To wonder what happens to men that can’t stay faithful

[Biscuits1011]

I’m just wondering. Some men just always treat their partners like crap. Wether it be cheating, lying, or just plain horrible. I’m not talking about domestic abuse as such, but more men who just keep cheating and lying. Eventually the woman they are with will have enough and leave… does he just keep finding new women? Do they actually end up alone? Will they ever be happy? I’m just thinking out loud I think. Obviously it applies to some women too.

Well, not all women leave, for one thing. And not all men who prefer serial sexual encounters actually partner up or marry -- I can think of a couple I know who recognise this isn't for them, and continue to lead an independent life.

From my experience of dating one of this type, they lie & cheat then just move on to the next woman. It’s kinda sad and pathetic.

One former work colleague was a serial shagger, couldn’t keep it in his pants for five minutes. He is quite poorly now so not a catch by any means. Once he became ill he couldn’t be the pathetic aging lothario anymore. Had to move up north to be near his daughter who looks after him now.

I think eventually they just end up sad and alone 🤷‍♀️

In my dad's case he is now an alcoholic living with his brother who beats him up. Neither of them are in touch with their children.

In my experience, they end up with women who don’t want to be single and will put up with shitty behaviour as long as they have a partner/sperm donor.

Lots of women just put up with it so they carry on shagging around. Then they get to about 60 and realise they’d better stop shagging about or they’ll end up having no one to wash their boxer shorts.

They become the sleazy letch who lives either on his own or with a desperate woman, and end up miserable, smelly and avoided like the plague

Mine ended up sad and lonely in a bed sit.

I know of one who had actually left his wife for the affair partner, then he got terminal cancer and went back to his wife who nursed him for months as he was dying. So he half kept his marriage vows I suppose- in (his own) sickness but not in health.

More like the affair partner kicked him out
And he had nowhere else to go

They end up alone.

the one I know is 60 and in a flat share with kids scattered all over the place. Still thinks he’s god 😂

Well my ex married the woman he cheated with, has cheated on her multiple times when he was visiting where we live to see the kids, I mentioned once that I knew and he went and blocked me and the kids and has had no contact with them for about 5 years to save his new wife finding out. He had previously told me he was only with her for an easy life as she only has two kids (we have more) and that his new wife is really good at cleaning, and that made his life so much easier.

So ime they marry the first mug who will have them, still cheat, and do everything in their power to prevent themselves from getting caught, including totally abandoning their own kids.

I know a guy who cheated on two partners. Now he is happily coupled up with another woman. He is approaching late fifties now so probably not so many options in terms of getting his leg over. It's sickening though as he is so happy even after all the pain he has caused.

If they can't persuade a desparate woman to live with them then yeah, they just end up sad and alone - usually the reality starts kicking in when they reach 60 and have a "oh fuck what I have done" moment.

Seems to depend how much money they have depressingly.

They carry on until they age out, somewhere in their 50s. If they're lucky enough to be with a partner when the music stops that unfortunate women gets landed with the prize.

This is such a weird question - there are as many answers as there are serial cheats.

Some end up happily married / coupled up, some end up alone. Some never wanted to be partnered up and are happy alone, some aren't. Some just keep on in the same pattern of cheating, others don't. Some are happy and/or healthy, some are not.

Some carry on way past their 50s, desperate to prove to themselves just how irresistible they are. Know of one, still 'dating' multiple women. Lives in a rented flat. High earner but wife kicked him out.

Same as everyone else I imagine. Some will be happy, some less so. Some will regret their previous actions, others won’t give a shit.

a lot of people are wedded to the idea that people get what they deserve in the end, despite all evidence to the contrary. Bad and good things happen to bad and good people alike.

I know two and have similar views of both.

1. My first real love. I was heartbroken at 20. 48 now and he seems to catapult between relationships with long bouts of depression in between, three children between different women. Actually a very nice well liked guy generally, but spends too much time indulging in self pity to sort himself and his behaviours out. It’s quite sad and I am so glad I dodged that bullet.
2. Greek lethario, I’ve known for donkey’s years. Had a relationship with my friend a couple of times across a few years. Text book holiday romance serial adulterer with the tourists. Still does it and it is very cringe now. Wallows a lot about how my friend was his one true love. I think there’s some truth to this, but she was a smart woman (now happily married).

Both seem to have a desire to hang out with much younger people (20s) and cut quite sad figures. Despite everything I am still fond of them both, but I suppose if they were asking people to describe them, “fond” is not a word they’d be hoping people would say!

This is my Dad, cheated on my Mum repeatedly throughout their marriage. When she'd finally had enough (about 20 years in) he started working abroad as a sailing instructor, and travelling the world.

There were a succession of women. The one that dropped him as soon as my Mum split up with him, the nutty hippy one, the 27 year old Croatian lady who was younger than me, and the Canadian lady who he got on great with every summer, and then they'd split up every time he followed her back to Canada for the winter.

20 years later, he's finally settled down. He's back in his home town, living with a woman who has absolutely no time for his bullshit. She's great, an ex pub landlady who will happily kick him out the moment he wrongs her. He still goes out to Portugal for 8 weeks every summer, I suppose he could be screwing around while he's out there but I reckon he's probably done this time. I think he's lonely, he's desperately trying to rebuild relationships with me, my brother and my daughter. We keep him at arm's length though, he's hurt too many people we care about to have more than a surface level relationship with.

Either end up with women who need some guidance on empowerment or sad, lonely, miserable old men who die alone.

They go and find another woman to cheat on/abuse/use.
These types always, always, find a new person to use.

I suppose a lot of different circs but I worked in a 'old man pubs' for a while as a youngun. There were a lot of 'old men with broken teeth, stranded without love' who would be in every night living quite lonely lives, grown up kids not having much to do with them, women no longer interested in their patter, previous partnerships sabotaged. I suppose it can depend on whether they meet someone willing to put up with their shagging around for whatever reason, and if not, how long they maintain their health/ looks/ charm. A lot of these oldies had aged out of it as their attitudes and beliefs around women were stuck in the 70s. They were actually interesting to talk to and I don't think intended to not be the settling down types forever, they'd just never really examined their own behaviour.

I know one who's 83, divorced his first wife, second wife died and all the various affairs he's had in between.

He seems irresistible to certain women and currently has another one on the go who he lined up before his last wife died, although she is a bit younger than him.

He picks women for their money if that's any help.

Leopards don't change their spots, they just usually run out of options.