefully you will be holding your baby very soon xx

Oh I can relate, op. I was waiting 42 hrs for a delivery suite with my induction and was "next in line" the entire time! More pressing cases just kept arriving and it was so so demoralising.

I as at 5cm due to a foley bulb, but no natural contractions so low priority. In the end the midwife broke my waters on the induction ward to bump me up the queue.

Hopefully you get to the delivery suite soon. Nothing is forever. Your precious little one will be here before you know it. 💛

Hang on in there OP. You’ve done bloody brilliantly so far. Induction always takes so long. Not long now compared to the days you’ve already had. Soon you will be holding your beautiful baby

Quite. When the ward staff were being dismissive and kept fobbing us off, mine phoned the CEO of the hospital, hence the head of midwifery appeared.

Hang on in there!

Push for a c-section! They can't say no, they can discourage you, explain the risks and 'advise' you against it but you do have a choice.
You have been induced due to concern around your baby, you have spend days attempting to kick-start labour and you've had intrusive attempts at that.
If you want a c-section you can refuse any further induction techniques.
I'm sorry you're having this experience, it's really not a pleasant experience. If your body was ready to labour, you would be in labour by now. The pethidine has stopped the forced contractions once, progressing to 2cm with the attempts they've used isn't an acceptable reason to say you must carry on.

Or this is your body's way of saying you don't need a section and baby will be out shortly in their own time.

Do what you want OP. You know your body. If you're already exhausted, will you still have the energy to push this baby out after labour at this point? Or do you feel ready to labour if you can?

They may not like to do a c-section but they will, they have to. You can refuse to let them break your waters and insist on c-section instead.

It doesn't matter how you give birth, it doesn't matter how long it takes to get there. What's important is that you and baby are healthy.

My first came naturally at 39 weeks 2 days and my second was delivered at 39 weeks to the day. There can’t be much in 5 days. I’m sure your baby will be just perfect.

Take the c-section OP. You’ll be knackered! Look forward to baby news.

I think it's disgraceful that you haven't been given a c section at this point given the reasons for inducing you in the first place

Take the C Section!

I would also recommend you push for a C section if that's something you want. I'm still grateful for my EMCS. I wasn't even 2cm dilated, no contractions, 'failed induction' which actually consisted of not much trying due to staff shortages and lack of bed space. I dread to think how long I would have been waiting to have my baby on induction, I was tired and fed up and hadn't gone through as much as you. I ended up with a EMCS due to fetal distress (baby was absolutely fine thankfully) and it was absolutely the best outcome I could have hoped for.

Honestly I'd generally try to avoid a section but your situation has got EMCS written all over it. Your body and baby don't seem to be keen on labour starting any time soon and you must be knackered already. Don't put yourself through endless interventions to get more exhausted and probably end up with a section anyway, you'll have to recover from both then.

Best of luck to you OP