To wonder what happens to men that can’t stay faithful

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I’m just wondering. Some men just always treat their partners like crap. Wether it be cheating, lying, or just plain horrible. I’m not talking about domestic abuse as such, but more men who just keep cheating and lying. Eventually the woman they are with will have enough and leave… does he just keep finding new women? Do they actually end up alone? Will they ever be happy? I’m just thinking out loud I think. Obviously it applies to some women too.

@Gloriousgardener11 omg do you know my Dad? Same situation except now he is the one with the money and has even more options.

My husband has just left. He had an affair 16 years ago and he's now left me for another. He's 52, she's 36. I genuinely think she'll ditch him, esp when she realises his mental health is just awful and his ED will definitely return as he hasn't addressed the cause. I have a sneaky suspicion she's already ditched him but that's not confirmed. He has a crap job and needs a replacement hip. He's going to be a lonely old man. He's very handsome though, I'm not just saying that, it's often commented on. It may mean he'll manage to get some one with low self esteem.

Sometimes they stay married, because the wife either dosent know or dosent care.

Wow thank you for all the replies it’s interesting to read.

This is pretty horrible. He needs a replacement hip. So do lots of people, but once it's done, he'll be as right as rain again.
Don't understand why your knocking him for needing a hip. We all might need a hip replacement one day.

In my dads case they keep going younger and younger until they get to the point where they have to go abroad to get an even younger women. Typically Thai or in my dads case Russian. They then get rinsed of all their money and end up sad and alone.

Spectacularly missing the point

@girlfriend44 I'm not knocking him, I've been the one to support him through all of his operations. I've been an ever loving and supportive wife. He now can't afford to get his hip replaced as he has no sick pay at work. Yet she thinks she's getting a better deal than she is. Ffs.

The ones I know have ended up touching 50 & single with Thai "girlfriends".

There is endless people that will find this attractive and believe the cheater is hard done by and misunderstood, it is as old as time

And it's all their exes fault

ExFIL abused MIL and cheated throughout their marriage until MIL died, he then married the woman he groomed as a teenager, now he abuses her and still has affairs - he’s in his 80s, his wife is in her 50s.
The whole set up is weird, he is an awful man but apparently this is attractive to some women. I don’t get it myself, he is vile in every way possible.
He’s not alone though, he has every whim taken care of as he carries on being a disgusting human being.

Yes. The one I wrote about has an adoring and simpering girlfriend who believes her poor little lamb can do no wrong. She feels good as he has made her believe that she is the one he should have been with all along and that she is his 'healer'.
I feel sorry for her to be fair.

A few I used to work with ended up with much younger women they behaved like the cat that had got the cream.....then had babies come along in their late 50s and they looked like a bomb had hit them and they often worked longer hours I think just to stay out of the house!

I did chuckle slightly!

@girlfriend44 Plus I may add, he's left me a year into a menopause I'm really struggling through. After I've supported him unwaveringly through two bouts of depression where he got intense CBT, through a knee op, through a back op and through redundancy and through.... the first sign I need help and he's fucked off with someone 20 years younger than me. To be quite frank, I hope the selfish prick rots!

I know one, ended up broke and homeless at 60, having left a trail of broken relationships in his wake. He seemed to cotton on to the fact that his flirting wasn't as well received now that he was getting older, so he changed tack and settled down with a nice lady and seems quite happy.

He spends a lot of time and effort trying to rebuild (well build in the first place really) a relationship with his children but they aren't particularly interested. But in general he has a pretty nice life, karma hasn't come for him yet.

They become Prime Minister

The ones I know all seem to do just fine. There are more nice forgiving women than nice cheating men. They just find someone to take them on in older age and stick with them, they are not stupid. Often stopped in their tracks by ED, prostate trouble or just CBA as the testosterone dies down. They don't all end up alone though I don't think.

The issue is many of them ruin their relationships with their children. I know my husband is desperate the make it up to our children. He adores them (they're adults), he's always talked of things we'd do yo make sure they stick around and want to spend time with us. All 3 have said they'll never have anything to do with his OW, so he has decimated any chance of family times. Unless, of course, he moves on again.

What's age got to.do with it would it have been any different if she'd been the same age as you or 2 years older or younger.
Age got nothing to do with it.

He dosent have to be able to afford a hip op, he can get it on the nhs.

I recognise this example 🤣

Perfect description 🤣

My exh is on his third wife now. Still cheating (he tried it on with me 🤢), looks unhappy when he drops/fetches DC. Who knows/cares?

@girlfriend44 he needs to pay rent while he's off, he doesn't have any money.
Ffs, are you his new girlfriend or something? We seem overly invested in a cheating scum.

When their willy packs in they get into fishing probably.